Could you still hold a grudge against someone from primary school?

[BeardofHagrid]

Just silly girls’ politics during primary school, falling out with each other, accusations of best friends being stolen etc, could you still hold a grudge against someone for that now?

The context is that I saw a woman I was at primary school with recently in a shop and she stormed out when she saw me. I hadn’t seen her for 30 years.

I have no idea who I was at primary school with

When I was in Y3 I was the only girl in the class not invited to a sleepover birthday party. I’ll never forget how that felt and I’m almost 43 now. So I guess there’s a grudge, but then I was raised in Canada (so should write “grade 3”!) and live in the UK; I imagine it’s unlikely I’ll ever see her again.

Oh, I do. I haven't seen her in decades and she only comes into my head when something like this reminds me, but I definitely still hate that absolute cow.

No chance - no energy to keep that sort of nonsense up.

There was a girl at my primary (unfortunately she went to the same secondary as well) who was a complete and utter cow and I would do anything I could to avoid speaking to her if I saw her in adult life (thankfully I havent)

Adulthood, yeah.

Primary school? No.

I think anyone holding a grudge about someone not holding hands with them in the playground or whatever need to let it go.

Very fair.

I will never ever forgive the girl who pulled my pants down in assembly. I see her as an adult and the loathing is still strong

Absolutely, if I ever see Eilidh again you better believe I am going to ask for my 10p back.

I'd love to hear the other woman's version of events. She obviously doesn't remember it as silly girls politics.

I still hold a grudge against the girl who said she couldn't play with me because I was handicapped. Those were her exact words and we were 6. 40 years later I'm still not over it. I have seen her once since leaving school, she tried to speak to me but I just looked through her and carried on. She affected my self confidence so much.

I don’t know about bearing a grudge as such, I wouldn’t still be angry and I wouldn’t wish them any ill at all. Having said that - seven years of seeing someone every day is long enough to be fairly sure that someone is a rotten character and not want to see or interact with them ever again. As an adult I certainly like to think that any child can improve with age, but when it comes to the worst of my childhood bullies I wouldn’t hold my breath.

Screw you, Christine, you bullying cowbag. My tween years were hell because of you.

One person’s “silly girls’ politics” and friend-stealing is another’s bullying, ostracism and isolation. So yes I guess so! I wonder what she would say you did.

Gosh yes! Kevin Smith smacked my head against a window in the cloakroom in year 6. I've never seen him since school, but just thinking about it now gives me rage. I'd love to see him now and give him a kick in the balls for that day.

There's people that sometimes come up on my facebook as friend suggestions- just the name and a photo are enough to have me blocking them. I never wish to interact with those vile creatures ever again. I was bullied as a child.

No. Primary school was 30-odd years ago. None of us are the same people we were then. I would hope we have mostly grown up and matured.

I wouldn’t storm out, but I do semi-regularly actively avoid the two girls that made four years of primary school hell for me. They both have a bloody annoying (and totally selfish imo) need to approach me and apologise every time they see me, despite being asked to stop.

They spent four years of school, brownies and Friday club laughing about me living with my grandparents, telling me my parents didn’t love me, saying the scar inflicted by my father made me ugly and, after they found out from one of their parents that I had been starved, threatening to steal my lunch or play piece. It was every single day and only stopped when a girl in the year above us heard one of their particularly nasty spiels and threatened to stamp on their heads (also not good but she was the only one they listened to!).

They remembered it as “silly girls teasing” but for me it was far far more.

I still boycott a garage because they were rude to my friend. It's changed hands three times now and I don't think any of the original people work there.

I was at school with some nasty bullies so yes I hold a grudge. I put a photo of me and my friends online and some bloke commented to say his sister (who was standing in the background) had died. She was nasty. I felt I should comment that I was sorry/that was a shame but my fingers just wouldn't type the words! I didn’t say anything nasty though.

And the fact the repeatedly approach me despite being asked not to shows me they are just as rude and selfish now as they were then.

In nursery a girl splashed me and my mum had to come and get me changed, I was furious when she turned up to my sixth form and I recognised her 🤣

Yes i do still dislike a couple of people i knew when we were young children.

Ime people's core personalities show early and don't much change so if someone was a sneaky, lying, thieving, two faced bullying shite as a kid, (example of a kid on my shitlist), theres little chance they grew up to be a great person.

But thats just my personal experience of such people.

I absolutely hate the girl who made my life hell in school. As an adult, I wish I didn't feel this way but she affected my mental health and self worth so badly that I became so introverted and full of anxiety. Its awful. So whilst I wouldn't storm out if I saw her, I would be swearing under my breath along with a few choice names.

Not as long ago as at primary school but I hold a grudge against someone I used to work with years ago. I used to cry in my car nearly every day for to how he treated me.

I saw him in a super market about 10 years ago holding hands with a woman and he tried to stop me for a chat. I took immense joy in telling him to fuck off. She looked quite shocked. I always hope she wonders what it was he did to elicit such a response from someone.

Not a grudge, but I definitely remember. Sarah accused me of ripping her coat when I was 5. I didn't do it and her mum judged me for it. 50 years ago.

When I was 12 Mandy was a huge bully and terrified me. Meh. The girl had a glass eye and now I pity her for the life she had.