To not want to drive someone else’s car all week?

[BlueberryMummy]

A friend borrowed my car on Friday because she needed to go and pick up something that wouldn’t fit in her car (it would fit in her car, the only reason it wouldn’t is because her car is full of stuff) and then I had to go out before she got back and her car keys were at mine so she told me to take her keys and her car and then since then our paths haven’t crossed to swap the cars back and I’ve messaged her and called her a few times to ask if we can swap the cars back and she just keeps saying she is busy at that moment but will find time soon to swap the cars back. She’s now asking if she can keep my car until Friday as she needs to go somewhere on Friday and what she is taking won’t fit in her car again because her car is full of stuff and in return I keep her car until Friday. But I just want my car back now. My car is a 2016 Volkswagen Tiguan and her car is a 2024 Range Rover. My husband says I’m overreacting and making a mountain out of a molehill. I feel she is being funny about just giving me my car back, she could have found time already to give me my car back and she certainly could find time before Friday to give me my car back. We both have fully comp insurance on our own cars and are insured to drive other cars but we are only covered for 3rd party damage on other cars. AIBU to not want to drive someone else’s car all week and AIBU to just want my car back now?

If it’s not outside her house or work I would call the local garages and ask if it’s there. Or call the police and they will find it for you.

This genuinely is one of the most bizarre threads I've seen on here, and that's saying something... I cannot countenance being this wet.

This is a wind up surely? Do you not have any friends or relatives who can mind kids for an hour while you go round at 9pm? Buy some baby sitter time. If she is a friend you must know where she works? Take a long lunch and go in the day to workplace. So many ways to sort this.
I can understand you can't go round with kids due to car seats but you must be able to arrange something.

This has just got weird vibes all over it! Do you know her work pattern so you can put your kids in the car and drive to her house as she arrives back home or leaves for work? Failing that, do you know where she works, so you can swap cars there?

There seems to be something very dodgy about this...

But equally having no access to car seats must be massively inconvenient if you're the main parent? That alone would make me furious.

Only in an emergency.

Tell your friend she needs a van! We're thinking of a Kia PV5 passenger next. Less than half the price of a Range Rover.

I would send a message that if the car isn't parked on my drive with the keys in my hand by a certain time and day that you will be reporting it to the police as being driven without your consent.

Or maybe she is using her car to commit a crime? I know unlikely but possible.

Jesus what a fucking nutcase your friend is - tell her to return it BY TONIGHT!!!

I can’t even think of a scenario where the owner of the RR would be happy with this situation- feels very strange

Drive to her house.

If she isn’t in and your car isn’t there ring her and tell her you’re going to report it stolen.

maybe shes had a prang and its in a garage being fixed with out you finding out lol

It speaks to someone who cares little about their possessions and probably doesn't massively respect others.

@BlueberryMummy have you reported it as stolen yet?

Dear non friend, bring my car back by 6pm tonight, otherwise I am reporting you to the police for car theft. I will give them your home and work address to come and arrest you.

tell her you're going to report your car stolen if she doesn't give it back today

This is mental.

It sounds like she is a taker not a friend. She has made it clear she's not going to play fair and she thinks (rightly) that by dodging you she can get more of what she wants for free.
Does she take the car to work? If so can you turn up at her work and demand it back in a place where she won't want her colleagues hearing "I agreed to lend you my car overnight, not for 2 weeks. You can't just keep avoiding me. I need my car back."
Right now it is your problem and she quite clearly doesn't care, so you need to take the problem to her and make it her problem.

seems like shes damaged it and itsnot ready yet-dont lend her or swap cars again

Tbf I'd be quite happy to walk away with a 2024 Range rover over a 2016 Tiguan

This situation is madness. Who let's someone just keep their car for a week or more? Who's happy to just leave their 2024 range rover with a friend to drive indefinitely on 3rd party insurance? Why can't she hire a van if she has so much stuff, or clear out her own massive car

Grow a backbone, tell her you need to your car back now and go round there This evening night demand your car back. If she doesn't give it back I'd be considering it theft at this point

Report to the police! Driving a vehicle without permission is a criminal offence

Tbf I'd be quite happy to walk away with a 2024 Range rover over a 2016 Tiguan

But I also agree with this 😂

Hopefully she hasn't ragged it past any speed cameras..

Surely if her own car is full if stuff its stuff she must use/need regularly.

This does sound all very odd and as though she's hiding something.

@BlueberryMummywhat are you actually doing to get your car back?

I would be phoning her continually until this was rectified. I don’t understand why you are being so passive

I think OP has left the thread. That or she is walking to collect her car