Allow a play date where mum unapologetically supports children’s education tax

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Just this really, our local independent prep school closed due to the education tax earlier this year and has caused absolute chaos for lots of families, including my own. My dd (6) has been invited for a play date with a girl she seems very friendly with and who seems very sweet, but I’ve since found out from another parent that the mum is an ‘unapologetic education taxer’. My instinct is to cancel the play date, AIBU?

That’s a great idea. You should probably have a survey ready for all new acquaintances where it interrogates all of their beliefs and opinions to determine if they can hang out with you. Judgy fuckers who shut out every view they don’t agree with don’t make friends and their kids make neither friends nor the ability to handle differing view points, unless they can learn it from someone else.

This has got to be a wind up right?

OP - it’s easy to avoid talking about it because I guarantee not one single person will bring up the school closure unless YOU do. So just stick to bemoaning the closure with the people who actually sent their kids there - no one else will care.

Make sure she pronounces garage properly otherwise it could damage your dd's chances of an Oxbridge place or even worse, place her at the very bottom of the marriage market.

Oh, you know six year olds. Always dressing up and playing VAT games.

You clearly want your child to be friendless. I mean come on, a) the view is the parent's view, not even the view of the child she would be playing with. b) If your child DOES hear her friend's mum talk about private schools and VAT while she's having a play date, she's unlikely to be interested enough to develop her own views on the subject. c) If your child comes back and says "Mummy everyone who goes to private school should be taxed astronomically" she's 6, it's not likely the government will like bankrupt all public schools instantly on the instruction of a 6 year old child.

Yep cancel, and only let your child have play dates with fully-screened children going forwards. I’d suggest sending out a questionnaire covering employment history, political and religious views, household income, house price, holiday plans, and inheritance expectations, to be completed by both parents (just in case the dad is a closet socialist), to be completed prior to agreeing to any meet ups. That should prevent your daughter mixing with any undesirables.

If you are turning down a play date over this it’s going to be a lonely life for your dc!

Is there not a business opportunity here ? Vetting parents for playdates ?

I imagine OP would be the only customer…

Wow 10 minutes in and the comments have convinced me that my first instinct was right ! I will reject the play date, I see protecting children from toxic people who hold immoral views as part of my job as a parent.

YABU
Are you going to interview all the parents of your child's friends, and only allow her to be friends with the kids whose parents have the same views as you on every subject?

Of course you do.

How very tedious

Didnt know what you were on about but I see it’s VAT on private schooling .

Hate to break it to you but I expect in time your daughter will come into contact with a lot more kids whose parents are in favour of this. Or do you expect to vet all of her prospective friendships based on their parents’ political views?

Yes, make your daughter miss out. Good idea.

😂😂😂

Today is clearly the day for fake AIBU!

WHY ASK if you're not open to the answer!

Jeez. Someone needs to explain how AIBU works.

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Not a bad parody of a certain type of parent. Well done. Parody posts are generally fairly tedious but you've done a good job of making this one pretty funny.

😂😂😂 nice try OP but I 'm not sure any of us will think the entitled classes are quite that bonkers!

Are you going to tell the parent that when you decline the play date? I bet you won't.

Obviously there’s a line where certain views are completely unacceptable, we’re talking about taxing children education here not 20 mph driving zones.

Dear me, OP, I suggest getting out of the echo chamber more often to try to get yourself used to the idea that people think you’re wrong.

That was one school. You've generalised from the particular, as people do on MN all the time. It would sound ridiculous if you went to one state school and announced that based on what you saw there you would never send your child to a state school. Somehow it's OK the other way round.

Anyway, the OP is being ridiculous. I laughed out loud when I saw what she'd written.