AIBU to want to visit a friend without her dog jumping all over me

[Twizzletoe]

One of my closest friends has a dog that is around 3 years old. Every time I visit or just stop to pick her up when we are car sharing it is a nightmare. She struggles to open the door because he is barking and wiggling. Once inside the house he continually tries to jump up on me and barks so loudly. If I’m just picking her up I now just tend to message that I am waiting outside as I find it so unpleasant.

So my question is, is it unreasonale to expect to walk inside and not be jumped all over?

I don't think it's at all unreasonable to ask your friend to put ddog in another room. It's not rude. Mine barks like mad when people show up and I always shut her away until she's calmed down, and then Iet her out and introduce her to the visitor, and she's fine. It's not rude - mention it.
My best friend refused to have my dog in her house when I first brought her over. I don't know why, because she likes her ( pet hair, probably). But she just said No, I don't want her in the house. So she stays in the car or gets tied up in the shade outside. So no need for drama - say you find ddog a bit overwhelming and could he please be put into another room.?

The house issue is one thing, but I think its a huge risk having an uncontrolled dog jumping around and on you when you are driving. its so distracting. And I would not allow it in the car again. What if you needed to do an emergency stop?

If I pick her up, then the dog will be left in the house. It is generally for an undog friendly activity.

YANBU; my niece's dog used to do this - very friendly but wouldn't leave you alone and just kept jumping up. It's not unreasonable to ask them to stop the dog doing it - whatever that takes.

I absolutely understand this! My sister has two unruly dogs and I've been honest with her and said I don't like coming over as she has no control over her dogs.

They constantly bark or whin is they are shut away. When they're out, they jump over me, scratch me with their long nails and lick me. I hate it! And I love dogs.

When people come to my house, my dog barks but he's quickly told to get to his bed and that's it.

You could be honest with her but it's unlikely to do anything other than strain your friendship.

Just be honest and say you don't like dogs jumping all over you.

It's up to her how she deals with that information and if she does nothing and expects you to put up with it then she'll know why you no longer want to visit her home.

My friend had a dog like that. Though my friend would visibly see I was upset having a massive dog breathing in my face so it would get put outside (I was bitten by a big dog as a kid).
My partner taught me to squeeze their paws for the jumping, which did sort of work.

I did find that ignoring the dog did work a bit. Also putting my hand flat out and saying NO to it.

BUT IMHO, it jsut rude! If my cats were climbing up someone, or just bothering them if they are over they would get booted out - though they wouldn't as we would dissuade from being on counters, begging etc from kitten stage

My ex has a dog like this
I used to leave covered in bruises from it

Pretty much. I have done this. I now see my friend elsewhere.

I was also there when both his siblings told him they’d never visited his new house due to said dog as they didn’t want it jumping on their young kids . He then totally tried to deny to me they’d ever said that . He seemed to think anyone bothered by his dog was unreasonable. Boiled my piss .

I've had the same issue. I love my friend dearly, but I've said it's their home, and they can do what they want, but it upsets me. So we still meet, but outside her house. Sorted.

I’d invite her to mine or suggest meeting at different place completely

I have an over excited dog, he stays in the kitchen behind the staircase until hes calmed down. If he stays calm hes allowed to stay out. If not hes off back in the kitchen.
I havent been to my friends in 3 years because her dog is allowed to stand on the sofa and growl at us, kids included, and she just talks to him in the most high pitched voice like hes a baby it makes me cringe.

I love dogs , have my own dog ( have had 3 over the years ) he’s very much part of the family.
If she wants you to go to her house she’ll have to get the dog trained or shut him away if you’re only there for a short time .

Not everybody loves the dog as much as the owner… same applies to children. Owners need to be aware when yet another chin full of drool is wiped across your lap or your seat is being kicked from behind…

god no, I hate it. it feels like being violated and assaulted. you should not have to put up with it. i hate being told the dog is "friendly" when I'm on a walk or whatever, these people just don't understand.

check out r/dogfree on reddit, it's a great place to meet others who haven't bought into liking dogs, you will feel sanity...

I love dogs. This dog needs some training. A crazy bouncy puppy I’d tolerate it from albeit ignore until they calmed down. A 3 year old should be trained better than this.

Yanbu. My parent in law's dog is very similar. Jumps up when you sitting on the sofa, tries to eat off plates and even humps your shoes and legs if you are really lucky. My daughter hates the dog jumping up so we don't visit. They won't put the dog into another room as "it's the dog's home" despite my daughter being very uncomfortable so not visiting is the only option.

I would either be honest or lie and say you’ve discovered your allergic

I’m a total dog lover who thoroughly enjoys having animals jumping all over me, but I voted YANBU.

You don’t like it, so don’t put yourself in that position. You are being completely reasonable.

Just meet her out or at yours.

Say "control your dog or i will leave. And do it.

My dog is a total pain in the arse, he loses his mind when people come in, i have him on a lead,.and if im being picked up for anything, the person texts me, yanbu you should be able to go in without a dog annoying you, just tell your friend it is too much that is why you are waiting in the car.

My father’s dog is generally a lovely boy but small children unnerve him - so he bites them. DF and step mother don’t seem to see any reason to shut him away when we visit, even though last time I spent the entire time standing up with my 3 yr old in my arms to protect her. We simply don’t go any more.

That’s worrying! How can you ever leave the children with them?
I like dogs but don’t like them jumping up at me; owners seem offended if you don’t like their darling dogs jumping and slobbering around you!