Help end medical misogyny. Sign our petition.

Help end medical misogyny.
Sign our petition.

Sign the petition

Please or to access all these features

AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

You meet the one. They're perfect for you. Then youve got the ick so badly you eant to set fire to yourself. What petty thing did they do?? 👀

552 replies

mumofoneAloneandwell · 14/06/2026 16:58

Vomit Puke GIF by The Late Late Show with James Corden

Eaten tuna 🤢

Monstrous food eaten by those with poor morals.

OP posts:
Thread gallery
6
momtoboys · 15/06/2026 14:13

He chewed gum in my presence. Hard NO.

Dollymylove · 15/06/2026 14:38

AndWorseAFemale · 15/06/2026 13:23

Told me confidently that the flags and protests outside of migrant hotels were "To protect women" 😶

What exactly is wrong with that?

Lurkingandlearning · 15/06/2026 14:45

shuggles · 14/06/2026 23:33

As I said, it's just committment issues.

The issue being they don’t want to commit to that particular person because he gives them the ick

busybusybusy2015 · 15/06/2026 14:51

WestwardHo1 · 15/06/2026 11:15

I have been feeling wistful in the last few days about my decision not to risk a relationship again.

Reading this I feel COMPLETELY VINDICATED.

At university I got the ick about a bloke who was objectively very good looking, but wore white jeans and said "supper" for evening meal. My recent relationship was with someone, I now realise, who held his cutlery stupidly. I always noticed it, but now I am thankfully out of it, I realise how ick-worthy it was.

One of the reasons my ex husband is my ex husband is because I increasingly couldn't hide my ick about the noises his throat made. Every time he swallows spit there's a kind of crack noise in his throat. The noise he makes eating a sandwich or a banana makes me want to locate the nearest shovel.

I have since found out I have misophonia!

Edited

Misophonia and relationships: the lifetime struggle. AFAIK 99% of men masticate like hippos and swallow like pelicans. Awful awful awful. Just have to keep finding positive attributes that outweigh the endless horror of listening to someone else eat. (I'm with you on the other points too: white jeans, 'supper' and cutlery mishandling 😆I'm wondering if we're related ...)

Spacedsunshine1 · 15/06/2026 15:09

WhatTheHellsGoingOn · 15/06/2026 13:41

This was totally down to his mum. Overbearing cretins like this ruin men for future partners and then wonder thy they never marry or divorce early.

Absolutely 100%

Gettingbysomehow · 15/06/2026 15:15

Another boyfriend was dumped for whistling tunelessly all the time. I cant stand it.

AImportantMermaid · 15/06/2026 15:18

He had exactly the same voice as my ex-boss who was an awful man. I really tried to get over it because he was a 10/10 otherwise - good looking, funny, smart, thought I was great - but oh heavens you could grate cheese with that voice.

daisychain01 · 15/06/2026 15:19

mumofoneAloneandwell · 14/06/2026 18:02

If a man eats a salad and gets mayo around his mouth 🤢

Oh god I'd have dumped DH years ago over food round mouth. He does have other redeemable traits to compensate.

mumofoneAloneandwell · 15/06/2026 15:33

daisychain01 · 15/06/2026 15:19

Oh god I'd have dumped DH years ago over food round mouth. He does have other redeemable traits to compensate.

Its unacceptable!

OP posts:
mumofoneAloneandwell · 15/06/2026 15:39

WorldCup34b · 15/06/2026 14:01

My Partner voted for Reform. Instant ick and trying to get shot of NOW

Yes! Free yourself xx

OP posts:
AnnieApples · 15/06/2026 15:42

Didn’t have a 2nd date with a devastatingly good looking guy who ticked many boxes because he said ‘was you…’. I practically ran out of the restaurant.

mumofoneAloneandwell · 15/06/2026 15:44

momtoboys · 15/06/2026 14:13

He chewed gum in my presence. Hard NO.

A man has to be very hot to get away with chewing gum publically

They have to have the Andy Murray look - be able to pull off a baseball cap, tall, good at sports

😭😭 what i am basing this on, I dont even know, just a general feeling 🤷‍♀️

OP posts:
HerRoyalNotness · 15/06/2026 15:44

Chews the skin around his fingernails to the point of infection. Don’t touch me with those disgusting things. Said he’d sort it, which actually would mean a lot of therapy I’ve discovered. It’s seems to be rooted in anxiety. Of course he hasn’t, 20yrs later

mumofoneAloneandwell · 15/06/2026 15:45

AnnieApples · 15/06/2026 15:42

Didn’t have a 2nd date with a devastatingly good looking guy who ticked many boxes because he said ‘was you…’. I practically ran out of the restaurant.

😄😄 do you think he was nervous? Bad grammar is definitely an ick

One time, as a teenager, I liked a guy who would Capitalise All His Words Like This. God Knows How Bloody Long It Took Him To Send A Text, The Bellend 🤢🤢

OP posts:
mumofoneAloneandwell · 15/06/2026 15:47

GreenCaterpillarOnALeaf · 15/06/2026 11:03

I used to go out with a guy who called an electrician to change a lightbulb… I was at his house and tbh I was probably going to sleep with him that night which for me is kind of a big deal. I excused myself, and ended up dumping him via text which was a bit mean but looking back he kind of had some rage issues as well as being incompetent so it was probably for the best.

😭😭😭

OP posts:
mumofoneAloneandwell · 15/06/2026 15:48

Beachtastic · 15/06/2026 09:55

Had he been in combat?

But you wouldn't jump every time though surely, you know its coming 😄😄

OP posts:
mumofoneAloneandwell · 15/06/2026 15:49

GoldInYourSmile · 15/06/2026 07:41

He still lived at home (we were 20 so fine) but any books his bought, once he read them his mum would whisk them straight off to a charity shop without even asking. He’d just find them gone.

He had an empty bookcase in his room, could hardly remember the details of any books he had read because he had only read them once and all he said was “yeah it‘s a shame but what can I do”

😄😄😄😄 what a weird household

OP posts:
mumofoneAloneandwell · 15/06/2026 15:49

GoldInYourSmile · 15/06/2026 07:41

He still lived at home (we were 20 so fine) but any books his bought, once he read them his mum would whisk them straight off to a charity shop without even asking. He’d just find them gone.

He had an empty bookcase in his room, could hardly remember the details of any books he had read because he had only read them once and all he said was “yeah it‘s a shame but what can I do”

😄😄😄😄 what a weird household

OP posts:
mumofoneAloneandwell · 15/06/2026 15:50

Busybeemumm · 15/06/2026 07:46

He turned up on a first date with chocolates in a gift bag for me.

Aww he was probably trying to be sweet

What were the chocolates? Milk tray?

I can picture them being too small for the bag, the whole handover being awkward, you having to lug a gift bag around the entire time 😭😭 yanbu

OP posts:
mumofoneAloneandwell · 15/06/2026 15:51

Yogabearmous · 15/06/2026 08:03

He wore old man’s pasty shoes to our date and a very long doctor who scarf

it was over at that point

🤢 yanbu

OP posts:
mumofoneAloneandwell · 15/06/2026 15:53

Dollymylove · 15/06/2026 08:40

Surely thats what a broom is for? Was it the manner in which he swept that gave you the ick? 😅😅

Robin Williams Dancing GIF by STARZ

Did he pull out this move @Ferryl

OP posts:
mumofoneAloneandwell · 15/06/2026 15:55

TheSquashyHatofMrGnosspelius · 15/06/2026 09:01

A) He smoked

B) In the absence of an ashtray, he dottled his fag ash onto his jeans and rubbed it into the fabric. When I saw this, I realised that he must have done this 200 times since the jeans were last washed as there were massive shiny grey areas on his jeans over his thighs. I thought I was going to be sick, went to the loo and then left as I had 'an emergency'.

Angry Oh No GIF by CBC

😄😄😄 omgg

OP posts:
mumofoneAloneandwell · 15/06/2026 15:57

Option3 · 15/06/2026 09:13

We'd been seeing each other about 6 months and he had a key. Not living with me, just a key for convenience. I had a long day at work. Arrived home to find him beaming from ear to ear and covered in paint. He'd covered everything in my little sitting room with dust sheets and re-painted the walls in a poxy blue colour, with an 'accent wall' of poxy blue patterned wall paper.

He thought the room looked as if it needed decorating. He thought I'd be pleased. All my carefully planned warm tones gone and he thought I'd be pleased. I screamed at him for a bit, wrenched his key off his key ring and threw him out forever.

psycho GIF

Omgg

OP posts:
mumofoneAloneandwell · 15/06/2026 15:57

Sardaukar · 15/06/2026 09:16

Guy here. I went off a girl because her second toes were longer than her big toes.

How much longer? 👀👀

OP posts:
mumofoneAloneandwell · 15/06/2026 16:08

Flannelenthusiast · 14/06/2026 23:50

Grian from Fontaine's is beautiful 😻😻😻

He really is 😍

OP posts: