For not calling DH to congratulate him on Arsenal winning the Premiership?

[FierceForester90]

Hubby is an Arsenal fan, has been as long as Ive known him but doesn't got to many matches. DS1 supports a local team, has a season ticket and is rather more passionate about his team.

This week I worked away and while I wasn't here Arsenal won the league. They didn't win it as a result of a match they were in they won it as a result of another team losing meaning they couldn't be caught.

Hubby has had a proper moan that all his mates messaged him to say congratulations and I didn't even ring. Im a bit miffed because if there had been an Arsenal game on that determined it id have kept track of the score.

He works as a Driving Instructor and every single time he has a student pass I text or call. I am always supportive of the things he achieves personally.

If he was at the level of supporting DH1 is I'd understand his annoyance. AIBU to think its a bit much?

I think congratulations are only for people who contribute to some sort of success. Not just some spectator.

It's like when people say they're proud of something they had no part of. It doesn't make sense. You get that from the far right when they bang on about being proud to be British and go on to cite winning WW2 or something.

Being ‘hurt’ is insane though.

As a non football fan I don't get this either, but if seems to be the done thing. My wife and lots of family members are huge fans of various teams and they are always messaging to congratulate each other for any sort of wins.

@FierceForester90 he sounds exhausting, I couldn't be bothered with his non achievement.....

Is he part of the team? No, thought not. Not sure why he’d think he was worthy of congratulating then 🤯

How would you know to text or call him when one of his students pass?!

I wouldn’t think it’s for you to follow or monitor how his football team or his students are doing and then contact him. It would be more realistic for him to phone/text/tell you that Arsenal have won or his students have passed and you to congratulate him then?!

It's weird that she didn't say anything about an event she didn't even know had happened until he got in a strop about it? Do you realise how utterly illogical that is?

Unless he’s a player, manager or support staff that’s ridiculous, he didn’t win it, they did! I don’t understand this football tribalism lark.

It’s utterly ridiculous to expect to be congratulated on something you haven’t achieved.

Does he expect congratulations every time he ejaculates? He wouldn't be doing it again after this unattractive behaviour.

My DH is an Aston Villa fan. This week he’s been excited about them winning the Europa League. He’s been wearing his Villa shirt. I was happy to see him enjoying the moment and smiled appropriately. But it wouldn’t have occurred to me to congratulate him beyond that. He wouldn’t have expected that either.

Not really. It's something important to him whether others on here agree or disagree. It's quite judgemental to decide what's important to some 'shouldn't' be. If DH decided to paint my kitchen purple I would be upset because it's important to me, whether kitchen wall colors are really important in life or not. I live with 2 big football fans. It means a lot to them and therefore they would be hurt if I did not acknowledge something which was important to them.

I don't get the messaging about a football team winning and I say that as someone with a football mad son and husband.
When a pupil passes,surely you just say "that's great" over the tea table or whenever you next speak to him. He must have a very fragile ego if he needs babying like this.

I hope PSG trounce them

I still think a grown man being ‘hurt’ because his wife didn’t congratulate him on his football team winning is still, in my opinion, insane. I’d would understand it more if he shot the winning goal and she didn’t congratulate him. I have every sympathy with someone who has been genuinely hurt by someone’s actions, but I have precious little patience for ‘hurty’ feelings.

I know others have got there before me, but when I saw the title my immediate thought was “is he the Arsenal manager?”. If he doesn’t have a direct connection to the club (ie is paid by them in some capacity), then why on earth would congratulations be due to him? Very odd.

So he wasn't on the team? Or a manager? Why should he get congratulations?

I live with someone whose mane love is his team. Season ticket holder, follows them everywhere so I have a good knowledge of what’s going on as to be quite frank, it’s hard to escape. The endless hours away from home, often in Europe, Wembley…..
So I would know to and congratulations but only because my dad was the same.
However if your DH mainly watches it from his armchair, you were away, and it wasn’t a jeopardy-type situation, and came as the result of another team delivering it to them, then I think it’s fine to say well done when you’ve arrived home.
But some men really are children. My other half was in a vile mood on Monday night and I already knew it was because Arsenal could win the league. We are in a Northern city in direct competition.
I stayed out of the way and shut my ears the next day. And the rewatching and explaining of VAR decisions it’s so boring.
However, I have to say it’s a fantastic achievement for Arsenal, and I can remember the last time they won it.

Jesus Christ, why are some men so fragile?
As if it isn't bad enough that some of them behave like violent thugs because they can't cope when their precious team loses. Apparently even when they win that's not enough for them, they need to be personally "congratulated".
For what?? "Congratulations on your ability to successfully sit on your arse watching and enjoying someone else's sporting achievement?"
Your DH needs to catch himself on, OP.

He works as a Driving Instructor and every single time he has a student pass I text or call.

Can you explain this please OP?

How are you finding out about this if not just through general conversation when he comes home?

Through social media? I still wouldn’t be going out if my way to call or text about that every time.

What would happen if you didn’t?

Haven't BTS done well on their world tour!! Are you loving their new album??

Jesus. I could not tolerate this level of bullshit

I am but you didn’t congratulate me on the album! Now I’m hurt 😭 I particularly love 2.0, Like Animals and Into the Sun, I expect to be personally congratulated on such great tracks, that I had sod all to do with writing, producing or singing 😂

My husbanf does.
He would never expect me to express anything in relation to football or sport.

If he was a proper fan, had a season ticket and went home and away watching his team - I may think about making a comment.

I sent a message to 2 of my mates who are Arsenal fans this week just saying ‘Nice one, made for you mate’ but that’s because they are proper fans.

Your DH sounds like a needy, prat - I hoped you just laughed at him.