AIBU to want to visit a friend without her dog jumping all over me

[Twizzletoe]

One of my closest friends has a dog that is around 3 years old. Every time I visit or just stop to pick her up when we are car sharing it is a nightmare. She struggles to open the door because he is barking and wiggling. Once inside the house he continually tries to jump up on me and barks so loudly. If I’m just picking her up I now just tend to message that I am waiting outside as I find it so unpleasant.

So my question is, is it unreasonale to expect to walk inside and not be jumped all over?

Completely disagree that it's unreasonable to ask that the dog is put in another room. A trained one yes, not one that is all over you and where it's clearly unwelcome.

Next time you're asked I'd simply say, "that would be lovely but is it possible to put Rover in another room. I appreciate he's just excited but I really don't like being jumped at. No worries if that's a problem, happy to meet you at Costat". If the answer is not in the immediate affirmative then you know you are dealing with someone who has no intention of training their dog properly.

My friend used to train guide dog puppies so I am sure that if they jump the word is off (not down, that is lie down) and you turn your back, they do not get your attention and facing them if they are jumping. You fold your arms oo and keep your back to them.

This might help when you arrive but I would be completely honest about how much you dislike it. I know a dog trainer on Youtube (Victoria something used to be a tv program called me or the dog) basically trains the dogs that you won't open the door unless they are sitting and more calm. These are older dogs too who have been doing this a long time, not puppies. Dogs can be trained but a lot of people cannot be arsed.

Urgh. No YANBU. I don’t want a dog jumping up and pulling at my nice clothes

A well-trained dog will have the manners not to do that. It's your friend's fault for not training him.

She should put him in another room because it's polite to make your guests comfortable, but I bet she won't. Dog owners like this never do.

I have a relative with dogs like this, but who are also actually incredibly well trained for shows, they just get super excited when people visit!

So when I go, I deploy my best Barbara Woodhouse* and command them to "SIT!". Only then do I fuss them. If they jump up, I ignore/command again.

But no, of course YANBU for not wanting jumpy dogs.

(*I like to keep my cultural references bang up to date! 😆)

You are being unreasonable. Just don't go in. If the dog was anywhere else, you would be perfectly reasonable but he's in his owner's house. Her house, her rules. Why don't you communicate with her, just be honest and say you're not keen on the dog. Let her offer to put it in a different room if that's feasible. For many dogs, it wouldn't be so it is unreasonable to ask.