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Allow a play date where mum unapologetically supports children’s education tax

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GigglyOrange · 30/05/2026 11:16

Just this really, our local independent prep school closed due to the education tax earlier this year and has caused absolute chaos for lots of families, including my own. My dd (6) has been invited for a play date with a girl she seems very friendly with and who seems very sweet, but I’ve since found out from another parent that the mum is an ‘unapologetic education taxer’. My instinct is to cancel the play date, AIBU?

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ilovesooty · 30/05/2026 13:06

Phonicshaskilledmeoff · 30/05/2026 13:02

Enlighten us all. What ‘type of person’ supports it.

She isn't going to answer that. She hasn't got the guts.

ChalkOutlines · 30/05/2026 13:08

CheeryOP · 30/05/2026 13:03

You mentioned "it’s clear what type of person would support it" - it's not clear - what kind of people are these? Those that support inclusive education for the whole population?

Poor people 🤯?

Allrightonthenight1 · 30/05/2026 13:09

Blushingm · 30/05/2026 11:18

It’s not an education tax - what an idiotic thing to say

What else would you call a tax on education?

Bushmillsbabe · 30/05/2026 13:10

BarbBarbbarb · 30/05/2026 12:58

There are TONS of spaces in state schools - falling child population. Several schools in our city have closed because of lack of pupils, several have merged, and the secondaries - all rated good or outstanding , have had their intake numbers cut back.

Yes there are, but the private school parents are going to be targeting the better state schools generally, so there is going to be an impact.

We were catchmented for 2 secondaries, 1 decent, 1 awful. Due to the increase in applications, the decent one has reduced their catchment so we are no longer in catchment for that, so only have option of awful one. So we are trying for grammar, but that has also got harder due to more pupils moving from private primary to grammar rather than private secondary due to the VAT.

Traveltart · 30/05/2026 13:11

The tax is nonsensical and will cost more money than it saves. I have opposed it from every angle from economic to ethical. However the one thing I would hope a good education would give anyone - regardless of which sector delivered it - is the ability to engage in debate. This cancel culture is far more aligned with those who want to indoctrinate us into the big statists’ world view. I’m surprised at the OP and wonder if this is someone who opposes private schools posing as an uptight parent? For what it’s worth, I know parents in the independent sector who blindly supported it initially … After a few choice debates, they suddenly saw the light. I can see how someone with zero experience of independent schools would back it (perhaps until their DC misses out on a school place as those priced out move into her catchment).

For the avoidance of doubt, I can’t back this government knowing it’s their most cherished held policy. If this is for real, OP needs to unclench.

GigglyOrange · 30/05/2026 13:13

ilovesooty · 30/05/2026 13:06

She isn't going to answer that. She hasn't got the guts.

Guts? Quite obviously it would suggest a bitter person, net tax recipient, easily misled to blame children for their failings and likely lower than average intelligence. The numbers don’t lie on this.

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Miyagi99 · 30/05/2026 13:14

hopspot · 30/05/2026 11:22

Me too.

And me!

Weeellokthen · 30/05/2026 13:16

Peaceandcheese · 30/05/2026 11:17

Did ye, aye?

You will get reported and deleted for that sarcastic comment. Mn does not recognise Scottish sarcasm 😂

Franpie · 30/05/2026 13:16

That’s a pretty mental stance to take, OP.

And I say that with 2 kids in independent school and working in the industry. I am 100% against the VAT on school fees. It will raise very little tax revenue compared with the impact on working families.

But… I don’t penalise my children for having friends with parents who have different political views to my own. In fact, I don’t discuss politics with mum friends (I.e. people I only see via my children). One of my mum friends is an American Republican Trump supporter. Our DD’s have been besties for years.

Miyagi99 · 30/05/2026 13:16

ClassicHumous · 30/05/2026 11:30

You are not being unreasonable. I can't tell you how many play dates I've had to turn down because of the parents' view on the the Town and Country Planning (Use Classes) Order 1987 and the bureucracy around changing permitted usage.

😂😂

JuliettaCaeser · 30/05/2026 13:18

So mean to the children! They have no control over their parents political views.

DDs best friends mum has some extraordinary views but she’s very kind and a lovely mum.

Velumental · 30/05/2026 13:18

ClassicHumous · 30/05/2026 11:30

You are not being unreasonable. I can't tell you how many play dates I've had to turn down because of the parents' view on the the Town and Country Planning (Use Classes) Order 1987 and the bureucracy around changing permitted usage.

Choked on my diet coke there 😂

CurlewKate · 30/05/2026 13:19

What’s an “education tax”? Oh, do you mean closing a tax loophole on private education?

GooseCreekandtheRiver · 30/05/2026 13:19

I am vehemently against tax on education, but I also think it’s important to discuss different views with different people and it’s not possible to do that if you demonise people.

I also think this level of vitriol from the OP, and assumption that any character tests she dislikes must be lumped in with a single political view, is really disturbing! (if true)

GigglyOrange · 30/05/2026 13:21

CurlewKate · 30/05/2026 13:19

What’s an “education tax”? Oh, do you mean closing a tax loophole on private education?

Tax on education and vocational training services of children aged between 5 and 18

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Arlingtonchase · 30/05/2026 13:22

GigglyOrange · 30/05/2026 12:54

Acts of cruelty and spite against your children is not just a ‘different opinion’. Don’t be so flippant

VAT on private school fees is not an act of cruelty and spite to children. Don’t be so silly.

SnappyUmberLion · 30/05/2026 13:22

Currently, 97% think you’re being unreasonable. Do you accept this result, OP?

Miyagi99 · 30/05/2026 13:23

GigglyOrange · 30/05/2026 12:14

That’s some quite astounding ignorance of the policy. It’s a tax on education services provided to children paid by the children (fee payer).

I strongly suggest you do some basic reading before commenting
https://www.gov.uk/guidance/vat-on-education-and-vocational-training-notice-70130

Only education that is in business, not education itself.

WhatHappenedToYourFurnitureCuz · 30/05/2026 13:23

Tigerbalmshark · 30/05/2026 12:58

Wasn’t that a sea water pool carved out of the rock? So still rather spartan! 🤣

That's true, but made it even more romantic to me 😁

SmashThePatriarchy · 30/05/2026 13:24

It’s not an education tax is it. It’s taxing private companies that happen to offer education.

Keepoffmyartichokes · 30/05/2026 13:24

Allrightonthenight1 · 30/05/2026 13:09

What else would you call a tax on education?

It's VAT on private school fees, so let's call it "Private Education Tax". Private Education is a choice, it's a luxury not a necessity so it should be subject to VAT

ElectoralControversy · 30/05/2026 13:25

I thought this was a reverse but maybe it's more of a 'gotcha'?
For threads where people say they wouldn't let their kid hang out with Reform supporters? And VAT on school fees was the most extreme left wing view they could think of?

FWIW OP, virtually none of the rest of us are paying this education tax, you must be very unlucky. Maybe speak to your accountant and see if there's any way to avoid it?

Keepoffmyartichokes · 30/05/2026 13:26

GigglyOrange · 30/05/2026 13:21

Tax on education and vocational training services of children aged between 5 and 18

You've missed out in "Tax on Private Education" it's not "Tax on Education" I really hope you didn't go to a private school, if be asking for my money back

Franpie · 30/05/2026 13:27

SmashThePatriarchy · 30/05/2026 13:24

It’s not an education tax is it. It’s taxing private companies that happen to offer education.

It’s not taxing companies. It’s taxing individuals.

Independent schools that have long waiting lists and do not struggle to fill their places even after adding VAT onto their fees have actually done very well out of this VAT change as they now get to reclaim all the VAT on their expenditure and massive capital projects.

SerenaCat93 · 30/05/2026 13:28

It's hilarious that the OP is claiming to be private school fodder but is unable to understand that there is no education tax in the UK. State education is free and tax free and always will hem if you want to buy a "superior" education then you pay tax on it because it's a luxury. I would expect the outcome of that luxury to be the competence to understand that.

It's been a long time since an OP has made themselves look so stupid, I'm enjoying it 😂

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