AIBU to be surprised my neighbour objected to us entering their garden?

[JoJoMamaBeeBee]

Next door neighbour, and I share general chit chat and relevant tx messages about the neighbourhood, I often roll their bins in if they are blocling their driveway so they dont have the hassle and can just park up when they get home.

They were out for the day, we were due to be travelling at 10am for the weekend. Our naughty cat got out just before we were leaving and ran into their fully open garden, there is no fence or gate at the side of the house.

Hubby goes down the side of their house with a bag of dreamies, sits on the patio to try and coax cat back in (unsuccesfully)

Couple of hours later I get a message asking why he was there, I explained what had happened and apologised, the response was do not go in our garden when we are not there without asking first.

I didnt respond. If im honest it took me by surprise, our garden is open the same as theirs and I wouldnt have an issue at all, if anything it was funny. Thoughts please!

Well I wouldn’t go in their garden again without asking, but I also wouldn’t be doing them any favours like the bins.

I’m with your neighbours on this one, sorry.

I wouldn’t have done that.

I wouldn't dream of going into a neighbour's garden without invitation, and definitely not staying. For that reason, I'd find it very odd if a neighbour did it to me. I probaly wouldn't be brave enough to say anything, but it would make me feel uncomfortable.

YANBU but some people are weird 😳 like your neighbours. Lots of them
are on MN too. they will be all over your thread.

I think they sound obnoxious and I'd be limiting contact with them.

Fair enough perhaps to ask why he was hanging around, but once they explanation of 'trying to fetch the cat' was given I think the second message was rude.

How long do you think he was sitting there for?

I think I’d feel a bit awkward.

I think maybe if your husband needed to do that you could have text her and asked if it’s ok or even text her to say sorry DH has popped into your garden to get the escaped cat back, hope that’s ok.
how quickly after did she message?

Only on MN. Seriously folks, he was getting the bloody cat- not pooping or perving in their garden!
@JoJoMamaBeeBee I would def stop the friendly services. If they ask just tell them you don't dare to touch anything of theirs since they were so miffed about your dh fetching your cat. Lunatics!

Assuming they had cameras and saw him just randomly sat on their furniture as if hes contemplating life. It would freak me out too.

Didn't you think to ring them and ask first considering you have their number?

I wouldn’t like my neighbours in my garden but for an emergency like trying to catch a pet that’s not meant to be out i would totally understand.

Why on earth does their garden being 'open' have anything to do with it? It's their garden, not yours, and they're totally allowed to ask you to stay out of it.

I'm actually impressed they had the gumption to tell you outright to keep out of it, rather than beat around the bush. Now you know where the boundaries are, you don't need a gate or a fence now.

If the garden is open , I don’t see the problem.. your neighbours are being OTT

Really weird how old are they?

Id not be doing anything for them again

Those saying to not be friendly anymore....yeah try that and you'll end up having a neighbour war.

He sat on their patio for how long? It will have looked very odd to the neighbours.

I had a fire once and a neighbour kicked my side gate in and turned my hosepipe on…..cheeky bugger never asked me! OP, obviously if your neighbours house catches fire don’t go in their garden without permission to help. 😆

Wouldn't bother me in the slightest. Your neighbours are weird 😐

He was trying to get an escaped cat , what a bizarre thing for them to grumble about

Let them roll their own bins in in future .

Saw on our camera our ndn and his dgs entering our garden.
We were abroad.
I messaged our other ndn did he know what was going on and he said the ndn had lost their tortoise.
Ok. No problem.

Your neighbours are strange.

Maybe they don’t like your husband.

I think you should have sent a text to ask them if you could go in their garden or at least told them he was doing it.

Yes I think once you said "we were looking for the cat" they should have said ok fine

I didnt think tbh because it didnt seem a big deal and we were in a rush!

Tbf, it doesn’t sound like the neighbours have asked OP to do this. We used to have a neighbour that did this and then thought it was such a big help to us that we should do favours for them. They had a strop when we refused to feed their cat twice a day for 3 weeks when they went on holiday because they had brought our bins in once a week. They said they would no longer do us the big favour of bringing our bins in. How did we cope? 😂

We don’t have neighbours close by now thankfully.