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Man in a car parked outside my house all afternoon

189 replies

PyongyangKipperbang · Yesterday 17:13

Since at least 2 pm. Terraces with on street parked so directly outside the house. He is has just been sat there all the time, engine on for half an hour then off again, presumably to stop the battery draining if he is using something electrical.

There are plenty of car parks in the area so no reason to be here. He saw my come back and go in the house so presumably its nothing to do with me, but its freaking me out a bit (and pissed me off as I had to park on another road!).

We are not on a road with shops or a school or doctors etc so no reason to be waiting there for someone for such a long time!

Worth taking the reg in case he comes back tomorrow do we think?

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AgnesX · Yesterday 17:46

PyongyangKipperbang · Yesterday 17:38

Nope! I live on Boring Street, in Dullsville! Everyone knows everyone on else on the street, he is catching looks from people over the road too, the couple who live there keep finding excuses to nip out!

You'd think he'd go and park somewhere else like an Asda carpark given the coming and goings of all the nosy neighbours. On that note the likelihood of him being up to no good is marginal. Maybe he's a snooper for the DWP.

TeaPot496 · Yesterday 17:48

Whatever it is, it is none of your business eh.

Blarn · Yesterday 17:48

Process server waiting for someone to leave or come back to their house so he can hand over the papers.

pizzaHeart · Yesterday 17:48

Is he doing something e.g reading papers or something on mobile?
added: and yes I would take his reg and when he arrived / left

Jollyhockeystickss · Yesterday 17:50

Id get in my car and park it bumper to bumper touching his car and sit in it with the engine on he will soon move

WYorksTemp · Yesterday 17:51

He could be a bailiff for one of your neighbours?

Many years ago, not long after we moved in to our house, I was just taking DC out one lunchtime and this enormous man got out of his car (he'd been parked across the road and I hadn't noticed) and approached us. I was pretty alarmed, as you might imagine. He showed us an ID card and said he was a bailiff looking for Mr X (the previous owner) for an unpaid congestion charge. I said it wasn't us but he insisted I had to prove it. I had the difficult choice whether to go back into the house to get a recent bill/letter to prove myself, meaning he could have forced his way in, or having a standoff with me and my tiny DC.

Anyway, the point of this lengthy story is that this man must have been parked up, watching our front door, for some hours.

Runningswanker · Yesterday 17:52

I've had to do this plenty of times in social work. Usually when waiting for police assistance and they can't tell us when an officer will be available and we just have to wait nearby. I understand he shouldn't be idling his engine, but please don't take the advice to give him hassle for sitting in his car because it happens to be near your house. He's not causing you any trouble.

FrankieMcGrath · Yesterday 17:52

Nearly50omg · Yesterday 17:23

id go out and ask him what he’s doing and remind him running a car engine while just sat there is an offence and if he wants to do that to go and do it elsewhere not in a build up residential area

Me too but then again I don’t give a shit anymore about what people think of me! At the very least, doing this will mean he knows you’ve fully seen his face & car reg. I’d take pictures also!

WiddlinDiddlin · Yesterday 17:52

My DP used to get funny looks a lot, sitting in the car on a residential street, often asleep or reading a book.

He was waiting for me, doing an at home consultation for dog behaviour/training, as I can't drive (As in can't not don't want to/haven't bothered).

So perhaps its that, someones driver waiting for them.

MapleLeaf190 · Yesterday 17:53

PyongyangKipperbang · Yesterday 17:38

Nope! I live on Boring Street, in Dullsville! Everyone knows everyone on else on the street, he is catching looks from people over the road too, the couple who live there keep finding excuses to nip out!

I would do absolutely nothing because he isn’t doing anything wrong. I can’t imaging caring about this.

Maybe you should just go ask him what he’s up to if you’re so concerned?

tiramisugelato · Yesterday 17:53

Do people really pay that much attention to who's parked on their road and how long they stay for? Confused

lessglittermoremud · Yesterday 17:54

I would ask him if everything’s ok, we had it once and the bloke had a problem with the car. He had come to visit someone around the corner but had parked in our road, when he had gone to leave something had flashed on the dashboard so he was waiting for the AA.
It had been cold so he had intermittently turned the engine on for heat. I took him a cup of tea, think it took about 3 hours for recovery to arrive and sort it.
Once you’ve spoken to him if he’s up to no good/spying he’ll move!

heartsinvisiblefury · Yesterday 17:54

The engine idling is an offence so report to council/police. Sitting in his car outside your house isn’t.

MissMoneyFairy · Yesterday 17:55

tiramisugelato · Yesterday 17:53

Do people really pay that much attention to who's parked on their road and how long they stay for? Confused

I do if I think they're piggy backing my internet

rwalker · Yesterday 17:56

Could be a sales rep just killing time
could be anything

but let’s be honest he’s barely being discreet if he’s up to no good

Lexy2345 · Yesterday 17:58

Post your concerns on your Next Door app and see what your neighbours think.

JacquesHarlow · Yesterday 18:00

tiramisugelato · Yesterday 17:53

Do people really pay that much attention to who's parked on their road and how long they stay for? Confused

Sadly they do. They really do. 🙄

TeaPot496 · Yesterday 18:00

MissMoneyFairy · Yesterday 17:55

I do if I think they're piggy backing my internet

Why have you set up an unsecured open network?

BeUniqueZebra · Yesterday 18:03

This happened in our street once, turned out to be a news reporter. Guy at the end of the street had committed a crime and he was waiting to get a photo of him. He also had eventually came round the doors trying to get people to comment.

Brownbananaspot · Yesterday 18:05

Some of the replies on this thread make me think I've slipped into the twilight zone...can't imagine getting worked up over a man sitting in his car (having the engine on for a bit is probably because he's cold).

Iheartmysmart · Yesterday 18:05

My car broke down outside someone’s house many years ago when DS was still a baby. It was in town so mostly terraced houses with no driveways so I was literally right outside the front door.

A lovely lady came out of her house and asked if I was okay, and did DS need anything. She brought me a cup of tea and biscuits and told me to knock on the door if I wanted to go in and wait. We were probably there a couple of hours until the breakdown van turned up.

I sent her some flowers to thank her.

HortiGal · Yesterday 18:05

Call the police because someone is in their car on a public street? No wonder their stretched if nonsense like this is called in.

Beyondamountainandoverthesea · Yesterday 18:07

PyongyangKipperbang · Yesterday 17:36

That is not the main issue at all, and I think you know that. I am well aware that I dont own the road.

But a man who I have never seen before sitting directly outside my house all afternoon is weird and I refuse to believe that I am the only person who would be slightly freaked out by it!

So you don't think you are being unreasonable then why ask?!

FWIW I can sit in my car for a few hours because of the nature of my job in visiting people at home and then typing up notes, nobody has called the police on me yet.

Beyondamountainandoverthesea · Yesterday 18:08

HortiGal · Yesterday 18:05

Call the police because someone is in their car on a public street? No wonder their stretched if nonsense like this is called in.

The Police would just laugh no way would they send out officers to this.

HoneyBunny999 · Yesterday 18:11

I worked for DWP years ago and the fraud investigators did this all the time.

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