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Man in a car parked outside my house all afternoon

189 replies

PyongyangKipperbang · Yesterday 17:13

Since at least 2 pm. Terraces with on street parked so directly outside the house. He is has just been sat there all the time, engine on for half an hour then off again, presumably to stop the battery draining if he is using something electrical.

There are plenty of car parks in the area so no reason to be here. He saw my come back and go in the house so presumably its nothing to do with me, but its freaking me out a bit (and pissed me off as I had to park on another road!).

We are not on a road with shops or a school or doctors etc so no reason to be waiting there for someone for such a long time!

Worth taking the reg in case he comes back tomorrow do we think?

OP posts:
notatinydancer · Yesterday 19:21

24Dogcuddler · Yesterday 17:30

There was once a car parked on the cul de sac where we used to live. Three men inside.
Nobody really came in the close unless they lived there or were visiting.
DH walked past a couple of times with the dog.
They wound the window down and said “ don’t worry mate, Police. Doing a raid round the corner”
Just never know.

So they said. I don’t think the police announce raids 🤨

MimiSunshine · Yesterday 19:24

PyongyangKipperbang · Yesterday 17:22

Contact non emergency police and say I am concerned.

Concerned about what? If he wanted to murder you, you’d be dead already.

but just in case take a pic of his car and send it to your group chat and say “if im
dead in the morning, it was the guy in this car.”

seriously though, do not call the non emergency number it’s really not a police level issue. It’s just a bloke in a car on your street.
annoying yes, a murderer / burglar highly unlikely or if they are. A very crappy one.

TheBloomingDahlia · Yesterday 19:25

It sounds like you and all the neighbours are hoping for some sort of excitement, but I don’t think it’s illegal to sit in a parked car so doubt it’s worth taking police time to report it. I would assume he’s either waiting for something or has a problem with his car

Morethanthis71 · Yesterday 19:29

Do you live in Brighton? Does he look a bit like John Simm and answer to the name of Roy Grace?

bananaboats · Yesterday 19:30

Doubt I'd give it a second thought tbh! What do you think he's going to do to you?

NameChangeMay2026 · Yesterday 19:31

It's weird behaviour. He could easily be casing the joint or watching a person or property. Take a photo and number plate, and report to non-emergency if he comes back and does the same.

ThreadGuardDog · Yesterday 19:33

Howyoudoings · Yesterday 17:24

Public road police will not do anything because his not committing any crime.

He’s running the engine while the car is stationary. That’ll do for a start.

ThreadGuardDog · Yesterday 19:34

Alittlefrustrated · Yesterday 18:43

That fraud investigator shouldn't be telling you what he does, unless it's your DH.

And a fraud investigator would be more discreet.

GreenCandleWax · Yesterday 19:35

roseymoira · Yesterday 17:28

He is, he isn’t parked. Idling is against the law. I live round the corner from a school and it drives me crazy. Park there all you want but why they think it’s acceptable to sit and idle the engine for an hour, vibrating peoples houses is beyond me

And the pollution!

TheWineoftheChicken · Yesterday 19:37

MissMoneyFairy · Yesterday 17:55

I do if I think they're piggy backing my internet

Haven’t you got a password on it?

TheWineoftheChicken · Yesterday 19:38

ThreadGuardDog · Yesterday 19:33

He’s running the engine while the car is stationary. That’ll do for a start.

In my village it’s hard enough to get the police out for a burglary. They’re hardly going to come for ‘running the engine while the car is stationary’.

TheDenimPoet · Yesterday 19:43

24Dogcuddler · Yesterday 17:30

There was once a car parked on the cul de sac where we used to live. Three men inside.
Nobody really came in the close unless they lived there or were visiting.
DH walked past a couple of times with the dog.
They wound the window down and said “ don’t worry mate, Police. Doing a raid round the corner”
Just never know.

I assume you asked for their IDs?

I have a job where I regularly have a lot of time to kill between clients. I'll find somewhere random to park.

Chenecinquantecinq · Yesterday 19:43

Police, private investigator could be many innocuous things.

CheeseWisely · Yesterday 19:45

Jesus have you nothing better to do. There was a van parked in our actual drive for a bit this morning (it’s the whole width of the house, 4 vehicles wide, and opens straight onto a lane that has no other safe parking). I was pottering about in the house with DS. Whoever it was caused me no inconvenience or harm and went on their way after whatever reason they’d been parked there for was done, I assume they had some business with a neighbour. It genuinely wouldn’t have entered my head to call the police, I hadn’t given it a second thought until reading this thread.

Delphiniumandlupins · Yesterday 19:48

Larrythecatforpm · Yesterday 17:38

Knock on the window and ask if he’d like a cuppa then you’ll know if he’s mi6, undercover police officer, dwp officer or some random axe murdering stalker.

I'm interested how you would deduce someone's occupation from their hot drink preference? Although, engaging in conversation seems like an obvious way to clear up the mystery.

Bookbears · Yesterday 19:48

Could be a private investigator, could be undercover police, could be someone trying to case a house, could just be a weirdo.

What seems to work in my town is take a picture of the car with the reg and put a post on the local Facebook page. 9 times out of 10 there’s a explanation and if there isn’t report it to the non emergency police line as a suspicious vehicle. Our local police all have a Facebook page and I see them post things like this all the time.

Delphiniumandlupins · Yesterday 19:50

TheDenimPoet · Yesterday 19:43

I assume you asked for their IDs?

I have a job where I regularly have a lot of time to kill between clients. I'll find somewhere random to park.

I read that as you "kill clients"!!!

Charmatt · Yesterday 19:50

Near to us, the local FB blew up with something similar. It turned out the man was a carer between morning and afternoon calls - it wasn't worth going home.
Now he parks on a road and people pop out and give him a drink and some people bake cakes for him!
😍

shuddacuddadidnt · Yesterday 19:53

GreenCandleWax · Yesterday 19:35

And the pollution!

Electric car??

ClaredeBear · Yesterday 19:56

He’s free to sit in his car but it’s completely irresponsible of him to keep the car idling. Appreciate you might not want to approach a man though.

ClaredeBear · Yesterday 19:56

shuddacuddadidnt · Yesterday 19:53

Electric car??

Oh, I didn’t see that bit.

DeLaLune2022 · Yesterday 19:56

LilyBunch25 · Yesterday 19:00

Surveillance of someone's house?

The OPs…

Gleba · Yesterday 19:57

Log it with the police, OP. And then cancel the cheque.

JollyGreenWatermelon · Yesterday 20:00

Dolphinsarejerks · Yesterday 18:42

Undercover police are not remotely subtle.

if you say so.
A random MN poster says it, so it must be true 😂

ThreadGuardDog · Yesterday 20:01

TheWineoftheChicken · Yesterday 19:38

In my village it’s hard enough to get the police out for a burglary. They’re hardly going to come for ‘running the engine while the car is stationary’.

They do where I live. We are opposite a secondary school and after complaints to 101 they monitor regularly.

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