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To think it is posh and or pretentious to say you are "drawing" a bath?

104 replies

OonaStubbs · Yesterday 22:34

What do you think. My DP always says this but I think it is very strange and old fashioned to say this instead of just saying you are running a bath?

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KittytheHare · Yesterday 23:24

Nofeckingway · Yesterday 22:55

Only in England is this phrase used . I think it's funny . Nobody else says draw curtains either . Everywhere else uses close curtains, run a bath .

We use both these expressions in Ireland too. I quite often use them both.

OhThePotential · Yesterday 23:24

Old fashioned, not pretentious. I think its lovely and should be brought back.

InterestedDad37 · Yesterday 23:26

PinkNailPolish2026 · Yesterday 23:24

That’s normal where we live, some people take it with salt and some with sugar.

Nah, it's just as old-fashioned and borderline pretentious as 'drawing' a bath.
Mind you, the person who asked me is incredibly posh (I'm incredibly not posh) and probably always says it.

MasterBeth · Yesterday 23:26

Morepositivemum · Yesterday 23:20

Sometimes you just use a phrase you’ve heard in a book or on a film, not a fan of that but would rather hear someone say something like that than use the curse words so many people use now

"I'm just drawing my fucking bath, OK!"

PinkNailPolish2026 · Yesterday 23:29

InterestedDad37 · Yesterday 23:26

Nah, it's just as old-fashioned and borderline pretentious as 'drawing' a bath.
Mind you, the person who asked me is incredibly posh (I'm incredibly not posh) and probably always says it.

Edited

It’s not pretentious at all, some of our family/friends prefer it made with salt and others with sugar, we always ask visitors how they ‘take’ their porridge. I also ask people how they ‘take’ their tea/coffee.

Floatlikeafeather2 · Yesterday 23:30

InterestedDad37 · Yesterday 23:26

Nah, it's just as old-fashioned and borderline pretentious as 'drawing' a bath.
Mind you, the person who asked me is incredibly posh (I'm incredibly not posh) and probably always says it.

Edited

But asking someone if they take milk/sugar is very normal. What's the difference?

MeetMeOnTheCorner · Yesterday 23:30

You draw water from a well. Thats how it came about. It just a saying that was transferred to a bath. No real pretence. Just old fashioned but who really cares? Lots of families keep going with odd sayings and words that aren’t widespread now.

OhThePotential · Yesterday 23:31

InterestedDad37 · Yesterday 23:21

Someone recently asked me how I 'take' my porridge 😀

That’s normal here. Like asking how someone takes their tea or coffee.

I suppose many young people don’t drink tea or coffee now though. I’m old.

InterestedDad37 · Yesterday 23:31

Floatlikeafeather2 · Yesterday 23:30

But asking someone if they take milk/sugar is very normal. What's the difference?

Horses for courses, I suppose 😀

Ihatelittlefriendsusan · Yesterday 23:33

I use it as lot.

Inwas brought up in London but my Nan is from the north east and it was what she used to say.

MasterBeth · Yesterday 23:33

The "take" that I have always found unusual and anachronistic is when people talk about which newspaper they take.

I don't take any newspaper. I always pay for it.

MustardBear · Yesterday 23:33

Nofeckingway · Yesterday 22:55

Only in England is this phrase used . I think it's funny . Nobody else says draw curtains either . Everywhere else uses close curtains, run a bath .

I say ‘draw the curtains’!

bridgetreilly · Yesterday 23:34

It’s old-fashioned but not strange.

user293948849167 · Yesterday 23:35

It is quite posh but wouldn’t say pretentious if that’s what he’s always said!

Shinyandnew1 · Yesterday 23:35

I like old fashioned terminology!

What about, ‘which side does sir dress?’

That one has always made me chuckle!

5foot5 · Yesterday 23:38

ForTipsyPlumWriter · Yesterday 22:58

I say draw the curtains too! And I’m northern and definitely not posh!

DH likes to say elevenses (although he is posher than me, and from the south). I find it rather quaint and endearing.

Another non-posh Northerner who draws the curtains, but this one has always appreciated the concept of elevenses!

JustAnotherWhinger · Yesterday 23:39

Nofeckingway · Yesterday 22:55

Only in England is this phrase used . I think it's funny . Nobody else says draw curtains either . Everywhere else uses close curtains, run a bath .

I grew up about as far north in Scotland as you can get and my grandparents (who brought me up) used draw for the bath and curtains.

Davros · Yesterday 23:45

DierdreDaphne · Yesterday 22:48

"when youve finished dear are you going to paint it?"

Even my old, posh grandad ( born in the 1900s and who used to pronounce off "orf" much to my young entertainment) didn't say this..and I know he went to a super posh boarding school too!

So I'm assuming your dh is about 150??

Cockneys also say “orf”.
I need some serious advice, is drawing the curtains opening or closing them? Or does it depend on if they’re already open or closed?

HoppityBun · Yesterday 23:47

MasterBeth · Yesterday 23:33

The "take" that I have always found unusual and anachronistic is when people talk about which newspaper they take.

I don't take any newspaper. I always pay for it.

But what you wouldn’t say that you pay for it but that you read it, because that’s the issue

AlcoholicAntibiotic · Yesterday 23:48

InterestedDad37 · Yesterday 23:26

Nah, it's just as old-fashioned and borderline pretentious as 'drawing' a bath.
Mind you, the person who asked me is incredibly posh (I'm incredibly not posh) and probably always says it.

Edited

How would you ask the question?

I agree with others; it’s no different to asking how you take your tea or coffee,

Definitely not a posh thing.

Roosnoodles · Yesterday 23:50

My husband draws a bath, draws the curtains and says bless you if I sneeze. I love it. He’s always said it. I once read that Jeremy Clarkson thought that saying condiments was pretentious, I can’t for the life of me think of another word for them.

InterestedDad37 · Yesterday 23:51

AlcoholicAntibiotic · Yesterday 23:48

How would you ask the question?

I agree with others; it’s no different to asking how you take your tea or coffee,

Definitely not a posh thing.

Have. How do you have your porridge/tea/coffee obviously 😀 🤷

(which is different from 'do you take sugar', which is perfectly OK 😀)

Papster · Yesterday 23:56

Tiptow · Yesterday 22:37

No, it’s not pretentious neccesarily, it’s just that different people use different terms for things. Language shaming is toxic.

No it’s not

echt · Yesterday 23:58

I run and draw baths, but draw curtains.

I don't get the sniffiness about older usage; It's a broadening of the language, which has to be a good thing.

Several years ago, a colleague took me to task about using the expression "by a long chalk" in speech. They asked me what it meant, which I didn't mind at all, but then got bit tetchy and asked why on earth I should use such an expression that no-one understood. This was in Australia, which apart from having a rich vernacular of its own, uses many UK expressions, both old and new.

It was the intolerance that got me.

Secretseverywhere · Today 00:00

I, too, draw the curtains. I thought that was normal. I run a bath but I don’t mind draw a bath provided it’s not delivered a la Hyacinth Bucket.