I think my DH is jealous of my Adult children (that aren’t his)

[Blondiebeachbabe]

Me and my DH get on pretty well most of the time. But I think he’s jealous of my relationship with my adult kids! I hardly see them too. One is 40 miles away and the other lives in Australia.

Two months ago, we hired a van and moved my son into a new apartment. My husband was the only person who could drive the van. He had a long face the whole day and made us feel very indebted to him for driving. Why can’t he do it with a good heart?

My daughter is back from Australia right now, only for four days for a wedding, and we are meeting for breakfast on Monday. I offered to drive them to the airport after breakfast, as it is en route to our way home. The only way that we could do this is to take 2 Cars. Well, my husband has hit the roof! Telling me that I’m a joke and unreasonable . I don’t even really know why he is angry.

I’m just so exhausted with the competition. We don’t have sex anymore (his decision). It’s so sad because I am in love with him, but this is such a turn off that part of me just wants him to leave. He has stormed off to bed and I’m feeling so lost.

He needs to wash his mouth out with soap and water.
AND why no sex - is he British (rather than Scottish)??

For that comment alone you should get rid of him. He has no respect for you.

What the hell does that last sentence mean? You think English men don't want sex? Scots are British as well by the way.

I don’t think the op will be back?

why? Too busy sweeping this under the carpet and cooking him a fry up with a sad look on her face

Oh dear - I must EXPLAIN the joke? For reference -
There's a very well known saying -
''No sex please - we're British''
Get it?

It's not really a thread for joking on. The op is distressed.

Why are you with this absolute twat? You sound lovely and can do lots better than him

Yes I have heard of it. Not really the time and place really for that type of joke.

Just come across your thread today about your DP kicking off about you meeting your DD and trying to make you jealous. @Blondiebeachbabe you need to actually be done. Thankfully you don’t live with him but you’re engaged?

What city in Scotland are you based in? Most of the cities in Scotland have a link worker at most GP practices, they're good for listening and linking you in with some support.

How are you in love? He does not desire you physically, does not like your children and openly shows hatred when they visit once?? every blue moon

is he tall, handsome or what is the magic he exerts on you

I'm glad, I'm amazed your relationship has survived this far with him calling you a cunt.

Freedom awaits you

Your examples don't sound like he is jealous of the relationship, but annoyed at being volunteered as their chauffeur.

Try reading all of OPs post which you can do by selecting see all on the first post. Chauffeuring implies you are going out of your way to take someone, unless you meant he could be feeling over anxious at having other people in the car when he's driving which I accept can be a "thing", however the second part explains he probably wouldn't be driving them, OP would.

When we drive back to where we live, we literally drive past the airport, so it makes sense we would drop them en route. It does not take us off our route whatsoever!!

The only way that we could do this is to take 2 Cars.

@Blondiebeachbabe I hope you managed to get some clarity from this thread and have started putting in boundaries regarding his behaviour. Good luck.

He is verbally abusive
Won’t have sex with you
Sulks
Jealous of your children

What is so loveable about him? He sounds like a prick

I am a family lawyer - in Scotland 🤣 - practising Scottish law and representing many of my clients in court this week so I am well aware of what the law is and this lady’s unfortunate idea she can chuck her husband out and keep her house is sadly not true in this case

I bought the house before we got married. I thought this made a difference?

You are married though. My understanding is that unless pre ring fenced being married legally means it is a joint asset even if it is in your name.

Is your understanding based on Scottish law or English/Welsh law? Totally different and if in England/Wales she would have been totally screwed.

However I hope OP has consulted a solicitor to find out her current rights regarding her property in case the law has changed especially over longevity of marriage.

It’s a premarital asset.

English