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AIBU to ask my next door neighbours not to smoke indoors?

128 replies

BeansOnToast41 · 05/06/2026 14:27

Genuinely not sure what my own opinion is on this so intrigued to see what the consensus is. My house is an end-of-terrace and the next door neighbours smoke indoors (sometimes normal cigarettes, sometimes weed). I’ve no major issue with smokers, but because they’re doing it inside, the smell comes through to my living room. We’ve not mentioned it to the neighbours and haven’t decided if we will or not (to be fair it isn’t constant) but I’m wondering if it would even be acceptable to ask someone not to do something which they’re well within their rights to do in their own home.

Voting is:

IABU = no you can’t ask someone not to do something in their own home
IANBU = yes totally fine to say something because the smell is coming through the wall

OP posts:
Khayker · Yesterday 22:09

BeansOnToast41 · 05/06/2026 14:27

Genuinely not sure what my own opinion is on this so intrigued to see what the consensus is. My house is an end-of-terrace and the next door neighbours smoke indoors (sometimes normal cigarettes, sometimes weed). I’ve no major issue with smokers, but because they’re doing it inside, the smell comes through to my living room. We’ve not mentioned it to the neighbours and haven’t decided if we will or not (to be fair it isn’t constant) but I’m wondering if it would even be acceptable to ask someone not to do something which they’re well within their rights to do in their own home.

Voting is:

IABU = no you can’t ask someone not to do something in their own home
IANBU = yes totally fine to say something because the smell is coming through the wall

Get advice from Environmental Health at your local council. They are best placed to tell you what your optiona are.

eastegg · Yesterday 23:50

SharpTooth · 05/06/2026 16:09

I’m still not convinced anyone could actually stop them. How do you enforce it? Do the police come and break down their door if someone smells a cigarette? Do they get arrested if they get caught? What would be the charge? As annoying as it might be I’m not sure there is actually anything legal that can be done.

I think you’re probably right that it would be pretty difficult to stop someone smoking in their own private home, but do remember that there’s a whole world of legal recourse out there beyond the criminal law, which is what you have referred to with talk of the police and arrest. If there’s a remedy for smoke coming through to your property from your neighbours then it definitely won’t be through the criminal law, you’re right about that…

Nuisance? Negligence? If it’s social housing, the council may be able to be forced to act if it’s a health issue? I dunno, I’m a criminal lawyer! 😂

Spiderx · Today 00:05

BeansOnToast41 · 05/06/2026 14:27

Genuinely not sure what my own opinion is on this so intrigued to see what the consensus is. My house is an end-of-terrace and the next door neighbours smoke indoors (sometimes normal cigarettes, sometimes weed). I’ve no major issue with smokers, but because they’re doing it inside, the smell comes through to my living room. We’ve not mentioned it to the neighbours and haven’t decided if we will or not (to be fair it isn’t constant) but I’m wondering if it would even be acceptable to ask someone not to do something which they’re well within their rights to do in their own home.

Voting is:

IABU = no you can’t ask someone not to do something in their own home
IANBU = yes totally fine to say something because the smell is coming through the wall

I feel your pain . We had a neighbour who smoked cigarettes and weed and let her 2 large dogs poop in her house ,and she didnt clean it up for weeks
The terrible stink did come through the walls of our ,quite, modern semi. It was living hell for us. We complained to her ( absent) landlord, he did nothing
We complained to the letting agent , he did nothing . We complained to environmental health re the bad conditions the dogs were living in , they did nothing either. Luckily she stopped paying her rent and council tax and was eventually evicted
The owner of her house then had to spend months and a fortune refurbishing the property. A disaster for all.

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