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To think benefits need to be cut to fund increased spending on defence

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Viviennemary · 14/06/2026 20:04

This is absolutely necessary. Keir Starmer shouldnt have backed down the last time. But now with the current situation with Russia drastic steps need to be taken. We simply can't afford to sustain the current benefits bill with the armed forces so depleted. The money is needed to increase defence.

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youalright · 14/06/2026 22:24

Comeondoreen · 14/06/2026 22:05

@youalright she didn’t instruct me to quit my job, no. It was phrased much more subtly and she encouraged me to look at specific bits of information that gave me the answer that I’d qualify if I didn’t have my job. I was also not strictly speaking with her in a particularly official capacity, and she also knew me previously - I cba to explain, and I’m sure you will just disbelieve me anyway. But why would I lie? The fact that I would be able to claim UC if I quit my job, due to my child’s age, is readily available to discover online and I’ve since verified it with our situation, assets, and husband’s wage on two of the calculators anyway. If I were lying, I’d surely just say I googled it instead?

Uc doesn't work like that there is nothing you can claim not working that you can't claim working

Curveygirl · 14/06/2026 22:27

youalright · 14/06/2026 22:23

So you don't class a rare congenital condition causing multiple organ failure severly disabled. And thats just my physical health i also have bipolar and bpd. But please carry on telling me how minor my disabilities are I'm all ears

You are less disabled than some other people. That isn't a bad thing, it's just factual.

Kirbert2 · 14/06/2026 22:31

ALovelyPinkUnicorn · 14/06/2026 22:16

But it would provide education and support for the parents, so maybe the next child might not be so disadvantaged? Or is expecting personal responsibility so terrible?

Well, sure start centres largely no longer exist. Certainly not to the extent they used to and with the support they used to offer as they were closed to save money funnily enough.

This is shown to benefit children who would otherwise start school largely behind their peers and close the gaps. It's about the children.

Noras · 14/06/2026 22:35

Bubblefun70 · 14/06/2026 22:05

I agree. My son has AuDHD and an EHCP. He goes to special school for which I am extremely grateful for. I am eligible for mileage allowance from the council as I drive him there in addition to DLA, Blue badge etc. Both me and dad are very fortunate to be in good place financially. We do not need these benefits and do not claim but I am puzzled as to why we are eligible in the first place. Maybe means testing should be introduced ? Should it be extended to the state pension as well....? 🤔

When you discover maybe that you son might have a lifetime of need and work out thst you need to preserve as many pennies as possible to ensure he is provided for ( above and beyond State benefits) then you would be thankful for his qualifying for DLA or PIP.

I used my son’s DLA to pay for 1:1 swimming lessons ( he could not manage group lessons) SALT and Ed psych reports etc. Otherwise this would have come form our funds and reduced them.

So many middle class parents are sacrificing their retirement income to fund deposits so that they have a say where their disabled kids live.Moreover, claiming DLA when the kids are younger ultimately means more in the pot for your disabled adult kid when you die.

I refused to claim DLA for my disabled son until he was aged about 7. His NHS OT advised me to do so as we have a long financially draining road ahead of us. In essence, I put my pride away when I squared up to his lifetime of need.

Perhaps you have not had the 2 am sweat ‘what happens to him when I die? ‘ as yet.

However it’s does wind me up that what appears to be that those with more minor issues of disability can claim. For my son, he won’t be able to work without PA support etc.

youalright · 14/06/2026 22:36

Curveygirl · 14/06/2026 22:27

You are less disabled than some other people. That isn't a bad thing, it's just factual.

So i should be expect to work full time or lose all financial help. How realisticly do you think that would work when I have 7 consultants across 4 trusts that I have to regularly travel to. Im regularly hospitalised I usually have on average 2/3 surgeries a year. Im currently doing a drug trial which is 4 1/2 hours from where I live. So how am I supposed to fit a full time job around that? Also take into account i will die significantly younger then the average person so will never get to retire, never get a pension. But you want to take away my £800 a month pip that pays for my travel to these hospitals bearing in mind prior to getting pip i use to use hospital transport which probably cost the government and NHS more as its incredibly unreliable so I missed half my appointments that had to be rescheduled. Now I get pip im no longer eligible for hospital transport so can you see how taking benefits away from people doesn't actually financially benefit the country

Kirbert2 · 14/06/2026 22:36

Curveygirl · 14/06/2026 22:21

There are people who are so disabled that they cannot work at all- this is what I class as severly disabled.

PIP can help some disabled people work. Some disabled people may not be able to work without it.

littleorangefox · 14/06/2026 22:40

caringcarer · 14/06/2026 20:27

There was simply no need to give UC claimants an above inflation benefit increase. No need to remove 2 child cap. Pensions could drop down to double lock instead of triple lock and PIP should be tightened to only pay money to most disabled and those with ADHD should not get money and those with anxiety or mild depression should be given counselling not money. Bad backs should have scan evidence to claim money. They could up the number of points needed to get higher allowance from 12 to 18. Child benefit should be limited to family income of less than £60k to claim. It shouldn't all be taken from 1 benefit but spread across all benefits and if a person claims pip they shouldn't be given double credit by giving them disability credit on UC as they have PIP for their disability. Carers Allowance is already so low I don't think that can be reduced.

What an absolute pile of pish.

KateSixer · 14/06/2026 22:40

AreYouAGod · 14/06/2026 22:24

This was the beginning of it all going wrong. We acknowledged working full time on low pay wasn’t enough to live on so topped up with benefits rather than forcing businesses to pay proper wages.

It’s suppressed wages at the bottom end. And taught people to rely on the state.

Listen to businesses howl about minimum wage increases.

Most of them are hugely profitable with huge differences between the average worker and the exec team.

Of course they can afford to pay more. They just don’t want to.

Ok. Just think that one through.

Suppose wages are increased.

Employers then pass that extra cost of employing staff through in the prices they charge customers. Prices go up. That drives the overall rate of inflation and cost of living.

Some business can raise prices in response to their costs without too much difficulty because what they do is so essential that everyone needs it.

Some businesses can't. Their customers start importing from China instead. That business closed down. Jobs are lost and the economy suffers.

Or it's a pub or cafe. Wages go up. They try to raise the price of tea and cake. But customers decide to have tea and cake at home instead. The cafe closes. Jobs are lost and the local economy suffers. Another empty shop.

This isn't fiction - it's exactly what the consequences were of the last round of forced increases to the cost of employing people forced through by this incompetent government.

KateSixer · 14/06/2026 22:41

littleorangefox · 14/06/2026 22:40

What an absolute pile of pish.

Why do you say that?

Tunnocksmallow · 14/06/2026 22:42

Oh wonderful, yet another benefit bashing thread on MN. Love it.

let’s go the whole hog and get the work houses back up and running, old style asylums, that used to charge people to come and gawp and laugh at the patients and I dunno, maybe slavery while we’re at it. Really bring back those old fashioned values Great Britain was built on.

Ive already conceded that I’m on limited time anyway because I’m disabled, female and bisexual, with MH illnesses to boot, I just wonder where I’ll be put….

All those on here rubbing their hands with glee at cutting the welfare budget, just remember that not everyone sets out to end up disabled or unable to work for some reason and needing state help. Careful what you wish for.

littleorangefox · 14/06/2026 22:42

KateSixer · 14/06/2026 22:41

Why do you say that?

Because most of it is outdated, incorrect, judgemental assumptions.

Everlore · 14/06/2026 22:45

Curveygirl · 14/06/2026 22:21

There are people who are so disabled that they cannot work at all- this is what I class as severly disabled.

I was born without eyes and with multiple joint deformities. I work full time. I was lucky enough to benefit from graduate employment schemes aimed at disabled people. I need a great deal of specialist equipment, adaptive technology and personal assistance to allow me to get to work and actually do my job while there. Fortunately, I have an employer who is willing and able to accommodate my complex needs and my job is one I can do with the right sort of, very intensive and expensive, support. I know how lucky I am. The sort of roles I could undertake with all the support possible are already very limited, the number of employers equipped to meet my accessibility needs in the workplace is still smaller.
I always thought I was severely disabled but, thanks to your very well-reasoned and articulated opinion, which you have definitely not extracted from your fundamental orifice with absolutely no thought, I have apparently been quite wrong all my life. Thanks for putting me right on the true definition of disability..

Curveygirl · 14/06/2026 22:47

youalright · 14/06/2026 22:36

So i should be expect to work full time or lose all financial help. How realisticly do you think that would work when I have 7 consultants across 4 trusts that I have to regularly travel to. Im regularly hospitalised I usually have on average 2/3 surgeries a year. Im currently doing a drug trial which is 4 1/2 hours from where I live. So how am I supposed to fit a full time job around that? Also take into account i will die significantly younger then the average person so will never get to retire, never get a pension. But you want to take away my £800 a month pip that pays for my travel to these hospitals bearing in mind prior to getting pip i use to use hospital transport which probably cost the government and NHS more as its incredibly unreliable so I missed half my appointments that had to be rescheduled. Now I get pip im no longer eligible for hospital transport so can you see how taking benefits away from people doesn't actually financially benefit the country

I suggested removing the lower rates of pip not the higher or are you not entutled to the higher?

Removing or reducing benefits will always impact on a group of people who were once entitled but then due to the change wouldn't be. Removing lower rates would ensure those with the most need will still get it and are supported. I believe as a society we should support those who cannot support themselves due to the severity of their disability. You can clearly argue online so there is some argument that you could if pushed wfh in an admin or customer service based position for example. You are not completely unable of devoid of useful skills that you could not be employed. You may not like that idea but many people have to take jobs that they don't like to support themselves.

Yes, i believe pip and dla should be looked at and changed. I won't apologise for that. I think other areas of benefits should be also changed as I posted earlier.

Marmalademorning · 14/06/2026 22:47

youalright · 14/06/2026 20:07

If you cut benefits it will just increase government spending in other areas you wouldn't save

Benefits won’t be any good if we get invaded and conquered by the Russians 🙄

spstchmu · 14/06/2026 22:48

Why go after poorer people? Don't believe all you read.

littleorangefox · 14/06/2026 22:48

Everlore · 14/06/2026 22:45

I was born without eyes and with multiple joint deformities. I work full time. I was lucky enough to benefit from graduate employment schemes aimed at disabled people. I need a great deal of specialist equipment, adaptive technology and personal assistance to allow me to get to work and actually do my job while there. Fortunately, I have an employer who is willing and able to accommodate my complex needs and my job is one I can do with the right sort of, very intensive and expensive, support. I know how lucky I am. The sort of roles I could undertake with all the support possible are already very limited, the number of employers equipped to meet my accessibility needs in the workplace is still smaller.
I always thought I was severely disabled but, thanks to your very well-reasoned and articulated opinion, which you have definitely not extracted from your fundamental orifice with absolutely no thought, I have apparently been quite wrong all my life. Thanks for putting me right on the true definition of disability..

I bet you're glad you have strangers on the Internet re-assigning your level of disability based on their small minded personal beliefs rather than any sort of medical evidence or knowledge. Whatever shall you do with your new found freedom??

BoredZelda · 14/06/2026 22:48

Babies not bombs. Any nation that is thinking of making poor people poorer in order to buy weapons to kill poor people overseas, needs to think again.

We need to improve our defences, but taking money from poor and vulnerable people isn’t the way to do it.

youalright · 14/06/2026 22:49

Curveygirl · 14/06/2026 22:47

I suggested removing the lower rates of pip not the higher or are you not entutled to the higher?

Removing or reducing benefits will always impact on a group of people who were once entitled but then due to the change wouldn't be. Removing lower rates would ensure those with the most need will still get it and are supported. I believe as a society we should support those who cannot support themselves due to the severity of their disability. You can clearly argue online so there is some argument that you could if pushed wfh in an admin or customer service based position for example. You are not completely unable of devoid of useful skills that you could not be employed. You may not like that idea but many people have to take jobs that they don't like to support themselves.

Yes, i believe pip and dla should be looked at and changed. I won't apologise for that. I think other areas of benefits should be also changed as I posted earlier.

I have a job please learn to read. Why would I quit my very flexible job that I'm lucky to have to get a wfh job that makes no sense

Curveygirl · 14/06/2026 22:50

Everlore · 14/06/2026 22:45

I was born without eyes and with multiple joint deformities. I work full time. I was lucky enough to benefit from graduate employment schemes aimed at disabled people. I need a great deal of specialist equipment, adaptive technology and personal assistance to allow me to get to work and actually do my job while there. Fortunately, I have an employer who is willing and able to accommodate my complex needs and my job is one I can do with the right sort of, very intensive and expensive, support. I know how lucky I am. The sort of roles I could undertake with all the support possible are already very limited, the number of employers equipped to meet my accessibility needs in the workplace is still smaller.
I always thought I was severely disabled but, thanks to your very well-reasoned and articulated opinion, which you have definitely not extracted from your fundamental orifice with absolutely no thought, I have apparently been quite wrong all my life. Thanks for putting me right on the true definition of disability..

Why do you find it insulting that somebody may be in a worse position than you are and not able to work at all? Ofcourse there are people who are more disabled than you are, that isn't an insult, it's factual.

ALovelyPinkUnicorn · 14/06/2026 22:50

Kirbert2 · 14/06/2026 22:31

Well, sure start centres largely no longer exist. Certainly not to the extent they used to and with the support they used to offer as they were closed to save money funnily enough.

This is shown to benefit children who would otherwise start school largely behind their peers and close the gaps. It's about the children.

Well it’s got to be about the children because their own parents are lazy and negligent who prioritise themselves and what they want above their children. So as long as people know many kids=many money..,

youalright · 14/06/2026 22:51

Marmalademorning · 14/06/2026 22:47

Benefits won’t be any good if we get invaded and conquered by the Russians 🙄

Conquered by the Russians 🤣🤣 they can't even beat Ukraine how do you think they are going to beat all of nato

Tunnocksmallow · 14/06/2026 22:51

ALovelyPinkUnicorn · 14/06/2026 22:08

so why can’t that be a place like surestart where the parents attend? Why does it have to be a nursery setting where the parents drop off?

Erm… because the Tories closed the Sure Start centres as soon as they came back to government after Labour. God forbid the plebs get anything that could help them…

mymumwouldntapprove · 14/06/2026 22:53

Do you realise the number of Forces families who are receiving Universal Credit top-ups?

MyTrivia · 14/06/2026 22:53

Duvetdayneeded · 14/06/2026 20:16

Cut welfare benefits - spot on. Get people back to work. Only genuine cases should get benefits - but it’s become a choice and way of life for way too many. There’s been about a 55% increase in claims this past year also which is ridiculous.

Before writing stuff like this why don’t you educate yourself? Did you receive furlough payments during Covid? If so, perhaps explain why it was ok for you to receive support in your time of need?

If you’re talking about disability benefits then they are very hard to receive and claims have to be backed up with medical evidence. PIP is also not an out of work benefit and it is not means tested.

If claims have increased then that is for several reasons like schools having their budgets cut to the bone since 2010, resulting in children who became damaged by inadequate schooling in massive class sizes which were never a thing. And poor mental health caused by the decline in living standards in the UK and the aftermath of Covid.

Claiming disability benefits is harder to do now, not easier.

Curveygirl · 14/06/2026 22:54

youalright · 14/06/2026 22:49

I have a job please learn to read. Why would I quit my very flexible job that I'm lucky to have to get a wfh job that makes no sense

Maybe you should have read my first post that you responded to beforegetting on your soapbox?

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