To not want to drive someone else’s car all week?

[BlueberryMummy]

A friend borrowed my car on Friday because she needed to go and pick up something that wouldn’t fit in her car (it would fit in her car, the only reason it wouldn’t is because her car is full of stuff) and then I had to go out before she got back and her car keys were at mine so she told me to take her keys and her car and then since then our paths haven’t crossed to swap the cars back and I’ve messaged her and called her a few times to ask if we can swap the cars back and she just keeps saying she is busy at that moment but will find time soon to swap the cars back. She’s now asking if she can keep my car until Friday as she needs to go somewhere on Friday and what she is taking won’t fit in her car again because her car is full of stuff and in return I keep her car until Friday. But I just want my car back now. My car is a 2016 Volkswagen Tiguan and her car is a 2024 Range Rover. My husband says I’m overreacting and making a mountain out of a molehill. I feel she is being funny about just giving me my car back, she could have found time already to give me my car back and she certainly could find time before Friday to give me my car back. We both have fully comp insurance on our own cars and are insured to drive other cars but we are only covered for 3rd party damage on other cars. AIBU to not want to drive someone else’s car all week and AIBU to just want my car back now?

This is so rude, she's not your pal I'm afraid op. If I were you I'd just go round at a time she thinks you'll be in with your kids, give them an adventure before bedtime to make it fun and go round about 8pm, get your car back. I honestly think you need to exert that control, she is taking the piss.

Or reply and say the answer is NO. If you haven't got time to swap the cars tell me when you're home and ILL come and swap them, I'm not asking you I'm telling you I want my car back before Friday, its not a discussion, and it won't be borrowed again after this.

Are you both insured to drive any/each others car...? Aside from that, she's obviously taking liberties.

this. Why did you say yes in the first place?

Agree with pps that she's either had a bump in yours or she's hiding hers from bailiffs etc. I guess you'd know if she was the type to be using yours for dodgy purposes?
Actually can't believe you've let it go on this long though tbh. And get a spare key cut for yours when you get it back!

Oh for gods sake op. Grow a pair. Go round at night and get your car back, stop faffing about.

With my nasty cynical hat on. Has she scraped it or crashed it? Had she committed a crime in hers? Has she already filled yours up with crap? Does she need a bland car not associated with her to spy on her cheating husband, visit her lover or commit a crime?

This is so weird!

Has she done anything like this before or is this totally out of character?

Has she damaged your car in some way and is trying to get it fixed before you know?

Tell her you need to move some stuff and if she hasn't returned your car by x time then you'll be calling round and emptying the contents of her car onto her front lawn so there's room in hers for the stuff you need to move.

Yeah so this is really weird and out of order. This is not how friends behave.

She’s either banged it or taken it on a trip somewhere and isn’t back until the weekend. Either way, she’s a CF and not a friend. Chuck your kids in her car and drive over this evening!
This is wild!

Message her saying that you need your car and if she cannot give you a time when you can swap back you will have to report it missing to the police as you will withdraw concent for her to drive it.

I would wonder whether she'd pranged it and she's getting it repaired so can't give it back yet. Have you actually seen it since she borrowed it? When you go round there and she isn't in is the car actually on her drive?

I would tell her she has until 6 pm tonight to return it or you are going to report it as stolen.
And I would go through with it.

It's an absolute fucking cheek.

"I need my car back within the next day or I'm going to have to report it stolen. I've told you that I can't accommodate and you're keeping it against my wishes. Please bring me my car back".

You'll likely lose her as a friend over this regardless of how you word it, so just be firm. But it sounds like she takes advantage and isn't a very good friend in the first place.

This is absolute madness, I feel angry for you! 😡

Ohhh good take on this, I’d not considered that.

@BlueberryMummy Are you ever coming back to update us?

Wow.

I think she’s pranged it, or maybe gone away with it?! What a cheeky bitch!

Yeah you could end up in a right mess here OP.
What has she actually used your car for? If its anything dodgy then you are implicated.

I would drive to her house at 5am or 11pm or some other random time (leave kids with family) have your husband follow you in his car....having bagged up all her shit.....dump it on her front garden and block your car in with her car....then get in your husbands car and drive home.
Await the call....

yeah you need to do this, then report your car as stolen.

She's absolutely crashed it. Ask her.

Was the car there?

I reckon she’s had an accident and is trying to get it repaired without you knowing.

I have been friends with a woman for 58 years, we are like sisters. Would I lend her my car? No. Would she ask? No. She is probably one of the best drivers I know and I still wouldn’t. You should contact your “friend” and tell her you want your car back immediately. You don’t need to give a reason. Then block her. She isn’t a friend. Like others I’m suspicious about why she wanted to borrow your car and hasn’t returned it. Do people really drive around in expensive cars on just third party insurance?

Yeah she’s out gallivanting around in your car! Tell her to return it today or you’ll report it stolen. You’ll lose the friendship but I’d not consider this a loss at this point.