AIBU to wonder how we spent so much doing nothing?

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We were all exhausted this weekend, and literally didn't move further than 1 mile from our house.

How is it possible to spend so much money going nowhere and doing nothing?

Yes of course, our shopping was up £40 from last month and I was missing a few items
but going out for lunch or buying coffee the prices are there, and it is an indulgence I am either prepared to pay or not I can honestly say I have never said blimey at a take away coffee!

Yep.

But I've never spent a weekend eating out and then said "I've done nothing how have I spent 100s??".

Spoilt is probably true!

Yeah life is really expensive these days. Little things that we used to just take for granted, a trip to park with an ice cream and a coffee from the cafe is £20, pop to the shop for milk and bread or a few bits for an impromptu BBQ, £20. Take the kids to a classmates birthday party - present and a coffee for me as there's no point going home for an hour, £20.

And yes, we could say no to it all, but 5 years ago my wages were roughly the same and those things cost 2/3 of what they do now. It's bonkers.

You're obviously well qualified for highly paid government positions.

The OP said it was just for her husband. Therefore £50($70) is a lot for one person. She has since revised it to her and her husband but it’s still a bit steep.

Take away food 70
Coffee. 25
Artisan bread 4
Brunch 50
Misc. 28

Well there's a big chunk of unnecessary...
And your tesco shop didn't even include bathroom essentials!

Wha money did you spend and what in?

It's listed on the first page.

So in your first post you said you'd gone nowhere and done nothing all weekend but spent lots of money.

When questioned you said you'd spent £500-600.

Further questioning elicited the information that you'd stayed within a mile of your house.

Then you changed the story to say you'd done nothing special.

It transpires that you spent around £420 over the weekend, which included a variety of activities including a £50 brunch at Bill's, coffees out, a £70 takeaway, swimming for DC, a supermarket food shop of £180 and £45 at the butchers, and a bit of shopping.

When other PP say that's actually quite a lot going on, especially going out for brunch, you replied "I didn't mean we LITERALLY did nothing and went nowhere!".
So, pointless saying that in the first place then, and completely undermines your complaint that a weekend doing nothing and going nowhere costs SO much money.

"And anyway, brunch at Bill's and a £70 takeaway is nothing special for us, they're not treats".
Your privilege is definitely showing here.

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Come on...

This is a ridiculous and tone deaf thread and i don’t usually care but this is so disingenuous. i didn’t do much this weekend- walk, coffee lunch and went swimming. Less than £50 and lunch was for two.
Absolutely nothing wrong with having money and being able to spend a lot of it in one weekend but don’t pretend that t you are surprised you spent a lot when it is obvious you will have spent a lot.

Swimming is a club, it didn't cost me a penny this weekend.

It's a monthly DD.

Yes. But op might well have more disposable income than we do, and be used to more special, impactful, things than a few coffees, some groceries and Bills for brunch à deux of a weekend. Some people have more money than others, hey ho.

Seems mean!

That is irrelevant to what i was saying

I know what you mean! Not quite that much for me but the amount of money you can spend on food and household can quickly mount up. You expect evening meals out to be pricey and more of a treat, but takeaways and coffees out are so pricey now. Not to mention the Boots trips (2 teen DDs).

So what would you call a treat if having a meal out /spending £50/70 twice in 2 days isn’t ?

Exactly
I think it is very admirable to prioritise such a huge expense for the benefit of her children, especially as a lone parent
but it is still a CHOICE
my son has SEN and I had to fight for him to get a statement that provided him specialist primary and a straight through full time 1-1
my other 2 boys are NT
all went to state school and have excelled

I couldn’t have afforded to chose private, and neither would have I imposed the associated economies on 2 DS for the good of 1

it IS a choice, and it’s a bit unreasonable to suggest it isn’t

For comparison our weekend was
Saturday:
Took DD to see grandparents - free
Bought a dog food container bin online - £40
Took DD for a 'puddle walk' in the rain - free

Sunday:
Took DD to a toddler club - free
Did the shopping in Tesco for the week - £90

All meals were eaten at home so free.
Total: £130

Other weekends we'd do an activity that cost us like a farm but we'd never be able to afford spending £400+.

I’m afraid I don’t see the point of this thread.

This is a really annoying thread and I’m not enjoying OPs faux naivety. We don’t eat out twice a month unless on holiday so twice in one weekend and then acting like you’ve done nothing seems crazy to me.

heres a comparison:

Saturday
took ds to drama and dd to her part time job
I had some work to do so kids did homework and piano practice while I worked
watched a film in the evening with takeaway thai food

sunday
kids went to their dads mid morning
i listed some things on vinted
walked my dogs
did the weekly shop £80

I wouldn’t say we did nothing, it was a nice weekend with a takeaway treat. Your life sounds extremely privileged and you sound out of touch.

You've already paid the money for this club via a monthly DD, but there is a cost for it.

But that's not what you said in your first post.

You said how much money you spent GOING NOWHERE and DOING NOTHING. Not that what you did was nothing special.

Then acted all surprised when people took you at your word, and said 'well, I didn't mean it literally!'.
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