AIBU to be surprised my neighbour objected to us entering their garden?

[JoJoMamaBeeBee]

Next door neighbour, and I share general chit chat and relevant tx messages about the neighbourhood, I often roll their bins in if they are blocling their driveway so they dont have the hassle and can just park up when they get home.

They were out for the day, we were due to be travelling at 10am for the weekend. Our naughty cat got out just before we were leaving and ran into their fully open garden, there is no fence or gate at the side of the house.

Hubby goes down the side of their house with a bag of dreamies, sits on the patio to try and coax cat back in (unsuccesfully)

Couple of hours later I get a message asking why he was there, I explained what had happened and apologised, the response was do not go in our garden when we are not there without asking first.

I didnt respond. If im honest it took me by surprise, our garden is open the same as theirs and I wouldnt have an issue at all, if anything it was funny. Thoughts please!

How often is your cat in their garden OP?
If it’s a lot, maybe this was the straw that broke the camel’s back?

Where does fetching a goat without asking from someone's field lay on the spectrum of upsetting neighbours 🤔

in your shoes, I would have text them just to say what happened with the cat and why your husband needed to go into their garden. That probably would have done the trick and they would not have sent such an irritated text in the first place.

Grabbing a ball takes 30 seconds. You were lying on their patio for 15 minutes! It's hardly the same thing. I guarantee it looked weird. You're lucky they are just asking politely for you not to go there again!

I don't see why mutual exchange of good will as taking the bins should mean coming freely to their garden.

In the time of ring doorbells, the only reasonable way is to call/send a message first before going there, so when they get the notification, they know they allowed it.

And no, if children kick the ball over a fence, they can't just go and pick it up.

Well he'll be in there a lot more if I can't go and get him! 😂

I've no idea, he's a cat and doesn't understand where he can and can't go. He just tends to sit under the tee in our garden normally.

I don’t have any of my neighbours numbers so in your shoes I would probably have knocked first to see if they were in and let them know, but if they weren’t home then yeah I’d just go in and retrieve the cat 🤷🏻‍♀️

I think based on your relationship it feels a bit off that they would react to that. But maybe it’s due to what they saw on the camera and got a bit freaked out??

but if that were me, once the cat explanation had been shared I’d have been ok. Especially as you were going away and need to grab the cat!!

Well obviously he was in a rush to get there and get eyes on the cat to ensure it didn’t keep going out the other side of the garden.

This sums it up perfectly!

Although naughty cat needs extra cuddles to become good cat IMO!

I must find that post, it may be them 😂

If I come across it I'll link it.

Their second text was rude and unnecessary.

Do they even know you roll their bins in? I bet they don't, they probably assume the bin men left them like that.

Because if they did know, that's even more rude and ungrateful.

Text back asking if that includes rolling their bins in out of their way like you've been doing all this time?

Don't go into their garden again but uniquely never get their bins in again. Treat neighbour carefully from now on.

I wouldn't have rang or asked permission to get my cat from the neighbours yard I had access. However, I would not have sat on their furniture. I do think they are overreacting once you explained. But for future reference you know that it might be worth to take a step back.

And no, if children kick the ball over a fence, they can't just go and pick it up.

And since there is no fence or gate, I would rather have the neighbours kids to just rin and get the ball and not bother me by calling or ringing the doorbell.

In hindsight we could have pushed the ring doorbell, but I still maintain if it were the other way around it wouldnt bother me in the slightest once they explained, thats if I even asked.

it wouldnt bother me in the slightest

Which is pretty irrelevant...

@JoJoMamaBeeBee I wouldn’t have liked neighbours coming into the garden without permission tbh.

However, I’d also have been miffed to receive the text from your neighbour if going into the garden couldn’t be helped. So I’d not be moving the bins for them in the future.

Different scenario.

www.mumsnet.com/talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/5538405-aibu-to-feel-uneasy-that-neighbours-went-into-my-garden

Ok...... 🙄

Whether it bothered me would completely depend on my relationship with my neighbours. Our current ones who are lovely (and I know would g
have sent me a text to say 'sorry, just had to pop into your garden quickly because of....) I would have no issue with. The ones in our last house I would have been annoyed as they were super rude and disrespectful people in general

OP did you message them afterwards, once you were on your way and had time?

I wonder if they saw a man hanging out in their garden and it frightened them/disturbed them before they realised who it was?

This reminds me of the recent thread about the broken down driver who sought refuge on someone’s driveway. A surprising number of people think the sanctity of their external property trumps absolutely everything.

Look at it from this angle

They wasted a good 20 mins of their day literally watching your hubby behave weirdly in their garden wondering what on earth he was doing.

20 mins they cant get back

Why does he do this??? I live with a man we are both in our 50's. Started off 13 yrs ago as a romance but quickly ended as I wasn't what he wanted. Anyway hes now a lodger, has his own lounge and bedroom and has a girlfriend. My issue is miney he owes me. If i owe him a pound he'll hound me for it. Currently his rent is very low. We agreed if anything goes wrong we'd go halves, so he Currently owes me half a washing machine and half a microwave. I also did some work for him for a qualification for his job which he said he'd give me £30, which he hasn't given me. He started working permanent weekends and assumed I'd agreed to take him to working on Saturday and Sunday at 5.15am. It's a 5 mile ride onto the city where i drop him off. Up to today that's 13 trips plus 10 pick ups from a local area on his way home. He said he'd pay me but never specified an amount. As he says we are not a couple, nor are we friends, but he sees me as his taxi driver, grocery shopper, prescription picker upper etc. However much hes racking up in money he owes me he never offers to pay. I think its a control thing, but how do I get him to pay what he owes????