I think my DH is jealous of my Adult children (that aren’t his)

[Blondiebeachbabe]

Me and my DH get on pretty well most of the time. But I think he’s jealous of my relationship with my adult kids! I hardly see them too. One is 40 miles away and the other lives in Australia.

Two months ago, we hired a van and moved my son into a new apartment. My husband was the only person who could drive the van. He had a long face the whole day and made us feel very indebted to him for driving. Why can’t he do it with a good heart?

My daughter is back from Australia right now, only for four days for a wedding, and we are meeting for breakfast on Monday. I offered to drive them to the airport after breakfast, as it is en route to our way home. The only way that we could do this is to take 2 Cars. Well, my husband has hit the roof! Telling me that I’m a joke and unreasonable . I don’t even really know why he is angry.

I’m just so exhausted with the competition. We don’t have sex anymore (his decision). It’s so sad because I am in love with him, but this is such a turn off that part of me just wants him to leave. He has stormed off to bed and I’m feeling so lost.

Fuck sake! What joy is this man child bringing to your life? He’s rude, insulting, petty and jealous and doesn’t want to have sex (of course it’s ok to say no to sex, but it sounds like he’s ruled it out with no discussion).
Chuck this one back OP!

A man would only ever call me a stupid cunt once.

Time to send him on his way, and take pleasure in doing so if it means he’s going to be fucked.

So he's jealous of your kids. Acts like a sullen teenager. Doesn't appreciate the effort you go to for him. Decided there'd be no more sex. Gets aggressive and in your face over nothing. Has repeatedly called you a cunt.

What a catch.

He's emotionally abusive, you know that, right?

If a man called me that it would only ever be once. He would never get the opportunity to call be that a second time.

Raise your standards woman.

I don’t think it was 😊, it’s a good point that while c*nt is a pretty abhorrent word, usually directed hatefully at women, there are some pockets of Scotland (where the OP is from), that it’s not always used in the same horrible misogynistic way.

He called you what now??! These are not the words of a loving husband. Sorry you were called that, OP. What a nasty scrote.

It's great you own the house. Does he pay his way with bills and food, cos if he doesn't he is another C word.

Blimey. Have some self respect OP. This man is truly horrible and not someone you want in your life.

This man is horrible. My DH has never sworn at me and he treated my kids like his family. This is what a loving person is like. Honestly @Blondiebeachbabe , time to call time. 💐

What do you love about him?

He's not intimate with you.
He is rude to you.
He demands gratitude.

I could go on but won't.

Seriously you need to ask what he provides in the relationship and if how you feel is enough to keep going. It would not be for me.

Kick him out. Change the locks. Call the police if he won’t leave as he sounds like the kind of man who would escalate to violence quickly.

He is a horrible vile person. Nasty.

Why on earth are you in love with a man who calls you ‘a c**t’! You need to leave and do some serious work on your self esteem. Don’t let anyone treat you like that.

I've read all your posts OP.

Forget all the stuff with your adult kids (which he is clearly unreasonable about, not you), I'm straight back to the first post where you mention him calling you names. Then to read further and see that it's not just this time and this issue.

I'm so glad to read that the house is yours. Time to see a solicitor and boot him out. He's somehow got you feeling that this is okay to say to you. He needs to go, this is no way to live. Time to enjoy your life, without that cunt.

You say you don't see much of your children because one is in Australia (fair enough) and the other lives 40 miles away.

How much of not seeing your child 40 miles away is genuinely due to distance, and how much is because of his (potentially subtle) resentment? Because its hardly the other side of the world. Its about the same as my work commute.

I suspect this is a final straw moment after a long time of quietly being ground down by this man but you sound like you've got your head screwed on. Personally I'd be getting legal advice and getting things as organised as you can without his knowledge. He's likely to resist.

Well thank god for that.

He should not get away with calling you a cunt.So disrespectful.
What do you get from the relationship, a stable homelife, can you afford to live alone?
Does the no sex bother you?

it is sometimes used in a jokey way - and received as such. But context is everything. As is the relationship between the people involved, and the delivery!

Give it a rest please. It is clear what the intention was here.

Reading your posts my first thought was "bet she owns a house'. He's a user. Get rid.

How can you be in love with someone who calls you a cunt OP? He sounds vile. He’s emotionally abusive and a cocklodger. Please get rid of him.

Great post @Sunisgettinganewhaton well done you for being brave enough to get rid of your horrible “D”H and move on to a lovely future.

OP please note this post. You too could have a new future.

Anyone who called me a stupid cunt would be permanently deprived of my amazing company.

Dig out your self esteem and bin this loser.

Wow I’ve been married for nearly 40 years and I’m sure I’ve annoyed DH hundreds of times, but he’s managed to get over it without getting in my face and swearing at me.
Your DH sounds awful.

OP, go to breakfast with your DD alone. I don't understand why you need two cars for the airport run? Surely she hasn't brought tons of luggage for a four day trip? If your car isn't suitable, and you can't use DH car, then I'd even consider hiring a different car just to prevent him going with you and spoiling the atmosphere.

Definitely give him his marching orders though. He's abusive and obviously doesn't care for you. Stop doing everything for him too. He doesn't deserve your time or effort.