AIBU to wonder how we spent so much doing nothing?

[coulditbeme2323]

We were all exhausted this weekend, and literally didn't move further than 1 mile from our house.

How is it possible to spend so much money going nowhere and doing nothing?

I think that's the parents job!

I got a bit of cash out for nails - but I spent a bit less than I thought.

Right? How the other half live.

I had a busy, spendy weekend for us. Takeaway £30. 2x coffee stops (!! Very rare), £25 total. Kids ride treat £3. Parking £6.5 (Tesco clubcard day out).

But it would seem that was actually a quiet weekend doing not much.

Well yeah, but judging by threads like these it’s obviously not happening!

what do you think other people with SEN children do?

I can't see one post that suggests that.

That wasn't the conversation we were having though.

but to answer your question, the OP's initial few posts annoyed me, but actually what she's saying I agree with. It has become ridiculously easy to spend s lot of money on the run of the mill family life stuff.

years ago lots of people had fish & chips on a Friday night just as a cheap 'no cook' night, it was routine, not some 'big treat'.

she bought 3 kids books at a charity shop & chopping boards & people are going on about 'going out shopping'

she had a very 'nothing' weekend that shouldn't have cost a lot of money, but now it does.

shes not saying she is hard up or needs to cut back on spending, just shes surprised that the 'nothing' weekend cost so much now.& I fully agree.

I can 🤷🏻‍♀️

You have summed up what I was trying to say better than me.

This is not a woe is me, or that I want budgeting tips, just that it's so easy to spend doing nothing much at all.

Fair enough.

Well you weren't doing nothing really, you spent a lot of time shopping, going out to eat and drink and ordering takeaways

I couldn't do that within 5 miles of my house, not even the takeaway because they don't deliver this far out. I had no idea my choice of house has a money saving aspect.

Your thread title is goady then, because it explicitly says you spent "so... much" and then you're not just not prepared to say how much, you're questioning why people who took the time to read your post are interested in how much you spent 🙄

So minus food shopping you spent £241 on mainly eating/drinking minus chopping boards and toiletries

and I wouldn’t say you had a weekend doing nothing

Swimming lessons
chinese for tea

Coffee out with dh
brunch with dh

now my weekend really was quiet for once

£2.50 tea while at dd gymnastics class

then homework and chilled at home watched a movie and snacks via Aldi shopping last weeks shop

Sunday saw ex dh in afternoon

so spent £2.50 over the weekend as basically skint at the moment

tho her direct debit went out for her gym which was £225

I listed it on the first page!

But again, your OP makes it sound like you didn't go over the doorstep all weekend, when in fact you live less than a mile from a high street or shopping centre, in which case it's hardly a stretch to think you could spend a fair bit without going far.

What was the point of your thread again?

A lot of time out shopping??

3 kids books in a charity shop & a chopping board in TK Max.

how long exactly would that take you?? 🤣🙇🏻‍♀️

How easy it is to spend not doing anything special.

Surely the main point is that take away food and drinks and restaurant eating are ridiculously expensive and tend not to be very good value (or healthy).

In my rural area it's quite possible to have home made cakes at a cafe, and by comparison Gails cakes taste artificial and horrible.

I quite understand why you did what you did, but it is the case that eating out used to be an occasional treat for people and now it's considered an everyday norm. But it comes as a price.

I'm not good at this myself, but I do know people locally who bulk cook and freeze. Then they can whip a cake or dish out of the freezer when they're tired or someone comes round.

They're not all old biddies like me, though most are. 😂

A lot of time out shopping??

And in cafes and going out to eat, I said.

I was probably in town for an hour Saturday and maybe 2 hours Sunday.

I need a Chihuahua right now to buy those dresses.

We get it OP, you have a nice life. Congratulations.

Yeah I agree, it's incredibly difficult to get through even a day without spending a fortune sometimes. I went through a phase of carrying cash and no card recently to try and get around this but still spent way more than I would have liked just trying to survive. I read somewhere once that being an adult means spending £30 every time you leave the house. I think that's closer to £80 these days.

But your spending was special or "frivilous" which is fine, you had a nice weekend out and about eating and shopping! Not everyone does that every weekend and when they do they don't say i did nothing.

Thank you.