Dr saying this isn't perimenopause

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I am about to turn 43 and am pretty sure I'm going through perimenopause – my skin has become unbelievably dry (particularly around my face), my periods are now much shorter (1-2 days) but really heavy, I'm all of a sudden suffering from really bad motion sickness (never been an issue), my hair is changing, I feel irritable and very anxious, and I find myself crying at Instagram posts. I went to see my GP (who is elderly and male) and he very helpfully told me I'm "far too young" to be going through perimenopause and that I probably had PCOS (despite this never being an issue and I've also had several internal scans when getting fertility testing done). AIBU to say this is ridiculous?! I have several friends on HRT who have said it's amazing and I want to talk about options with my GP but he insists that I'm not going through peri...

What an idiot.
He needs to do a blood panel to find out where you are.
It sounds indeed likely, but you need a blood test FSH I think its called to see where you are.
I had one at 48 to find I was well on my way. It was another 5 years before my periods stopped though.

I would complain- as this is palpable nonsense and he should know better. You also don’t need a blood test - they’re not always accurate anyway. See someone else and ask for HRT.

OP I am screaming on your behalf. WTF does he think he is saying?!!!!

I was officially in menopause at 42. At first my female GP was sceptical but I explained that both my Mum and her sister had it early too.

I hope you can switch GPs and get the support you need x

I went to my GP at 41
they said sounds like peri, do you want gel or patch? Also we need to do a raft of bloods to make sure it’s nothing else and an ECG
covered all bases

I help run the Menopause network at my day job... I have a list of 46 verified symptoms from various sources.

And separately, I remember from way back when I did a Saturday job, one of my colleagues was fully menopausal at 36... her mother was just 34.

Also to note, medics, if they are lucky get half a day on "women's issues" and some med schools will attempt to allow them to opt out...

Gosh, OP, sorry to hear your GP is so dismissive and clueless. Your symptoms absolutely do sound like perimenopause.

Blood tests are a good idea to rule out anything else, but they can only diagnose perimenopause if the test is taken on the 'right' day, so to speak. Your hormones will be up and down on a daily basis if you're in peri, sometimes 'normal', sometimes not, so at your age a hormonal check is likely to be wildly inaccurate.

GPs are supposed to diagnose the need for HRT on symptoms. At 43 you are highly likely to be in the early perimenopausal stage; I certainly was at that age though it took me a couple more years to put two and two together - at which point I went to my GP.

One home test I did find helpful (but later on, in my early 50s when I wanted to know if I was out the other side) was a menopause test which you can buy online. It works like a pregnancy test to check your FSH levels. IIRC, you do a test on the first day of your period (or any day if you no longer have a cycle) and then again four weeks later. It doesn't show your exact levels of FSH and doesn't definitively diagnose menopause, but it tells you if your levels are high. If FSH is consistently high over time it's a sign that you are no longer ovulating.

I started going through peri menopause at 39 and had lots of lovely symptoms, suffered for 9 months and thought I'd make an appointment at my GP's. Saw him got dismissed and told that millions of women have the same symptons and left the surgery crying (i'm not a crier but he made me feel so bloody stupid).

Suffered for another 18 months then asked to see one of the female GP's well that was worse she looked like she had just left school and was not sympathetic at all, not interested in anything I was saying and as I was leaving I mentioned that when she hits this lovely age and she has all the symptoms that I have I hope her GP treats her the way she just treated me.

I'm now 56 and still have some symptoms but not all and could still quite happily strangle the GP's who made me feel so inferior and stupid that day.

Keep pushing as you know how you feel and not everyone goes through the same menopause journey

Get a second opinion and also complain to your GP practice about this man following outdated menopause guidelines and being dismissive.

Even the NHS guidelines set peri between 45 and 55 "but can start earlier" https://www.nhs.uk/conditions/menopause-and-perimenopause/

You should ask to be referred to a Menopause Specialist. Or ask your GP to ask advice from one.

It's quite extraordinary that there is a need for menopause specialists. Almost 100% of women will go through menopause if they live to be old enough, it shouldn't be a specialisation.
The NHS will need to adjust it's guidelines. With puberty starting at younger ages, menopause will as well (as the eggs are used up sooner). I started periods a year or two before most of my friends and am almost in full menopause at age 45.
The lack of research makes no sense. It seems to be in everyone's interests to treat the symptoms, lots of women are not sweetness and light to be around ... if I was a medical researcher I'd be all over it!

I ahd the same at 43 (nearly 44). Dr literally looked at me and said "bit young", referred me for blood tests which came back as normal. I asked to see another Dr to review, pretty much cried, he put me on the pill and suggested some 'lifestyle changes you know weight loss, exercise. I explained i do all these things (I really do prioritise exervise, it keeps me ticking over), i have time for hobbies, i have a husband that pulls his weight etc.

Anyway long and short of it is the pill does seem to have helped.... i ehar once you gwt to 45 GPs are a bit happier to give out HRt so I live in hope x