AIBU to resent holiday-home neighbours taking our usual parking space?

[Chipsanddipsforlunch]

First of all to say, no one on the road has their ‘Own’ parking space, however it’s sort of an unspoken thing that you park on the road outside your own house.
Have owned our home here for fifteen or so years, we live in a beach type place. The immediate next door neighbours have their house as a holiday home, thankfully they don’t rent it out, they come to stay maybe four times a year, usually for a month or two in summer.
Every time they come, they immediately park where we park daily all year round opposite our house. It has a large tree and shade (we live in a hot place) so i’m guessing that’s part of the reason.
Everyone else parks in front of their own houses, it ends up that we have to park in the sun in front of their home, if space or round the corner/far up the road. I have a young Dd, ddog, it’s just the two of them. I’m often struggling walking up the road with bags of shopping from the big shop, my dd etc
They don’t go out that much, so the car is just sat there.
Dh has noticed that sometimes if we’ve managed to park there, opposite our own house and I for example nip out to the shop, the guy next door will come out of the house and move his car into that spot 😂

Honestly, I know it’s so petty, but it’s starting to piss me off recently as it’s hot and more tourists/second home owners parking on the road

Aibu??

Where do you expect The Doctor to park?

Tbf, they’re probably completely unaware what happens in their absence 🤷‍♀️

He could be a PhD in something obscure and of no consequence.

This is a good question. He can't park outside his own home (because no-one on that side of the street can) and he can't park outside anyone else's home (unspoken/unwritten rule).

He could park outside an empty holiday home, but not the one opposite OP because she likes to park there, despite the unspoken/unwritten rule...

@Chipsanddipsforlunch. Please please do a diagram

Outside his own house would be great

Is he on the “right” side of the street to do that?

The property still has owners who use it, when they leave OP parks in what she would deem their spot since it is actually outside their property.

No, it's not.
Parking under the shady tree is the goal.
The one that is not outside her house.

But you said that no-one on that side of the street can park outside their own house! 😂😂

He was a Gp, which is fantastic, but when talking to him, i’m not going to say ‘Good morning Dr M’ for example, unless I want to, he expected people to at one point

Any chance you could plant up a few more trees. It will take some time but eventually there will be more shady spots.

I think it would do you good to remember that if you don't have your own off street parking space, you have absolutely no say on who parks where on the street. It's bonkers that people have these unspoken rules that they expect people who don't know (or care) about them to adhere to.

if they were blocking your driveway or parking in it, you'd be perfectly within your rights to moan, but they aren't so don't waste your time getting wound up by this.

On the road opposite his house, there is space for him to park without taking another space

We have a second home in Portugal and we often arrive and find someone parked right outside our house. We then park up the road and whoever it is generally realises we are there and they stop using our space.
I think the other guy moving his car to the shaded spot when you are out is an arse but looks like I’m in the minority! I think I’d have to have a word and explain you often return with a small child and shopping and if he could just keep his car where it was you’d appreciate having the space to return to. There’s a good chance he won’t but at least he will then know every time he does it he’s being petty. If he was returning home from a day at the beach (or whatever) and that’s the only space there I think he has a right to park there to be honest. But it’s the moving his car when you go out that I’d find bloody annoying.

So why can’t you just park there if he’s in the spot outside the other holiday home?

Someone kindly posted one on the thread, it’s as they posted aside from neighbour is on the left side of us is looking front on as in the picture

They can park wherever they want. The unwritten rule is utter nonsense.

Get over it, or get a bicycle or get a house with private parking.

It's absolutely entitled bonkersness to think you have dibs on the shaded space.

Big time main character/queen bee of the street energy.

Dr M... is his correct title. No idea why you'd take offence at addressing him correctly?

She’s there maybe 2x 1-2 weeks per year and it’s opposite our house and we cannot park on our side. We don’t park there when she’s there, although we could but don’t just because it feels off. Why would I not park there for the other 11 months of the year with the car opposite my home and park up the road?

Opposite!!

I would be annoyed at him moving it when you leave that isn't on but otherwise it's fair game .

Yes! It’s exactly this

He sounds oblivious to the fact that while it’s a lovely holiday for them, it’s your everyday life, and so very different for you.

Ah well. Short of implementing EstoyRobandoSuCasa’s excellent idea, you’re just going to have to silently seethe.

And call him Doctor through gritted teeth - just make sure you and DH always refer to him between yourselves as Dr Knobhead 😉

And try not to take the vote to heart - AIBU can be shockingly unreasonable!

I do have to sometimes, but it’s daft, I’m outside his and he’s right outside ours…why? Park opposite yours like everyone else!