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AIBU to want to visit a friend without her dog jumping all over me

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Twizzletoe · 10/06/2026 13:40

One of my closest friends has a dog that is around 3 years old. Every time I visit or just stop to pick her up when we are car sharing it is a nightmare. She struggles to open the door because he is barking and wiggling. Once inside the house he continually tries to jump up on me and barks so loudly. If I’m just picking her up I now just tend to message that I am waiting outside as I find it so unpleasant.

So my question is, is it unreasonale to expect to walk inside and not be jumped all over?

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Allseeingallknowing · 11/06/2026 18:20

Samysungy · 11/06/2026 18:15

Absolutely....what do owners do during training periods....? Are they classed as bad owners during the training process while the puppy is still learning?

Are all dog owners bad owners until the dog is fully trained?

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Basic things like not jumping up at visitors would be among the first things to get sorted!

Samysungy · 11/06/2026 18:25

Allseeingallknowing · 11/06/2026 18:20

Basic things like not jumping up at visitors would be among the first things to get sorted!

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Agreed.

But they cannot be trained instantly with a click of the fingers....so during the process is said owner bad or good?

Allseeingallknowing · 11/06/2026 18:27

Samysungy · 11/06/2026 18:25

Agreed.

But they cannot be trained instantly with a click of the fingers....so during the process is said owner bad or good?

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Good, because they are trying to train the dog, not leaving it to annoy and upset visitors!

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Twizzletoe · 13/06/2026 08:09

Samysungy · 11/06/2026 12:25

They absolutely will jump for a short while but all will calm down if you stay still for a while.

Some will stop after 1 minute.
Some will stop after 10 minutes.

All will stop. This is exactly what the dog needs. It needs to know that it doesn't get rewarded for this behaviour. Ignoring negative behaviour means it will decline as the animal gets no reward for it.

It does it at the moment as it gets a reward (attention) for doing it.

What would 'addressing' the problem look like to you?

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So I have to inch inside whilst she holds them back. Then stand in the lobby for ten minutes (it isdefinitely longer than a minute) whilst being jumped on and barked at, then move into a seat and get jumped on some more? I should have said that I do not pat him or make eyecontact whilst this is going on but it is starting to feel like a very long time before he settles.

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Samysungy · 13/06/2026 12:58

Twizzletoe · 13/06/2026 08:09

So I have to inch inside whilst she holds them back. Then stand in the lobby for ten minutes (it isdefinitely longer than a minute) whilst being jumped on and barked at, then move into a seat and get jumped on some more? I should have said that I do not pat him or make eyecontact whilst this is going on but it is starting to feel like a very long time before he settles.

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Oh I can well understand dogs thats do that.

ToadRage · 13/06/2026 13:58

How big is the dog? My best friend has an excitable dachshund and knows i don't like being jumped on so she picks her dog up when I'm around. Can you suggest that to her.

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Twizzletoe · 13/06/2026 16:34

A good idea but the dog is too big/heavy to hold for long

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