For not calling DH to congratulate him on Arsenal winning the Premiership?

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Hubby is an Arsenal fan, has been as long as Ive known him but doesn't got to many matches. DS1 supports a local team, has a season ticket and is rather more passionate about his team.

This week I worked away and while I wasn't here Arsenal won the league. They didn't win it as a result of a match they were in they won it as a result of another team losing meaning they couldn't be caught.

Hubby has had a proper moan that all his mates messaged him to say congratulations and I didn't even ring. Im a bit miffed because if there had been an Arsenal game on that determined it id have kept track of the score.

He works as a Driving Instructor and every single time he has a student pass I text or call. I am always supportive of the things he achieves personally.

If he was at the level of supporting DH1 is I'd understand his annoyance. AIBU to think its a bit much?

You have to congratulate him every time one of his students passes a test?!? Surely that’s his job? Needy much?

Honestly some people on this website talk like they genuinely dislike the person they chose to marry

If you, like me, have no interest whatsoever in football - how would you even know?! DP supports Liverpool, I've no idea when they're playing, when they win or lose, when any particular competition is on, none of it. I get my news online, the algorithm knows I'm not interested in seeing sports related anything, so it doesn't show it to me. It's not like I'm watching the 6 o clock news and seeing the sports bit. Not that he'd expect me to congratulate him for something they do anyway...

But also, how on earth do you know when his students pass to congratulate him for that?! That's also a bit weird to me - unless it's in a conversation where he tells you about a pass and you say 'that's nice' or whatever. But even then, congratulations is a bit... off?... somehow. It's the student that earnt the congratulations not him! It's literally the point of his job - no one congratulates me for balancing the budget at month end, that'd be really weird! 😂

I know. It’s very strange and rather sad. Obviously, no relationship is perfect and people grow apart, but I often wonder how things started with some of the things people say on here. Perhaps it’s that people go into things with the idea that the person will change so much (a rare thing) and then find themselves stuck in their mistake.

I remember my mother always used to quote from an old film, the line from a father to their daughter: ‘But do you like him?’ in response to being told that they were in love and going to marry.

Good advice which I took. Though sadly something my mother seemed to ignore herself on two occasions!

No one rang to congratulate me when Liverpool won last season! I assume because I am not in the squad. He is being ridiculous and unreasonable

Maybe your friends just know you're not that bothered about football or maybe you don't have friends who like football very much. For people who are in to football this is very normal - although I can see it seems odd to others (and objectively is odd!).

Lots of people on this thread who don't understand (or want to pretend to be baffled by) how much football means to some of us.

DHs error was thinking OP would be happy for him. I don't think she's unreasonable not to text him obviously. And he's not unreasonable to hope she would. He shouldn't moan about it though given that she sounds nice generally and his friends texted him.

Tonight after Tottenham won I said to my son "I will text you 'well done' on your team winning" - was like "eh? what are you on about?"

So I explained about the thread. He was laughing and said "that sounds so typical of Arsenal supporters, they do nothing but whine about stuff" - so your H has just been laughed at by a 22 year old for his stupidity - please feel free to pass that on to him

I love that. I celebrate all sorts of random crap my partner does and vice versa. Isn't a nice aspect of having a partner having an unconditional cheerleader! My DP congratulates me when I catch something well or make a pun or get a question right on university challenge or make sushi which is nearly as good as you get in the shop. He'd go bloody mental for me if my team won the league (fat chance) cos he knows I would be happy, even though he doesn't care for football (or sushi, or university challenge)

Well tbf they barely escaped demotion after being completely shit all season which is quite different to actually being good and winning the league. Your son just probably didn't want to be reminded he supports spurs.

It’s a bit daft that your husband requires personal congratulations just because he’s a supporter. I’m sure Prince William didn’t expect a congratulations from Kate when Aston Villa won their title.

Why would you congratulate him? 😂 he had zero part in the win. Jeez I’ve heard it all now.

Nah - he is happy to support Spurs (not sure why) but even happier to laugh at a saddo Arsenal supporter for being an immature knobhead

Did you say to him when you were sitting with him that you were going to text him? That's quite odd and I can see why he would be confused. Anyway anything to cheer him up after such an awful year i guess 😀

I think my very small anecdote has not quite hit the mark with you, has it?

A young guy has the measure of an older guy who is a knobhead, and younger guy thinks older guy's behaviour is typical of twattish Arsenal supporters.

HTH

Sorry but you’ve married an idiot

This. What has he personally done to receive congratulations?

Good lord. DH and I, in a very casual way, support very different teams in various sports, where success for one is often to the detriment of another. We think we're doing well if we carry off a tactful silence rather than a barely concealed smirk. Neither of us does anything to achieve victory. I've never heard anything like this.

To be fair, OP could at least have crocheted him a scale model of the Emirates stadium to make him feel supported.

Well, thankfully they didn’t, @northernballer!! 😉😉

Ouch.

They were poor - I agree. But part of that reason was because they had a constantly high number of injured players, they changed managers three times (if we include sacking Ange Postecoglou pre-season) and, with playing in the the Champions League, they also had a more hectic and competitive football season than they’re used to.

I don’t think any other PL club had to deal with those exact factors. I do want to add though, I think Liverpool had it worse though, as they had to deal with the aftermath of Diogo Jota’s awful death in pre-season, and they’ve done brilliantly to play consistently well despite that.

Liverpool haven't played consistently well at all imo, they have been absolutely inconsistent even within the same game. Especially around winter they had about 5 wins in 20 games iirc. Van Dijk went from best defender in the league to liability. Was weird.
Agree it was likely influenced by the awful loss of Jota but they have been pretty rubbish for defending champions. Spurs though have been on a whole other level, and were lucky today that Everton are also having a (prolonged) dud spell.

That’s a good point - they haven’t been super consistent, but they have played consistently well enough, all the same, to finish fifth and get Champions League football next season. I also think Van Dijk is losing form, Salah and Slot are not seeing eye to eye and Slot hasn’t managed them very well this season. Those are all also contributing factors. Despite all of that, they’ve done very well.

Congratulating him on what, exactly? What was his contribution to Arsenal winning the league?

Slot has lost the dressing room.

My dh is a passionate football fan, different code but he’s a member, his whole family are, they meet the players. I pay zero attention to what the weekend result is or where they are on the ladder, if he wants me to know he can tell me, and if he warns to go to a match he can ask me if that works for our schedule. If he got mad at me for not congratulating him on the outcome of some other blokes kicking a ball around that he had no role in I’d recommend him an urgent gp appt.