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Man in a car parked outside my house all afternoon

127 replies

PyongyangKipperbang · Today 17:13

Since at least 2 pm. Terraces with on street parked so directly outside the house. He is has just been sat there all the time, engine on for half an hour then off again, presumably to stop the battery draining if he is using something electrical.

There are plenty of car parks in the area so no reason to be here. He saw my come back and go in the house so presumably its nothing to do with me, but its freaking me out a bit (and pissed me off as I had to park on another road!).

We are not on a road with shops or a school or doctors etc so no reason to be waiting there for someone for such a long time!

Worth taking the reg in case he comes back tomorrow do we think?

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LoftyCoralBird · Today 17:15

Take a photo and note his registration.

devongirl12 · Today 17:21

What would you do with his reg if he came back again tomorrow?

PyongyangKipperbang · Today 17:22

Contact non emergency police and say I am concerned.

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Nearly50omg · Today 17:23

id go out and ask him what he’s doing and remind him running a car engine while just sat there is an offence and if he wants to do that to go and do it elsewhere not in a build up residential area

Howyoudoings · Today 17:24

Public road police will not do anything because his not committing any crime.

JacquesHarlow · Today 17:25

You don't own the bit of road outside your house, @PyongyangKipperbang .

He likely doesn't know he's inconveniencing you.

roseymoira · Today 17:28

Howyoudoings · Today 17:24

Public road police will not do anything because his not committing any crime.

He is, he isn’t parked. Idling is against the law. I live round the corner from a school and it drives me crazy. Park there all you want but why they think it’s acceptable to sit and idle the engine for an hour, vibrating peoples houses is beyond me

24Dogcuddler · Today 17:30

There was once a car parked on the cul de sac where we used to live. Three men inside.
Nobody really came in the close unless they lived there or were visiting.
DH walked past a couple of times with the dog.
They wound the window down and said “ don’t worry mate, Police. Doing a raid round the corner”
Just never know.

Cherry8809 · Today 17:32

He’s free to sit there all day and night if he wants. It’s a public road.

Maybe he's having car trouble?
A couple of years ago, I got a flat tyre driving home at 5am on a Sunday morning. I was able to pull in safely to a residential road at the bottom of someone’s driveway. The roadside assistance guy took over 2 hours to turn up 🤷🏻‍♀️

MamaNell · Today 17:32

This Is bonkers, just let the man be! Yes it’s annoying (from an environmental pov) that he has the car on, but he’s doing no harm.
there are a thousand totally innocent reasons he’s there- waiting for someone/ doing some work before an appointment/ phone call. Can people not even sit in there own cars on a public road without people being nosy and interfering. Dear God.

Sahara123 · Today 17:33

24Dogcuddler · Today 17:30

There was once a car parked on the cul de sac where we used to live. Three men inside.
Nobody really came in the close unless they lived there or were visiting.
DH walked past a couple of times with the dog.
They wound the window down and said “ don’t worry mate, Police. Doing a raid round the corner”
Just never know.

But they wouldn’t actually say we’re robbers staking out a house would they

PinkTonic · Today 17:35

I had this a couple of months ago and he was talking on the phone as well, one call after another. Between the engine running and the loud phone talking I lost my shit in the end and went and knocked on his window. He had a female companion who leapt out of the car and told me not to interrupt, they were ‘doing something’, but I said it’s illegal to be sitting with your engine idling so kindly go and do it elsewhere, and they did go.

MillicentFaucet · Today 17:36

I had this a few years ago when a famous neighbour was on trial for sex offences. The idler was hanging around hoping to pap him and/or his family.
Anything or anyone newsworthy on your street OP?

PyongyangKipperbang · Today 17:36

JacquesHarlow · Today 17:25

You don't own the bit of road outside your house, @PyongyangKipperbang .

He likely doesn't know he's inconveniencing you.

That is not the main issue at all, and I think you know that. I am well aware that I dont own the road.

But a man who I have never seen before sitting directly outside my house all afternoon is weird and I refuse to believe that I am the only person who would be slightly freaked out by it!

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GasPanic · Today 17:37

I mean I have parked up before. Got to some place early and just parked a few streets away for 30-45 mins.

A few hours is a long time though.

It might be that he is a salesperson in the area, and is waiting for his next client appointment and answering emails in the meantime.

A bit strange not to go to a starbucks and have a coffee at the same time if it is for a long time period though.

BIossomtoes · Today 17:37

He might be the police.

LlynTegid · Today 17:38

You could go and ask if he is a journalist? Or the police? Worth a try?

Firesidechatter · Today 17:38

roseymoira · Today 17:28

He is, he isn’t parked. Idling is against the law. I live round the corner from a school and it drives me crazy. Park there all you want but why they think it’s acceptable to sit and idle the engine for an hour, vibrating peoples houses is beyond me

Well yes but no one is going to arrest him for running his engine every now and again. How bored do you think the police are. And irs perfectly legal to park there.

PyongyangKipperbang · Today 17:38

MillicentFaucet · Today 17:36

I had this a few years ago when a famous neighbour was on trial for sex offences. The idler was hanging around hoping to pap him and/or his family.
Anything or anyone newsworthy on your street OP?

Nope! I live on Boring Street, in Dullsville! Everyone knows everyone on else on the street, he is catching looks from people over the road too, the couple who live there keep finding excuses to nip out!

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Larrythecatforpm · Today 17:38

Knock on the window and ask if he’d like a cuppa then you’ll know if he’s mi6, undercover police officer, dwp officer or some random axe murdering stalker.

nosmokinggun · Today 17:40

I may or may not have spent a few hours parked up somewhere before to see how long a friends husband was visiting a ‘friend’ for when he was supposedly at work.

maybe he’s doing that?

JacquesHarlow · Today 17:41

PyongyangKipperbang · Today 17:38

Nope! I live on Boring Street, in Dullsville! Everyone knows everyone on else on the street, he is catching looks from people over the road too, the couple who live there keep finding excuses to nip out!

I'm sorry but the culture of a nosey neighbour street does not "transmit" itself through the curtains and into the road so he can soak up the signal and act accordingly.

"catching looks"...ugh. Look, either call the police, or don't, but sitting there seething doesn't seem to make any sense to me.

DirtyGertiefromno30 · Today 17:41

I had this happen and it was a PI on a divorce case . He cleared off when he realised he had been spotted

Vintlet · Today 17:42

There was a local road Next Door Whatsapp group who worked themselves into an absolute rage about an unknown man sitting in his car in their road. He was a workman and something had gone wrong with his car. He was waiting for someone to pick him up and help with the car. The nosy parkers came in for a lot of mocking because they worked themselves into such a state of indignation.

TheChosenTwo · Today 17:42

I would just presume he was a PI of some sort keeping an eye on the comings and goings of a house somewhere a bit further down from yours.
Taking the reg seems a bit overly dramatic to me but this is MN where people are tend to hyperventilate over really quite insignificant things!

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