Would you find this weird…

[GoldfishMemory99]

Woman in her 30s with 3 children (oldest being 11) dating a 18 year old?

This person is a friend and wondering if I should take a step back from the friendship as I am weirded out by it. Aibu?

I'd be disgusted and wouldn't be able to continue the friendship.

knowing how girls are supposed to be more "mature" than boys, people tend to be less weird that way, some expecting a 30yo man to have barely reach the maturity of an 18yo girl 😂

33 so technically yeah she could be his mother.

Not just weird, but wrong. There is something wrong with age gaps when one person is very young, it’s an abuse of power.

And regardless of age, moving any man in with your three young children is very dangerous. Sex offenders often have begun to offend within their teenage years. I understand the desire to distance yourself but in some ways I’d be tempted to remain involved so I could keep an eye on the kids.

The 18 yr old will be happy no rules and sex on tap
I'm sure the novelty will wear thin having three kids around and playing hoosies.

Well this is quite the little drip feed, isn't it?

In the opening post they're just dating.

Now she's moved him in with her and (presumably) all her children.

If this is genuine, I'm surprised you're not worried about yourself that you have to ask randoms if this is unreasonable.

He's barely an adult. Legal yes, but also still a teenager. This feels very wrong and exploitative to me. I wonder what his home life is like, I'll bet he has had a tough time and is vulnerable.

She’s near enough a peadophile in my opinion - dating a child under 20

Good lord....completely unimaginable....MN and a parallel universe....how some people live.

Well I would.

Moving him in after a month? I'd be more worried about him using her to gain access to her children.

I am worried that so many posters on here have such twisted minds.

I am not excusing what she is doing, but that is not what paedophilia is 🙄

Yeah that’s beyond odd.

And they never will gain any life experience if they stay home having mummy washing their keks 🤣

I'm a social worker and if you think that's twisted you really have no idea about what goes on in the world.

I think some people have missed the drip feed about her moving him into her kid's home.

To be fair, the OP did bury it a bit.

Oh give it a rest FFS!!

My mum (and her mum too) were married at 19.

Sorry it wasn’t an intentional drip feed, just didn’t want her stumbling onto the post whereas I know she wouldn’t read all the comments. Can’t be to careful these days!

Either way, I’m stepping back from the friendship.

Absolutely.

And will you be having a word with yourself and questioning why you had to ask strangers if they would find it weird?

Or do you think most women in their 30s often move 18 year old lads into their homes to live with their young children a month after dating?

I think a 23yo being with an 18yo is sick, let alone a 33yo.

You might have to do a bit more than step away if your friend finds out you have been virtually calling her a pervert on mumsnet. Like move to a different continent 😂😂

That was the gap between my parents. Married for over 40 years.