Is this normal? Joining husband at in-laws!

[ArnosLeach]

Tell me if this is normal.

Husband pops to see his family with younger child.

Wife drops elder child with friend and then meets her own friend for an hour or so before collecting elder child again.

Would you then pop into in-laws where husband and younger child is?

This is terrible and I just don’t understand this at all. It is a bit different when people who already have ADULT children get together, but when children are involved in blended families then they need to be embraced and treated by everyone as part of the family.

And yes, I do feel passionately about this topic because I have seen so many examples of this. Good examples where children who are not blood relatives are embraced, and also bad examples , like this - which can lead to lifelong trauma and resentment.

I’d stop going round, only go when invited for an occasion. dh can go without the youngest one as often just encourage the kids to stay with you. They should not be taking about you in front of your children.

At Granny’s there are exciting people, lots of amazing food and lots of demonstrations of affection, there is no way I could stop my youngest going.

There is also discipline and an emphasis on education and community.

Their children and grandchildren adore them.