Would you find this weird…

[GoldfishMemory99]

Woman in her 30s with 3 children (oldest being 11) dating a 18 year old?

This person is a friend and wondering if I should take a step back from the friendship as I am weirded out by it. Aibu?

Then yes, that's weird.

Nothing like as icky as Boris Johnson's current wife who is 24 years younger than him and is only 5 years older than his eldest acknowledged child. Though I do expect he's already road tested a newer model.

@GoldfishMemory99 , That is not ok at all.
Presumably she is thinking with her fanny not her brain.

why is it icky?

If his wife was a friend of his daughter, that would be weird.
If she was an independent adult he met like he would meet anyone else, who cares.

As long as everybody is a consenting adult, context matters a lot more than age gaps

Yeah it’s really giving me the ick. Only two years older than my eldest! Going to drop her as a friend.

I wouldn't want to associate with her either, mainly because she is putting her children at risk and doesn't seem to have more than one braincell.

Disgusting. Imagine that was the other way around ?

It will be all about sex. He's learning techniques from an older woman, she's getting plenty of rumpy pumpy from an energetic young man. Its unlikely to last. So, unclutch your pearls and stop with the judgements on other peoples LEGAL behaviour!!!

Yeah weird. I don’t think the age gap itself is the issue, 12 years can be fine, irs the fact he’s 18, just literally an adult, no life experience. And I’d also think the same if the genders were reversed.

18 is a child, might be legally an adult but they could still be at school ffs

Ergh

That’s all sorts of creepy. Who says rumpy pumpy for goodness sake, shudder/

I can’t believe some of the answers on here, woman are never at fault on Mumsnet are they?! If this post was “my 30 odd year old brother/ex is seeing an 18 year old” the replies would be much much different!

No wonder kids are so stressed and anxious nowadays. Being told at 18 they are a "child".
They not children. They are old enough to vote, get married, serve in a warzone.
Oh and they can shag any consensual partner they wish

Oh no, this is creepy. She probably sees herself as still being a teenager (heavily in denial) and can't see anything wrong with having such a young boyfriend. What do his parents think? If my teenage son set up home with a woman in her 30s, with children, I would be concerned.

Who said they were setting up home together?

Rumpy pumpy? Which Carry On film have you just fallen out of?

Absolutely grim.

He's moved in with her.

Well you have fun then ! In my eyes a teenager is a child, they have zero life experience, they are still vulnerable and usually still living at home having their pants washed by their mommy!

She’s got him living with her & her children, that is setting up home together.

The thing with age gaps is it really depends on maturity doesn’t it. A 12 year age gap between an 18 year old and 30 year old feels different to that of a 45 year old and a 32 year old for instance because a 32 year old is likely to have lived through adulthood experiences. An 18 year old is more like a teenager where experience is concerned.

Now that is weird, it will be like having another kid in the house unless he is very mature and is going to pull his weight with the cooking and cleaning. Somehow I doubt this will happen.

How far into her 30s is she? Early, mid or late? Is she old enough to be his mother?

Yep, this would be weird and if it was my 18 year old daughter I would not be happy at all