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Is Germany being unreasonable? Childfree adults paying more for elder care

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Fauxlein · 27/05/2026 10:44

"Childfree adults to pay more in elder care contributions — report
According to a report from German media group RND, federal Health Minister Nina Warken has prepared a draft bill that would have adults without children pay a higher percentage of taxes towards publicly-funded elder care.
The bill would have contributions from childfree adults increase by 0.7% over a period of years, meaning they would pay 2.5% of their income each month. Their employer will be expected to pay 1.8%. For adults with children the rates will remain the same: 1.8% for people with one child, 1.55% for people with two children, and 1.3% for people with three or more children.
Under the proposal, all adults over the age of 23 who are working full-time would be affected.
It is unclear when Warken, a member of Chancellor Friedrich Merz's center-right Christian Democrats (CDU), will submit the draft to the cabinet. Her ministry had originally said it would present a proposal for elder care reform in mid-May. With a long-stagnating birthrate mildly buoyed by immigration, Germany needs to act fast to make sure older generations can be taken care of without placing an undue burden on young people."

YABU - German Health Minister is being unreasonable, it's not kids responsibility to look after elderly parents and is unfair to penalise child free people
YANBU - this seems like a fair counterbalance to increasing costs to the state of elder care

Friedrich Merz

Friedrich Merz is the 10th chancellor of the Federal Republic of Germany. He is also the chairman of Germany's center-right Christian Democratic Union (CDU).

https://www.dw.com/en/friedrich-merz/t-60575802

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ShootsAndBoots · 27/05/2026 14:32

It's the wrong question.

Nobody chooses to get older and need care. I think we all agree on that so I think that essential care should be free.

The bigger questions are
(1) what is essential care? Should the state pay for all issues?

Take obesity as an example. Governments are quite happy to let companies sell shit food at tax it a little but they don't want the healthcare bill. But they pay it. If they simply didn't permit those products, they'd have the money to pay for long term dementia care.

I accept that ita a crappy and oversimplistic example, but I think the point stands: Gov can't pay for avoidable costs then pass unavoidable costs like age onto the individual.

Frankfurterwuerstchen · 27/05/2026 14:34

This isn't an entirely new thing. In Germany people without children have paid more into care insurance since 2005.
The system is totally different from that in the UK. Adult children are expected to fund any shortfall for care for their parents.

CanSeeClearlyNowTheRainHasGone · 27/05/2026 14:34

Focacciaisyum · 27/05/2026 12:09

Conversely those without children have not consumed education, early-years medical care etc and other state supported elements such as childcare.

Yes they have. When they wwre children. They would have had their education and healthcare costs paid for just as todays children do.

Yes they have. When they wwre children

And they would have supported their parents, so it evens out.

What you're looking at here is the children that don't exist to support their childless parents. They're not there to save the state some elder-care but nor are they there to consume state resources.

You can't have it both ways...

TheKittenswithMittens · 27/05/2026 14:36

Was ist denn hier los?

IVFbabyanyday · 27/05/2026 14:36

This is an appalling proposal.

For a start, "childfree" includes those who are "childless" - not a decision, a sad reality.

Life is already more expensive if you're single, so for single childless people (already paying tax for schools, maternity care, etc) it's even more unfair.

But overall, the idea that paying less tax would make someone decide to have children is awful - anyone who changes their mind for that reason is not going to be a good parent!

If they want to increase the birth rate, they should focus on encouraging those who do want/can have children to have more. Incentives and support so people have a second/third/fourth child.

SpidersAreShitheads · 27/05/2026 14:45

Firefly100 · 27/05/2026 14:22

You have to understand this within the context of the German system. In Germany, under the right circumstances, children can be financially on the hook for their parent's care. So logically those with children will be paying more for their care than the childless - via their children.

I think this is a really important consideration.

DP’s parents retired to France with both his sisters. DP has a disability and can’t travel so we’ve never even been over there. We couldn’t even get there if they were dying.

One of the sisters informed DP the other day that they are all financially responsible for any care their parents need in the future, as per French law.

We have two disabled DC and have literally nothing spare. We could provide practical care to his parents if they moved back here but we can’t cover a third of the financial costs for their care if they stay over there.

That leaves DP’s two sisters on the hook for providing for their care financially. I don’t think they were aware of what French law said about this before they all moved.

I think Germany’s proposals may seem anathema to us, but they have to be viewed in the wider context of German law and taxes.

MyrtlethePurpleTurtle · 27/05/2026 14:46

Fauxlein · 27/05/2026 10:44

"Childfree adults to pay more in elder care contributions — report
According to a report from German media group RND, federal Health Minister Nina Warken has prepared a draft bill that would have adults without children pay a higher percentage of taxes towards publicly-funded elder care.
The bill would have contributions from childfree adults increase by 0.7% over a period of years, meaning they would pay 2.5% of their income each month. Their employer will be expected to pay 1.8%. For adults with children the rates will remain the same: 1.8% for people with one child, 1.55% for people with two children, and 1.3% for people with three or more children.
Under the proposal, all adults over the age of 23 who are working full-time would be affected.
It is unclear when Warken, a member of Chancellor Friedrich Merz's center-right Christian Democrats (CDU), will submit the draft to the cabinet. Her ministry had originally said it would present a proposal for elder care reform in mid-May. With a long-stagnating birthrate mildly buoyed by immigration, Germany needs to act fast to make sure older generations can be taken care of without placing an undue burden on young people."

YABU - German Health Minister is being unreasonable, it's not kids responsibility to look after elderly parents and is unfair to penalise child free people
YANBU - this seems like a fair counterbalance to increasing costs to the state of elder care

Haven't voted - but this is nothing new, a childless penalty tax has been in existence in Germany since 2005

https://chronicleai.org/article/germanys-childfree-face-higher-costs-for-elder-care-amid-demographic-shift

Germany's Childfree Face Higher Costs for Elder Care Amid Demographic Shift

Berlin, Germany – In a continuing effort to shore up its long-term elder care system, Germany has solidified a policy requiring adults without children to contribute a higher percentage of their income to the national...

https://chronicleai.org/article/germanys-childfree-face-higher-costs-for-elder-care-amid-demographic-shift

NeverDropYourMooncup · 27/05/2026 14:47

IVFbabyanyday · 27/05/2026 14:36

This is an appalling proposal.

For a start, "childfree" includes those who are "childless" - not a decision, a sad reality.

Life is already more expensive if you're single, so for single childless people (already paying tax for schools, maternity care, etc) it's even more unfair.

But overall, the idea that paying less tax would make someone decide to have children is awful - anyone who changes their mind for that reason is not going to be a good parent!

If they want to increase the birth rate, they should focus on encouraging those who do want/can have children to have more. Incentives and support so people have a second/third/fourth child.

Trouble is that those pesky women (the right colour sort) don't want to have a Vonn Trapp life, even if they've had one already. Making it financially advantageous for a man adds pressure onto what should only ever be a decision made by the woman.

Marieb19 · 27/05/2026 14:51

The fairness of the system seems to be based on the premis that the state pays for the care of the elderly, which doesn't happen in the UK if you own your own home or have £23k ish of savings. I have no objection to people funding their own care bug i think it is hugely unfair that they are expected to subsidise the care costs of social services residents. A home I know charges gee paying residents £1350 per week but council supported residents £900. Same rooms, same service. They are nog alone.

longroad · 27/05/2026 14:51

It's neither an incentive to have more children nor a punishment for not having any. It's a proposal to help ease the costs of care for the elderly.

You have to see it within the context of the German system, it doesn't make sense otherwise. Germany still has an incredibly strong sense of family responsibility. Adult children are financially assessed and may have to contribute if a parent needs help with care home fees. There is also, as someone upthread pointed out, still much more intergenerational care and living going on in Germany than in the UK - adult children already provide a lot of care for their parents. People who have not had children cannot benefit from this, but will still need care. There is not enough money to provide for an ever-aging society, so we need to look at ways of raising that money.

It's also really important to remember that it's the children who profit from all the child-related benefits, not the parents - education, child benefits, maternity care etc are essentially all there to support the child. We need children because we, as a society, need people. There is no future anything if there aren't enough adults to support it, and those adults all start off as children.

Having children is both a very personal decision AND a societal one. The argument that some children will go on to become adults who can't or don't work/contribute etc is whataboutism - they are not the norm, and they will need other adults working and contributing to support them too.

MarshaMarshaMarsha · 27/05/2026 14:52

StarlingTheConqueror · 27/05/2026 14:23

Yes because it’s about society as a whole abd taxes benefitting sciety rather than looking at how much you’ve paid/received across your lifetime,

There will always be people who will receive a lot. Very few who will have paid more in general (thinking roads, education you have received, healthcare etc etc).
Trying to separate in even more smaller parts, like looking at care only or healthcare only or education only etc… is just crazy
1- because evaluation is very hard to do
2- because you are benefitting indirectly from it - let’s say having care paid for means your university teacher could carry in working when their parents were in need of care)

So in that case the child-free and child-less should pay the same as those with children, not MORE, which is what is being proposed?!

drspouse · 27/05/2026 14:54

Crafta · 27/05/2026 11:32

My gay son is not going to have children.

He might adopt, which hopefully will do one or both of a) help the state care for those children who would remain in foster care instead and b) help him in his old age.

I feel like this is a good thing if it balances so that when there is a very low birth rate, and everyone is paying towards childbirth/childcare/schooling (and that's a small amount) plus a large number of elderly people (and those who don't have children save on the parental costs, don't spend THAT much on society/tax going into children because there aren't that many, so then they can afford to pay more towards elder care).

In the UK we apparently spend £120bn on education and £20bn or so on elderly care - so about six times as much.
In Germany apparently it's €198bn on education and they take in €66bn in elderly care insurance. So that's a much lower ratio - nearer 3x as much.
But if they are having to increase that, I'm assuming it doesn't cover everything they need to spend, even though Google tells me it's ringfenced.

If we had a very high birth rate and a low number of elderly people there would be no point, but it would also be unfair on the working/near retirement group who don't have children - because a lot of their taxes would go on child-related government expenditure AND then they'd pay extra towards elder-related govt. expenditure.

StripyHorse · 27/05/2026 14:54

Fauxlein · 27/05/2026 10:55

It's interesting that the voting is currently 50/50 but the only comments so far think it's a good idea.

I have no problem in increased taxes to help support elders, but as someone with DC I am also biased as I wouldn't be affected by it.

As someone with DCs, you are reducing your potential earnings, and paying to being up those DCs. Right now, through taxes etc. you are supporting the older generation with their pensions and care.

When it comes to you being elderly, your DCs will be contributing via taxes. Not only did you contribute to the older generation, you have enabled (by having and bringing up) the next generation to keep supporting the elders.

Seems fair enough to me.

Imisscoffee2021 · 27/05/2026 15:00

TennisLady · 27/05/2026 13:58

Just “uncomfortable” at having women pay more tax for being infertile?

Why not address an imbalance of affordable childcare by charging people with kids more? Would that balance not work?

I'm sure the disparity could be found in many ways and revenue streams, I was more commenting that generally any form of policy around such innate, primordial human experiences that predate any form of governance by millenia, is inherently an uncomfortable topic.

And yes it would add a huge level of hurt to infertile men and women who didn't choose to not have children. My husband and I aren't strangers to infertility. We had our child via. Icsi as conventional ivf wouldn't have worked due to male factor infertility after years of trying for a child, so yes I know it would feel like another form of punishment in a sense. I don't have all the answers.

AlcoholicAntibiotic · 27/05/2026 15:00

StripyHorse · 27/05/2026 14:54

As someone with DCs, you are reducing your potential earnings, and paying to being up those DCs. Right now, through taxes etc. you are supporting the older generation with their pensions and care.

When it comes to you being elderly, your DCs will be contributing via taxes. Not only did you contribute to the older generation, you have enabled (by having and bringing up) the next generation to keep supporting the elders.

Seems fair enough to me.

Fine, so stop any child benefit, UC for having children etc.

Education etc to be provided through taxes because that’s for the children directly, but if parents insist on non-parents paying more for their own care, then surely they understand that non-parents shouldn’t have to subsidise the parents’ costs in bringing up children?

Or we could just leave the UK system as it is currently. Germany seems to have a very different culture and it may well make sense there.

malware · 27/05/2026 15:01

The cause of plummeting birth rates can be seen on these pages every day: too many men are lazy, charmless, feckless arses. Could we tax that maybe?

BeanQuisine · 27/05/2026 15:03

Controversies like this will probably be left behind by technology.

There may well be AI robot people before long, each one a perfect, hard-working citizen, with no childhood or old age to worry about.

Naunet · 27/05/2026 15:03

Mumsntfan1 · 27/05/2026 13:16

Why?

Isn't it obvious? It's homophobic because gay and lesbians couples cant have children naturally, so they're penalised for their sexuality. It's misogynistic because women still do the vast, vast majority of care work (for free), for elderly relatives and children at their own expense. All those absent fathers out there dont have to pay any extra, because they did their two minutes when they got someone pregnant, but a woman who hasn't been able to afford children, who has maybe cared for her own parents saving the government money already, has to pay again.

MarshaMarshaMarsha · 27/05/2026 15:07

StripyHorse · 27/05/2026 14:54

As someone with DCs, you are reducing your potential earnings, and paying to being up those DCs. Right now, through taxes etc. you are supporting the older generation with their pensions and care.

When it comes to you being elderly, your DCs will be contributing via taxes. Not only did you contribute to the older generation, you have enabled (by having and bringing up) the next generation to keep supporting the elders.

Seems fair enough to me.

Or you’ve given birth to people who go through life and constantly claim benefits?! No way of knowing that for sure is there until it’s too late?!

IVFbabyanyday · 27/05/2026 15:09

NeverDropYourMooncup · 27/05/2026 14:47

Trouble is that those pesky women (the right colour sort) don't want to have a Vonn Trapp life, even if they've had one already. Making it financially advantageous for a man adds pressure onto what should only ever be a decision made by the woman.

I meant more all those who reluctantly stop at having one child when they'd have preferred two, or stop at two when they'd have been happy with three, because of the financial/childcare pressures. Not encouraging someone who only ever wanted one child to have four!

But it should only ever be presented in terms of support for raising each child, rather than specifically penalising people who don't/can't have any.

Happyjoe · 27/05/2026 15:09

Not everyone can have children, not everyone is in a position to have children (they're very expensive for a start!) and not everyone wants one. To be punished for being unable or sensible is proper crap.

Plus, this world has too many people. When do we stop? I hate the idea. Farage is thinking of doing something similar, tax breaks for mums.

Nogimachi · 27/05/2026 15:11

This to me is a very rational response to the situation that hasn’t accounted for optics and feelings in the way that we would be more likely to in the Anglo-Saxon sphere.

It’s a bit like the German statutory maternity pay that was brought in when I lived there - you could get up to two-thirds of your net wage up to quite a high limit and the intention was to encourage educated professionals to still give birth, not focus on their careers at the expense of children.

Any discussion in the U.K. of measures to encourage educated professional people to have more children would cause absolute hysteria and no politician would be brave enough to suggest it.

TennisLady · 27/05/2026 15:12

MN is quick to dive on women in threads if they mention having more than 1 child but claim benefits (“why did you have children if you can’t afford them!” Etc.) but on this thread it’s full of people demanding childless/free people pay more tax.

Nogimachi · 27/05/2026 15:14

Flocke · 27/05/2026 12:39

A lot of my disposable income is being used to pay the debt I got into paying for multiple rounds of IVF. I spent over 50k over 6 years trying to have children. Didn’t work. So because I had multiple miscarriages instead of live births I should pay more tax?

Knowing the Germans, there will be a way that you can prove that you could not rather than did not and as such you wouldn’t have to pay.
I’m tremendously sorry to hear of your experience, sending you the best xxx

igelkott2026 · 27/05/2026 15:30

MarshaMarshaMarsha · 27/05/2026 15:07

Or you’ve given birth to people who go through life and constantly claim benefits?! No way of knowing that for sure is there until it’s too late?!

Edited

Well given AI and the youth employment rates (which are better in Germany than in the UK but still not great) the chances of your offspring being a benefits claimant for at least part of their "working" life is quite high.