To be a shocked that my 30 year old dd

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Has so much clothing she now has storage unit

It’s not ‘weird’ but it’s certainly unusual by modern standards. And it doesn’t mean that anyone with more clothes than that is extravagant or has a shopping addiction.

Sorry, but this is all a bit odd. Why is she in temporary housing. Can't she stay with you? & why are you surprised she needs somewhere else to store things if she's in a tiny room with a tiny rail?

I’m once again amazed by how unkind and un-maternal Mumsnet is. Presumably something has gone wrong in this young woman’s life so she should be in sackcloth and ashes and discard all her possessions? Maybe she needs a professional work wardrobe or has gathered a lot of second hand designer clothes that will last for ever?
Why wasn’t she able to ask her family for some help with storage?

Yes I also am taken aback, this is her daughter and the thread is written in a way she wants people to judge her negatively as that’s whay the op is doing. Her own daughter who clearly has fallen on hard times.

If she took the money she's spending on rent, the storage unit, clothes and i'm guessing a car rental too, and she's 30 - then she'd probably be better off ditching those expenses and buying her own home instead. Thats what I'd be pushing my dd towards.

That’s not the least bit the same, though.
The OP’s DD doesn’t even have a wardrobe or a chest of drawers at all. There’s only a tiny rail to hang a few items on.

See @TallSturdyGirl 's a few posts below yrs 🥰 ...

Less avocados and toast and coffees out too, right?

It isn't weird, but if you were going to work, you'd need clothes, or uniforms, possibly coats and extra shoes. Likewise if you needed going out clothes/bags. Couple that with underwear, pj's, limited washing/drying facilities and most people struggle without storage outside of their bedroom. This is a houseshare, so possibly even lunch bags can't be stored outside the DD's room. Or even toiletries.

So? You’ve said she has a tiny room - is she supposed to give all her possessions away? And even if she had a bigger place if clothes are a passion and she can afford the unit why not?

Then why are you shocked?

I'd struggle with that and I'm a bloke who's wardrobe consists of jeans, t-shirts, a couple of shirts and a suit!

This is such a weird thread!
OP thinking something totally understandable, in the circumstances, is unreasonable. The most massive drip feed and complete ignoring of the actual issue at hand - her DD being homeless.

It’s ridiculous, my daughter has boxes and bags of stuff in our loft. Clothes which haven’t been worn for over five years. She moving out soon into a small flat. We’ve made it clear it needs to go with her. Hopefully it will spur her on to have a clear out.
It’s almost as if she was deprived as a child and just can’t buy enough 🤷‍♀️
(She wasn’t)

Why don’t you offer to store her winter clothes in the summer and vice versa for her? That’s what my lovely parents do for me

I suspect the only reason I don’t have a storage unit for my clothes/shoes is I have a four bed house to myself.. although I do think she’d be better saving the money for a bigger place, a storage unit must be expensive.

so not surprising at all then She has a small amount of storage and has been able to get more externally which will no doubt be more secure and help her organise herself better than in her room and won’t need to move and pack twice when she gets moved from temp accommodation

Some storage units are small and not expensive. I rented a 1 m by 1m by 1m for a while and the cost was very low.

I just can’t grasp why you’d start a thread to be mean about your own child. Who does that. She’s not a storage unit as she’s so many clothes, she’s a storage unit as she’s in temp housing as the op full well knows.

imagine your mum doing that,