Joke at my expense at networking event

[Reubensway]

I am self employed and attend various business/network events, this morning I went to one I hadn’t attended before but had heard positive things about.

There was about 25/30 people there, and it is essentially ‘chaired’ by one man. After I have my presentation about my business, he made a comment about where I am from (Liverpool). He said that anyone with their purses or wallets in front of them on the table should hide them immediately, to some muffled laughter from a few others.

Am I being unreasonable to expect professional standards as opposed to stereotypical jokes? I won’t return to this particular meeting.

And therefore forever exempt from any gentle banter while simultaneously engaging in it in regards to other cities, especially Manchester and London, but that’s fine because it’s the legendary scouse wit.

It’s not gentle piss taking to be accused of being a thief or never having a job. It’s not nearly the same thing as being asked where you parked your tractor. Nobody believes that most Welsh people drive tractors. What’s wrong with driving a tractor anyway? But people do believe that scousers are all lawless, workshy, sub-intelligent layabouts.

@Reubensway
Bet he's the type to throw in "banter" about race as well if he's reading the room and imagines they're like him
A type who has to get a cheap laugh to make himself feel/look big and for the record,
He's as professional as a donkeys behind!

No I don’t think you’re right. People don’t think that scousers are lawless thieves. People know that is the stereotype but I don’t think any right minded people think that at all. It’s just an easy low hanging fruit to make a lame one liner.

Trust me the stiffled laughs were at him not at you.

a few years ago someone at a work event took a cheap shot at me and I felt really embarrassed. I found out afterwards the room really judged him for it and he didn’t get the work although it didn’t feel like that in the moment.

It may be like 'I can take the piss out of my mum/kid/sister etc but you are certainly not allowed to.' And that is fine.

That's awful and not funny in the least. I didn't even know people still used that 'joke'.

that’s completely out of order.

Why should you miss out on networking opportunities because of him, especially as you’d heard good reports of this group? I think you should go to the next one and complain to him. Hopefully he’ll apologise. If not you could consider reporting him to his employer or whoever he works with so he doesn’t feel he can do it again. Or at least say to him you’ll do that.

Oh please. I’ve been a visitor to Liverpool multiple times and always made to feel welcome. Great hospitality.

Glad to hear it Zanatdy. We love looking after our visitors and try our best to make them welcome.

As for the drunks on the Mersey Ferry allegation from that other poster. Never happened. They wouldn't have been allowed on the ferry. Neither would they have been allowed on Merseyrail.

Some people have landed here for a bit of Liverpool bashing rather than give the OP advice on a nasty bully of a man running an employment networking day.

Idiots perpetuating stereotypes, particularly in a work environment bullying a new person as the OP experienced, need calling out for what they are.

Jesus this is so unacceptable. Who the fuck thinks it’s fine?!

People don’t generally think gay men are going to pinch other men’s arses but that doesn’t mean it wouldn’t be outrageously homophobic to joke about that.

Seriously have a rethink. Everyone has said that it isn’t banter, it isn’t OK. You’re the only one defending it. Does that not tell you something?

Everyone in my London team always talks about how great Liverpool is, and how friendly the people are, and so funny too. Seriously, it’s a fab city, and I love how proud scousers are of their city. Those making the jokes have probably never been. I managed a scouser and she’s often said how inferior she feels to colleagues with southern accents who sound posher than she does. I remind her that everyone values what she says, as she is brilliant at her job, and it makes me sad that she feels that way. And no doubt, it’s these kind of ‘jokes’ that contribute to that.

I’ve had quite a few likes on my comments which suggests that some people reading the thread agree with me, but yes, most seem to disagree. I’m fine with that. I’m not a fan of the presenters words, but I think comparisons to racism and the amount of hurt this seems to cause are completely disproportionate.

Really unprofessional of him at a business event. What a dick, obviously just trying to show off.

On a side note I always find it interesting that there are a number of cities and counties in England that always seem to become part of the national conversation and develop strong stereotypes, while other cities/counties remain almost invisible outside their region. Main character energy 🤣

There are ways to present to a group and make it lively and interesting, and even humorous, without making a stereotypical and dated joke to humiliate someone.

I hope you complain to the organisers.

The irony of your posts here doesn't escape me. Many years ago now, you posted about catching a plane up to Scotland because you were worried about your Mother getting bullied by the school committee at an AGM or something.
How very thin skinned of you both. To use your words.

Yet here you are, overly invested in minimising the words of a man bullying a woman giving a work presentation. Claiming "likes" to prop up repeating your own stereotyped generalisations about the residents of a City. You wouldn't have dared sat across the desk in work in Liverpool and made those comments to your colleagues but hiding behind a screen makes you Big Licks.

The OP posted here for support. The likes of you and your unhelpful comments, stop young women trying to make their way in business from asking advice. No wonder she hasn't come back to the thread.
You must be so proud.

Really that’s caused so much outrage? Just roll your eyes and move on (I’m also from Liverpool)

Lol yeah right. Of course you are.

Yep born, raised and still live here. Just looking outside as the sun sets over a sky that can’t decide whether it wants to rain or not. Do you want my postcode?

Yeah, go on.

Isn’t that a really old joke that’s now seen as offensive? Also I thought it was stealing car parts, and came from the 80s when there was a lot of poverty in the area. I can’t work out why anyone would think that’s funny,

Yes it’s just a really crap joke, eyes rolled and move on…

Wow. Going fully into archeology of my posts where I had concern for my family. All because I dared to question whether OP was taking this too personally and that sometimes the otherwise funny and banter full citizens of Liverpool suffer a sense of humour bypass when it’s their turn to be the punchline.

Perhaps you’d like to dig up stuff about illnesses I’ve had, or problems I’ve had at work? I’m not allowed an opinion on a lame joke because family members were hounded out of a job or my hours changed without consultation?