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For not calling DH to congratulate him on Arsenal winning the Premiership?

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FierceForester90 · 23/05/2026 15:35

Hubby is an Arsenal fan, has been as long as Ive known him but doesn't got to many matches. DS1 supports a local team, has a season ticket and is rather more passionate about his team.

This week I worked away and while I wasn't here Arsenal won the league. They didn't win it as a result of a match they were in they won it as a result of another team losing meaning they couldn't be caught.

Hubby has had a proper moan that all his mates messaged him to say congratulations and I didn't even ring. Im a bit miffed because if there had been an Arsenal game on that determined it id have kept track of the score.

He works as a Driving Instructor and every single time he has a student pass I text or call. I am always supportive of the things he achieves personally.

If he was at the level of supporting DH1 is I'd understand his annoyance. AIBU to think its a bit much?

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Confuserr · Yesterday 03:55

Matsukaze · Yesterday 02:37

Slot has lost the dressing room.

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Indeed
And I think the Salah ship has somewhat sailed!

LittlePetitePsychopath · Yesterday 03:57

I’m an Arsenal fan. He’s been ridiculous. I was with my husband when it happened and we talked about it but he didn’t congratulate me! I don’t play for them.

Quite a few friends did message but I think generally it’s a good conversation starter…

Quokkas · Yesterday 11:24

Matsukaze · Yesterday 02:37

Slot has lost the dressing room.

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Yes, that’s also my concern.

IndigoBrave · Yesterday 14:51

I’m a lifelong fan, I go to several games a season even though I don’t live in England. I don’t think I’m owed a congratulations off my husband or anyone else. Just seems like he’s looking to huff about something

neverbeenskiing · Yesterday 14:59

Should I apologise to my 12 year old DD because I didn't congratulate her when Taylor Swift got engaged?

hallenbad · Yesterday 15:01

How bizarre. Of course YANBU. Even the bit about the student passing the driving test is strange. Is he a bit insecure OP?

YoshiIsCute · Yesterday 15:03

Congratulate him?! For what? He didn’t do anything!

Strawberrycheesecake7 · Yesterday 15:04

It’s never even crossed my mind to congratulate my DH on anything to do with the football team he supports. I couldn’t care less and he knows this and it doesn’t bother him at all. What a strange thing to start an argument about.

VeronicaRaven · Yesterday 15:32

Unless he personally played this season or works for the team in any capacity YANBU

LassitersLegend · Yesterday 15:35

He needs to get a grip! He sounds like a typical arsenal fan

Dogmum74 · Yesterday 17:11

Does your husband play for them? What a pathetic man baby your husband sounds like. Never heard anything as ridiculous in my life. Tell him to grow the fuck up

BuildbyNumbere · Yesterday 17:12

Tell him to grow up … why would he need congratulating?!?

ProfessorBinturong · Yesterday 17:43

ThisJadeBear · 24/05/2026 13:13

I live with someone whose mane love is his team. Season ticket holder, follows them everywhere so I have a good knowledge of what’s going on as to be quite frank, it’s hard to escape. The endless hours away from home, often in Europe, Wembley…..
So I would know to and congratulations but only because my dad was the same.
However if your DH mainly watches it from his armchair, you were away, and it wasn’t a jeopardy-type situation, and came as the result of another team delivering it to them, then I think it’s fine to say well done when you’ve arrived home.
But some men really are children. My other half was in a vile mood on Monday night and I already knew it was because Arsenal could win the league. We are in a Northern city in direct competition.
I stayed out of the way and shut my ears the next day. And the rewatching and explaining of VAR decisions it’s so boring.
However, I have to say it’s a fantastic achievement for Arsenal, and I can remember the last time they won it.

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Why 'well done'? He's done nothing.

You can be happy that someone is happy, you can celebrate with them, but it's daft to congratulate them when they had sod all to do with it. Unless you genuinely believe that them wearing their lucky pants is what swung the result.

WeatherOrNothing · Yesterday 19:06

i Would use this opportunity to ask him exactly what he contributed to the win. What a clown op.

aintnothinbutagstring · Yesterday 19:14

My husband is an arsenal supporter - I haven't even mentioned it but I might if he continues to wear his arsenal shirt everywhere.

BeWittyRobin · Yesterday 19:50

Why would you congratulate him? He wasn’t playing 🙈🤣🤣

Usernamenotav · Today 07:22

Congratulated him for what? What did he do? What a pathetic man

Owly11 · Today 07:32

It sounds like you don't really share each other's daily excitements and experiences. If my partner's team won the league it would be top of my mind as it would be for my partner if my team won the league. I do think it's sad that an important moment in his life is meaningless to you. Arsenal haven't won the league in 22 years and it's absolutely huge for Arsenal fans. Btw in case you want to do things differently this coming weekend, Arsenal are in the champions league final on Saturday and they have never won it before. The other team are the favourites to win so if Arsenal do win it will be absolutely huge.

Phoenixfire1988 · Today 08:03

Is he part of the arsenal team or management ? If the answer is no then wtf does he need congratulations for . I highly doubt 'all' his mates message him either 🙄

JustaDream · Today 08:06

Is he a player? Part-owner? I mean, why congratulate a fan who does nothing but watch the game on TV or at the pitch? How weird has society gotten that we are not congratulating people for doing absolutely nothing. Grown men, too!

watchingthishtread · Today 08:12

What was his role in the win that he deserves to be congratulated on? Have Arsenal been in touch yet to thank him for it?

Anywherebuthere · Today 08:12

Did he play a game or contribute in anyway to the win? Why does he think he deserves to be congratulated?

You congratulate him when students pass?

Do you get congratulated by him when you meet targets? Or even house chores get done?

He really loves you boosting up his ego.

CurlewKate · Today 08:16

Hang on-he’s a driving instructor and you congratulate him every time a pupil passes? Is that a usual thing to do?

Anywherebuthere · Today 08:17

Owly11 · Today 07:32

It sounds like you don't really share each other's daily excitements and experiences. If my partner's team won the league it would be top of my mind as it would be for my partner if my team won the league. I do think it's sad that an important moment in his life is meaningless to you. Arsenal haven't won the league in 22 years and it's absolutely huge for Arsenal fans. Btw in case you want to do things differently this coming weekend, Arsenal are in the champions league final on Saturday and they have never won it before. The other team are the favourites to win so if Arsenal do win it will be absolutely huge.

'Important moment in his life......'

user5649382 · Today 08:19

Soontobe60 · 23/05/2026 15:57

Does he congratulate you every time you do something well at work? He sounds very needy…

If you go by his calculations, he should be congratulating the OP every time someone else does something well at work.

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