AIBU to feel rage over tupperware?

[westmommy]

DH has a wildly irritating way of emptying the dishwasher...

When it comes to tupperware and fiddly little things to put away (eg. toddler cup lids, lemon juicer, food processor compartments etc.) instead of putting things back in their appropriate cupboard, he just creates a mountain of mess on the drying rack and leaves it "for later" i.e he can't be arsed to finish it properly and instead creates an impossible mess and extra task for me to do before I can tidy up all the other mess leftover from meals/general food cooking/dishes!

We have had the discussion (argument) about this many times. I've asked him to stop doing it, literally leave the stuff in the dishwasher instead of just creating another immediate task that must be done before everything else can be cleaned up. It's SO annoying first thing in the morning to start the day with this big pile of plastic mess and something to do simply because he can't finish the task. His response is if this is my biggest problem with him, aren't we lucky. He's worried if the dishwasher is open too long our children might hurt themself on the door?! It's simply not that big a deal etc etc.

But I am so fed up with him blatantly doing something he knows really fucking pisses me off, plus he's literally going out of his way to create a whole other bigger task for later and me to do than just doing it all quickly in the first place!

I thought Anne Summers parties took over from naff Tupperware parties many years ago. 😉

Funnily enough my first thought was put it on his side of the bed too!
In response to this, I would simply not remove it for him. I would wait for him to finish the job he started and remind him as many times as necessary. No washing up if the drying rack is full. No cooking if not enough clean utilities due to lack of washing up. I’d try to aim it to creating problems for him and things he wants if possible. I’m seriously so petty I’d rather buy another cup than put this one away for him if I need it for the children (and secretly wash it up and hide it for when I need it next). Eventually he will see a problem and finish his task. As for the ‘Aren’t you lucky if this is the biggest problem’ routine, he’d be torn a new one for that. And I’d be reusing the phrase as often as i could as I stop doing all those things he likes done that don’t bother me. Oh and I’d send him this too. https://www.huffpost.com/entry/she-divorced-me-i-left-dishes-by-the-sink_b_9055288

On the one hand I would try not to do something that repeatedly pissed off my spouse. Even if I couldn’t see the point and I fully understand the annoying ‘visual noise’ that this kind of thing creates.

On the other hand I leave all the plastic bits near the sink to dry, I wash them all by hand because we’ve had incidents of staining or becoming misshaped in the DW. My teens empty the DW daily and I actively encourage them to leave all the glass Tupperware bases near the draining board so I can match them with their lids.

I wonder if you do anything that really cheeses him off at all ?
If this is all you have to worry about consider yourself fortunate.

Team DH here. If the tupperware is dry when it comes out, I put it away, if not I leave it out to air dry.

Cheap plastic storage basket with holes, lined with a clean tea towel.

Husband empties dishwasher and tosses all plastic fiddly bits in the basket to dry.

When dishwasher empty, now full plastic storage basket goes back in dishwasher and door closed.

You're happy as kitchen doesn't look messy.

He's happy as kids are safe from death by dishwasher.

Or LTB😏

Came here to say this. Pile them in an area that is his or on top of his stuff.

Team DH, but I go a step further as I rinse before I put in drainer. They aren't dry enough to put away, and if not rinsed they eventually go cloudy and chalky from the rinse aid. No lemon scented dishwasher products either.

He empties the dishwasher, but doesn't finish the job, in fact stacks the stuff elsewhere and leaves it for his partner to finish. He can't be bothered to take a minute and finish up when he knows it bugs her and yeah, I call that weaponized incompetence. He's hoping she'll do it and stop bugging him. That would make me basket that stuff up and leave it where it would most inconvenience him until he did the whole job.

Why is your stuff so wet out of the dishwasher?

Sorry OP, I’m with DH - I have created a separate area (a large firm-sided shopping bag) where I chuck all these sorts of things. No need for any further work, all the stuff just lives in there!

Why is your stuff so wet out of the dishwasher?

I have no idea about the science of it, but, just like everyone else on this thread, the tupperware / takeaway pots don't come out dry, so the most efficient thing for me (labour wise) is to leave them on the drainer until they have dried, and put them away then.

Why is your stuff so wet out of the dishwasher?

https://theconversation.com/why-do-plastic-containers-always-come-out-wet-from-the-dishwasher-science-has-the-answer-250656

Is your dishwasher different from everyone else's, @outerspacepotato?

I agree with PP, plastic things come out of the dishwasher wet, so need to be left on the drainer.

Surely leaving clean things in the DW is more inconvienient for the next round of clearing up, than a few bits on the drainer is?

They don’t need to stay out all night though. They can also be dried really easily with a cloth.

Get rid of the dishwasher?......... or the husband?