AIBU to expect DH to check in during a stag do?

[Loub1987]

I think I am maybe being unreasonable, so actually people telling me that will be helpful.
DH has gone on a stag do for four nights and isn’t doing anything to contact me in the day to see if I’m ok or the kids are.

For reference we have a 3 year old and a 6 year old.

All I’ve really gotten is him occasionally sharing pictures of his food (weird!). I have face timed him once as the kids insisted.

Would you expect your husband or parent of your child to call you to check in while on a trip away?

I would expect at least a “good morning” or “good night” message. If you have kids, I’d definitely expect a check in. I regularly go away without my husband. We’ll always exchange a few messages. If I’m away for more than a few days, I’ll give him a ring every couple of days. I find the no contact at all odd.

Well whereas some stag dos do involve sporting and other activities the vast majority- certainly the ones that feature on MN - are the drinking and cheap sex destination type stag dos. And i'm sure very few stag dos involve no alcohol at all. And if you think otherwise then you are being naive. Perhaps you should look at some of the websites designed to help men plan and organise stag dos - they are quite revelatory about what goes on.

What women do when they go away is totally irrelevant when the thread is about OP's H on a stag do , presumably with other men. Unless you are assuming there are women on the do as well as the male stags which is not an unknown scenario.

DH would contact me if away. Luckily we have missed the extended abroad stags so not been tested on what level of contact I would get on one of those

For my sake, no. But I'd like for him to want to check in with the DC, especially as it's a leisure trip (he's not absorbed / exhausted by work) and they're so little. If he wasn't calling to say good night etc, I'd be a bit surprised.

I wouldnt want to feel obliged to keep checking in when I'm away with my friends.

Seeing as it's four nights, absolutely yes! I can't imagine going away for 4 nights without speaking to my OH and kids at all, I'd expect him to feel the same. There's always time for a 5 minute chat.

I tell my Dh not to check in while he’s away (we don’t have young children though). I want him to enjoy himself and I want peace!

If this is unusual for him (he usually does check in) then I can understand why you feel off.
Re food pics. Don’t respond and he’ll get bored 😉