AIBU to resent holiday-home neighbours taking our usual parking space?

[Chipsanddipsforlunch]

First of all to say, no one on the road has their ‘Own’ parking space, however it’s sort of an unspoken thing that you park on the road outside your own house.
Have owned our home here for fifteen or so years, we live in a beach type place. The immediate next door neighbours have their house as a holiday home, thankfully they don’t rent it out, they come to stay maybe four times a year, usually for a month or two in summer.
Every time they come, they immediately park where we park daily all year round opposite our house. It has a large tree and shade (we live in a hot place) so i’m guessing that’s part of the reason.
Everyone else parks in front of their own houses, it ends up that we have to park in the sun in front of their home, if space or round the corner/far up the road. I have a young Dd, ddog, it’s just the two of them. I’m often struggling walking up the road with bags of shopping from the big shop, my dd etc
They don’t go out that much, so the car is just sat there.
Dh has noticed that sometimes if we’ve managed to park there, opposite our own house and I for example nip out to the shop, the guy next door will come out of the house and move his car into that spot 😂

Honestly, I know it’s so petty, but it’s starting to piss me off recently as it’s hot and more tourists/second home owners parking on the road

Aibu??

Presumably she doesn’t tell detailed descriptions of her plans, so when she arrives at her home you are surely parked in the spot outside it?

There was a thread on here recently where a OP had bought a small old car to park outside her house permanently. This was to prevent a large van parking there and spoiling her view. I sort of admired her for doing that. I know that in reality anyone can park anywhere on a public street but I think your part time neighbours are somewhat inconsiderate @Chipsanddipsforlunch.

You lost me at "I’m often struggling walking up the road with bags of shopping". Are you seriously moaning about having to walk from outside your next door neighbour's house to yours?

You do realise that there is a large percentage of the population with multiple babies/children/dogs that manage to walk to/from the shops/train/bus without a car?

Really struggling to see what your issue is ...

So there's a space available for you to park in, just one house away. You feel entitled to have the best, shady spot (directly outside someone else's house) reserved for your sole use, why exactly?

The big issue here is that OP, for no good reason, has decided that she's entitled to sole us of the best spot in the street.

😂😂 So everyone on the street must also have main character energy then!

But everyone can’t park opposite their house because there are houses in that side of the street too?

Why? Because they, like you, would prefer to park in the shade, and they, like you, have every right to do so if the spot is free.

I wasn't asking why you couldn't park outside your own house, I was pointing out that if you are going to say it is "obvious" you couldn't you should have probably explained why at that point, otherwise by definition it isn't obvious!

To be fair it doesn't sound that hard. Maybe you should move somewhere with a driveway?

Not offence, but seriously? He’s retired, he’s someone we say Good morning to over the fence, does he get to command that everyone has to address him as Doctor ..,come on

Why don’t you both pull right back? Say im sorry I don’t think I can do x, I’m run off my feet with the dc. Dh when asked to do stuff can say ‘mate you’re the one on holiday, I’ve got 10,000 things to get on with. You crack on but I can’t get to that’

YABU. It’s annoying for you as you get to use that spot most of the year. But it’s not your spot, it’s not even outside your house. It’s opposite your house, outside another house. I understand what you’re saying about only being able to park down one side, so that presumably means that there aren’t enough parking spaces for everyone to park outside or opposite their house. You don’t get dibs on the space opposite your house. If the people opposite lived there all year round, would you be happy to let them have it and park at the end of the road, or would you take the next closest space, which would be opposite or outside someone else’s house? No one should get priority parking. You’re all entitled to just park in the street somewhere. A shady spot is going to be popular in summer. Anyone can use it. The guy swooping in to park as soon as you move your car is being a plonker. But he’s entitled to park there and aside from the swooping in part, I wouldn’t say he’s being unreasonable.

If it’s about shade, get sunscreens for the car.

Yabu because you arent even parked outside your house. Youre opposite it

I think the moving of the car when you leave would tip me over but I’m easily irritated 😅

Yes sometimes and then when we go out we don’t park back there

I genuinely don't understand your issue here. Even if he's retired, his correct title is Dr, even if you're just sayng Good Morning over the fence, his correct title is Dr. Why would you want to call him anything else other than this actual, correct name?

It not even about the tree tbf, he does it when not hot too, just park opposite your own home opposite your house

You need to be more cunning.😂

Is their car newer than yours or likely to be their pride and joy? If so I would drop into conversation in a really friendly way ‘oh, my old car is a mess, as the same happened to you/I wouldn’t want the same to happen to you…the bird droppings from parking under the tree, have rotted my paint work’. (True story from when I found the only car parking space, in a school car park and returned to fin my car almost white!😱 - realising why the space was empty…damaged my paintwork!).

Or, if you are sure there is no CCTV - strategically place some large branches against/behind/infront of the car as if they have blown down. Especially effective when it is windy. Again when you see them, a similar kind conversation about ‘sorry to see your car was nearly damaged, that tree is so unsafe…’ 😂

Annoying, but nowt you can do.

You clearly just want people to agree you're being reasonable. Honestly, I think it's mad. You don't own any parking space! Anyone could roll up to your street and park wherever and you'd have no choice but to accept it. There are way bigger issues. And if you don't like calling him Dr, then just don't.

It means put on a happy face. Polyanna was a character from a book and later a film starring Hayley Mills, about a girl who "found the good in every situation".

That's up to him
It's his name
If he said his name was Mr Something would it still bother you.

Do you never have a single visitor? If you are parked outside the home opposite you any time someone visits you they will be parking outside someone else’s home.

The idea that everyone only parks outside their home when one half of the street has dedicated no parking is nonsense. Any time anyone on the street has a visitor the entire parking will be changed due to the domino effect.
You clearly just take an issue with this particular neighbour, it’s clear in large part due to it being a second home but you fail to understand if it wasn’t being used as a second home it would be occupied year round so your irritation over noise, the busyness of your street would all be even greater.

Look people are being a little harsh and seem to be deliberately misunderstanding what you are trying to describe. This road is obviously very narrow and only has room for parking on one side, hence the parking on the other side of the road rather than directly outside your house. I’m guessing that because the road is narrow it will feel like it’s right outside your house even through it’s across the road.

I do have a couple questions though- if everyone on your side parked on their side, would that not mean there would be room for passing traffic?

Also you say you move your car when the neighbour across from you is staying there. What about the other people across the way? If they are all there then there would be cars on both sides wouldn’t there? Or are there not many houses on the other side?

I don’t think there is much you can do. They do sound a bit petty to be deliberately looking out for you leaving to move their car. As someone else suggested you could try appealing to their (if there is one!) better nature and say that them parking there causes difficulties for you because of child/dog/shopping and could they consider parking across from their house?

If they decide to ignore you there isn’t much for it but to suck it up. You obviously manage when you have to park elsewhere when neighbour across the road is there.