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AIBU to ask my next door neighbours not to smoke indoors?

161 replies

BeansOnToast41 · 05/06/2026 14:27

Genuinely not sure what my own opinion is on this so intrigued to see what the consensus is. My house is an end-of-terrace and the next door neighbours smoke indoors (sometimes normal cigarettes, sometimes weed). I’ve no major issue with smokers, but because they’re doing it inside, the smell comes through to my living room. We’ve not mentioned it to the neighbours and haven’t decided if we will or not (to be fair it isn’t constant) but I’m wondering if it would even be acceptable to ask someone not to do something which they’re well within their rights to do in their own home.

Voting is:

IABU = no you can’t ask someone not to do something in their own home
IANBU = yes totally fine to say something because the smell is coming through the wall

OP posts:
2dogsandabudgie · 07/06/2026 20:35

Oldwmn · 07/06/2026 12:33

My neighbours (very occasionally smoke weed in their garden. I don't really care but be careful what you wish for!
I'd be wondering why you can smell this if they're indoors. Is it because you've both got your windows open? If not, it seems rather odd.

This. I have never had any smells come through walls. Makes me wonder how solid modern houses are.

EMGEMG · 07/06/2026 21:47

I've had this issue due to a one brick party wall. My situation was different as the neighbours at the time were also playing loud music into the early hours on weekdays and smoking weed, which came through to my bedroom and a cupboard converted into a wardrobe so my clothes would start to smell. It only ended after the smoker stopped being there as much. But they didn't care and they started bullying me.
It's only respectful to consider your neighbours - be it loud music or smoke.

CommonSenseSuzy · 07/06/2026 21:56

jinglejanglescarecat · 05/06/2026 14:55

I expect so if it’s causing health issues.

it’s horrible. I’d absolutely hate that. It wouldn’t bother me that someone was smoking in their own home. That’s their body their choice. But if it impacted me and the kids then absolutely would want to do something.

the air purifier sounds like a good idea and maybe getting someone in to look at the wall and any vents. See if something can be done from you side OP

depends what kind of people they are. If they’re abusive and likely to be rude then don’t bother. But if you think they may work with you then I’d try I think.

the council can only take action if something is illegal, not inconsiderate. If you were allergic to peanuts and your neighbours had roasted peanuts every morning then I’m not sure the council could do anything. It’d be down to you to move home.

Hoardasurass · 07/06/2026 23:45

SparklyLeader · 07/06/2026 03:52

Do you own? Or do you rent? If you rent, you can contact the landlord as it is their responsibility to keep your unit free from noxious fumes. He can buy a portable air filter that removes smoke. If you own the unit, you have to buy it.

I live in California so it's weird to me that Britain has not yet voted in protections against second hand smoke. Second hand smoke has well documented harmful effects on people, especially babies and children. Nicotine is a poison. Nicotine falls out of tobacco smoke as the smoke cools covering whatever is beneath the smoke. Babies and children touch everything and put their hands and toys and whatever else in their mouths. It is a very serious health concern because smoke gets everywhere.

Here smokers must go outside an apartment, an office building or multi-unit building (2 or more) 50 feet away from the main door. No smoking in restaurants or bars. It's so nice.

We have laws banning smoking in all pubs, restaurants, work vehicles and indoor businesses/working environments. However people are free to smoke in our own homes and any attempt to change the law to prevent that would hit many legal roadblocks and public pushback.
An English man's home is his castle after all

Hoardasurass · 08/06/2026 00:09

Gettingbysomehow · 07/06/2026 11:14

You really cant imagine how it could affect me? Use your imagination.
My clothes wardrobe is built in a space between my bedroom and theirs and every item of clothing in there stunk of cigarettes and had to be washed.
Anyway its no longer a problem as they smoke outside. I would have been prepared to move house if this problem hadnt been resolved.
I think smokers are the most disgusting, filthy and selfish people around.
How would you like your kids to breath in 60 a day? Not to mention the massive cost to the NHS of their treatment for years on end as they slowly kill themselves.
It should be banned everywhere.
I can wear noise blocking headphones but I cant block the stench of cigarette smoke.
I had a builder round and he said it would cost thousands for him to sort the problem.
Why should I pay thousands when all they have to do is either smoke outside or not right next to my bedroom?
Some people on here are so entitled its untrue.

You do realise that the tax smokers pay on each pack of cigarettes (82% of the cost) more than covers the cost to the NHS of their care.
I wonder do you feel as much hatred towards drug addicts, alcoholics, the obese and anyone else who does something that will eventually kill themselves?
As for why you should pay to rectify a building flaw in your home that should be obvious, but if you don't know its because you bought a poorly built home that needs repairing as if your neighbour's home catches fire your home will have smoke and possibly fire damage as there's a flaw in your firewall

SkippitySkoppity · 08/06/2026 01:37

I still think it's worth having a conversation... Worked for me!

jinglejanglescarecat · 08/06/2026 06:33

CommonSenseSuzy · 07/06/2026 21:56

the council can only take action if something is illegal, not inconsiderate. If you were allergic to peanuts and your neighbours had roasted peanuts every morning then I’m not sure the council could do anything. It’d be down to you to move home.

Well if the nuts were coming into my home then I’d be a bit miffed 😂😂😂😂

Winkblingwink · 08/06/2026 06:38

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Tanjamaltija · 08/06/2026 08:38

I can smell the petrol station, or the cake factory, depending upon which way the wind is blowing. I can also smell cooking, if I am in the backyard. Does that mean I have the right to ask people to not work, or not cook?

Snugglemonkey · 08/06/2026 09:52

Gettingbysomehow · 05/06/2026 14:46

Well I certainly did. My new neighbours moved in and stunk my house out 24 hours a day with their disgusting cigarettes.
I once went round there at three in the morning and said can you stop smoking next to my bedroom because it stinks and I'm working tomorrow. I hadn't had any proper sleep for weeks because of their stench.
So they stopped smoking in the house.
I'm not putting up with that.
If they refuse you can do something - you can get a special air purifier which will take it out of the air and reduce the smell, it must have a carbon filter. The one I looked at was about £500 because it needed to cover quite a large area.
Or you can complain to the council who will tell you what you need to do to prove your complaint, and environmental health if it's affecting your health.

How incredibly entitled! If you called at my door at 3 in the morning you would be told to fuck off!

Winkblingwink · 08/06/2026 11:26

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