AIBU to be surprised my neighbour objected to us entering their garden?

[JoJoMamaBeeBee]

Next door neighbour, and I share general chit chat and relevant tx messages about the neighbourhood, I often roll their bins in if they are blocling their driveway so they dont have the hassle and can just park up when they get home.

They were out for the day, we were due to be travelling at 10am for the weekend. Our naughty cat got out just before we were leaving and ran into their fully open garden, there is no fence or gate at the side of the house.

Hubby goes down the side of their house with a bag of dreamies, sits on the patio to try and coax cat back in (unsuccesfully)

Couple of hours later I get a message asking why he was there, I explained what had happened and apologised, the response was do not go in our garden when we are not there without asking first.

I didnt respond. If im honest it took me by surprise, our garden is open the same as theirs and I wouldnt have an issue at all, if anything it was funny. Thoughts please!

Agree with this, if he just ran accross thri garden to grab cat fair enough but someone sitting on my patio would make me feel a bit uncomfortable whether i was home or not

If a ball goes over a fence you knock on your neighbours door and ask for permission to get it, if they’re not home you leave your ball till they’re home to ask

He literally just explained why they couldn’t wait for them the neighbours to return. Did you actually read the post?

Did you actually read what I’m commenting on? I’m not talking about a cat, I’m talking about the example he gave and the etiquette of retrieving a ball from a neighbour’s garden

You were out of order to go into their private property without having the decency and respect to message/call them first to ask for permission.

You and your wife sound like my next door neighbours who are also oversteppers.

ETA it's also not ok to go into people's gardens to retrieve balls without permission either. You both need to learn boundaries and respect.

I wouldn't care and certainly wouldn't have sent the second message. Having said that I do remember my old ndn almost giving me a heart attack because he came in to our garden to get his kids football and I saw a shadow going across the window. That did piss me off a bit but certainly not enough to say anything.
I suppose just ignore them as much as possible.

Perhaps create your own post for advice about this user.

Because you let him get away with it. Confront him with an itemized bill and boot him out. Do you really need this jerk?🤔

This is a taat. There’s one posted in the last few days with OP complaining her neighbour were in her garden.

I misread that as your ndn and his dogs and was quite impressed that they were helping search for the tortoise!

Sitting on the patio is a bit more intrusive than just standing in the garden.

Personally I wouldn't go into someone else's back garden, without at least checking with them first. Or if you didn't have time to check first, at least notify them after the event. I'm guessing your neighbour has a camera and received a notification of movement in the garden? If you knew they had a camera I'd have definitely either asked prior to entering or at the very least messaged straight after to tell them.

I understand your husband wasn't doing any harm at all and as a cat Mum myself, I know how mischievous cats can be! If I'd been your neighbours, after hearing the reason, I wouldn't have been bothered. I suspect they think as a courtesy, you should have asked.

That’s the end of the bin service then!

Just take round a bottle of wine, tell them you were panicking about getting away and you are very sorry to have literally crossed the boundary.

Yes weird, over the top reaction from them, especially after you explained you were trying to get your cat back
Maybe they are serial killers and have skeletons in their garden.
Leave their bins in future, ungrateful t@#ts

I've just had a flashback to when I had to go into my neighbour's back garden in the middle of the night (like 3am) to retrieve my dog who had escaped through a broken fence panel and was having a whale of a time exploring a new garden. So much so he was ignoring any attempts to cajole him back through the small hole in the fence. I had to lift another fence panel, prop it open with a torch and climb through to fetch him. The little bastard. It was freezing cold as well. I was terrified he'd wake the neighbours as we'd already had a falling out.

OMG I can't believe so many thing YABU because YAdefNBU.

How parochial to get upset someone went on your garden to get their animal out of it. Who did it harm? Noone.

They need to get a grip.

Stop helping them. They clearly don't value that.

If I looked in my ring camera and saw my neighbour lying on my grass I would be concerned he had fallen - establish he was okay, laugh about the cat and hope he got away on his holiday on time!

my neighbours do knock and ask if they can get their ball from the garden - every time I say they don’t need to ask.

I can’t imagine Cari g that a neighbour tried to catch their cat in my garden.

I think this is probably how the Montagues and Capulets started out. Stone Cold Steve Austin from now on.

..and spent 15 mins sitting on their patio? That's beyond just getting a cat.

I've been in my neighbours (plural, not just one!) gardens at midnight when one of my cats has got out.

I don't think any of them would mind. They'd think I was nuts, but I'm certain they wouldn't be bothered.

I've been burgled in the past and so this sort of thing would freak me out.

In the moment I wouldn't recognise your DH, but a scary figure who shouldn't be there. Then I'd recognise your DH, but the adrenaline would already be pumping and I'd try and find a polite way to ask you WTAF he was doing in my garden.

I'd have done the same and I'd be happy neighbours doing the same. I'm surprised at the number of uptight "but it's private property!" comments. Your neighbours are being difficult. Let's all be kind to our neighbours and let them do what they need to do in a stressful situation. I'd feel annoyed and thrown by the message but would let it go, be the better person and keep helping them with the bins.

Don’t think ever had mr and Mrs on same thread

bad cat. Bad hubby laying on the patio while waiting for bad cat

as cat didn’t come to you did you leave it and go away

they will come home when hungry

neighbours right to be pissed off. Esp as have their number.

You could have them to say cats being a pain. Sorry gonna have to come over to yours

That's a great response. Thank you.