AIBU to ask my friend not to compare our children's height?

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I have a young DS, friend of mine has a DD the same age.
We meet up once every few weeks/months with the children to play etc.

Every single time, without fail, my friend will comment something along the lines of “OMG look at how much taller she is than him AGAIN” whilst looking at both children seemingly aghast.

It REALLY annoys me, I think because I don’t like seeing him being openly compared physically to another child, because it’s unnecessary and irrelevant, and also because I definitely get the impression that the implication is that “taller” is the more positive physical attribute.

AIBU with this? Taking it too personally? Maybe projecting my own internal bullshit a bit?
Would this irritate any of you?

I’m thinking next time it happens to respond by asking her not to make comparisons between them.

Only if the OP wants to reinforce, to the children, that making personal remarks is ok.

I was the tallest through primary school, I hated it. I was so happy to stop growing at 13. She isn't realising that her DD might not like what she is saying.

Surely commenting on something a person can’t physically help is unacceptable

I’m glad you are going to say something because she needs to know in case her dd starts picking up on it and commenting to other children about how much talker she is and also it’s so rude to keep bringing it up like she has been.

I’m only 4’9.5 (the half inch matters!) and have had comments about my height all my life and constant comparison to other kids when I was growing up.
I’m not bothered about being small really, in a practical sense it’s annoying like being unable to reach things and finding clothes to fit but other then that I can’t change it and find it strange that taller people act like it’s an achievement that they grew a few inches more!

The one thing that does really irritate me is when children find it amusing or are pleased they are taller and measure themselves against me or try to stand back to back and their parents don’t stop them if they keep doing it.
I’m not annoyed with the child but my nephew used to do it literally every time I saw him and kept trying to pick me up or would repeat over and over that he was taller than me.
My sister never told him to stop but with him being my nephew I felt I could tell him myself and told him multiple times that I knew he was taller but that was just how nature works he didn’t need to keep mentioning it.

He ignored it every time I said something and my Dsis didn’t correct him so when he came up behind me on one occasion and surprised me from behind by lifting me off the floor I reacted with surprise and by instinct and hit him in the stomach so he let go.

My Dsis was really angry and we fell out for a few weeks but she still didn’t say anything so a few weeks later my DN came and shoved his face in mine bending to my level and I was so frustrated I went home.

Your friend is encouraging similar thinking in her DD that it’s worth mentioning on every occasion you meet up and probably doesn’t realise how annoying it is. You are doing her a favour if you tell her to stop it!

Sorry, that was worded badly and incorrectly. I think at a societal level taller is seen as better than shorter, there are studies showing both men and women earn more if they are taller. Rushi Sunak's was regularly joked about when he became PM is another example of this. I don't agree with these ideas at all but I'm wondering whether people who do say, "you are tall" think they are being complimentary. I absolutely don't think people should comment on people's looks - to be clear.

Sunak's height.

I have a friend like this, she’s always had a thing about height and used to talk regularly about how her children were like giants - they aren’t (all under 6ft) but they are to her as she’s 5ft 2.

She continues to go on about it, and in particular reference it alongside how tall my DS2 is. He hasn’t ended up being as tall as predicted due to a brain tumour, she knows this is a sensitive subject to him, yet she still goes on about it.

I’ve now told her to stop, it isn’t pleasant and just a reminder to DS why he feels upset, so I don’t want to hear it anymore.

Yep. This is a spoof article but there’s a lot of truth in it.

https://www.thedailymash.co.uk/news/society/tall-man-thinks-its-an-achievement-20190215182505