AIBU to ask my daughter not to bring her dog to stay?

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My daughter and her husband are coming to stay with me in July, they come every summer and stay for about three weeks. This year I've asked them not to bring their German shepherd as I find it quite annoying as it barks constantly being in strange surroundings and my neighbours have also complained. Aibu to ask that they put it into kennels? I don't want to upset them as I love their company and look forward to seeing them. Thanks.

I voted YABU by mistake. No, theyre should not bring a pain in the arse dog with them.

I would never adopt a dog if it meant rarely visiting my parents, I can’t even imagine how it would make them feel. And I would be really sad if my DC made this choice.

Obviously if someone’s parents are happy to have dogs at theirs and then change their mind it’s a different story.

I doubt they will find a a dog sitter at such short notice in summer. And I wouldn’t leave my dog for 3 weeks. So be prepared for them to cancel

You would be sad if your children as adults adopted a dog and therefore didn't visit you for extended periods of time. Don't you think that's quite controlling.

Tell them as soon as possible so they can decide to cancel or try and look for kennels.

Constantly barking dog for 3 weeks sounds irritating.

When you break the news try not to refer to dog as "it" though. That won't go down well.

It’s completely your rules and if you don’t want the dog there then you’re well within your rights however I would be prepared for them to maybe not come. I wouldn’t go away 3 weeks thought my dog and it will be short notice for a decent kennels xx

I never visit my mother in her home due to one of her dogs not liking other dogs. We meet elsewhere.

Well, thankfully my parents aren't as ridiculous and controlling as you are 😂

You're not unreasonable, in that you can say what you like, but I do think you're unreasonable to leave it this late to say.

Personally, I wouldn't ever put my rescue dog in kennels, and I expect it's too late to find a dog sitter, so I'd probably have to cancel the trip.

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Can you visit them perhaps? Its very short notice to find a decent kennel for the summer months .GS are big dogs and its a lot for you and your NDN ti cope with!

It’s your house, your rules, but I wouldn’t be visiting anyone for 3 weeks without my dog. Could you perhaps stay with them instead?

YANBU

Vacancies permitting what about them putting the dog in kennels near where you live so that they could still visit it and take it out every day without having to bring it to your house.

I’d put up with it to see my daughter

As others have said, it’s entirely your choice whether to have their dog in your house but they are unlikely to visit if you don’t allow it. So it comes down to what is more important to you.

You are of course being perfectly reasonable but they may not be able to come.

Have they asked whether they can bring the dog or just assumed?

Unfortunately, dog people are selfish this way, get large animals and expect everyone to bend over backwards to remain in touch.

My mother doesn’t like dogs and I’d never expect her to want to have my dogs there (I don’t have any now). Why on earth would you think someone is controlling because they have preferences?

Your request isn't unreasonable, but you've left it extremely late to tell your daughter. Has the dog stayed in kennels before? If not, then the dog may or may not cope, especially for 3 weeks. At this short notice, I think your daughter would be hard pushed to find availability. If the dog hasn't been in kennels before, and assuming your daughter is willing to do this, they'd have to find one they are happy with.

I don't have a dog, but I'll be honest, if I did, I'd be reluctant to leave my dog in kennels for 3 weeks. I have a cat, and I wouldn't put him in a cattery for 3 weeks, it's too long.

I think I'd tell a little white lie and say a number of neighbours have complained.

A non returning OP with a controversial thread, ain't that a surprise 🙄

YANBU - I am allergic to dogs, and they affect my asthma. So dogs are never allowed in my house. Awkward as they have brought the dog before, and you are suddenly saying it is an issue.

3w is a long time for a dog to be in a kennel and also no time to find a decent one for next month

could they stay for less time with dog

or stay locally in an air b&b that is dog friendly

ALL of them? All people who have dogs are selfish? You have been very busy interviewing each and every one...

Or did you forget to use that all important word - "some" ?

Depends on the parents, my mum would refuse to speak to me if I put my dog in kennels for that long, she would consider it unspeakably cruel
But then she probably would prefer the dog come than me 😂
if I said she couldn’t bring her dog to my house I know she 💯 would not come

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