Putting the word kindly before whatever you are saying, isnt being kind

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I'm getting a bit sick of MN writing "kindly" and then writing whatever you want. Eg "kindly you are being redicilous".

I find it just allows them to be rude and coming over "kindly".

There's always a better way to phrase things, it's not difficult. If you're being cruel to be kind don't bother with the mealy mouthed 'kindly' in front.

I agree.

That's gossip, not friendship

I've known her since a very young age and she's otherwise OK. I just don't trust her loaded questions.

I have used 'Kindly' on here recently. I meant it literally in the context it was used.

It is often used as the magic word that allows you to be nasty without being accountable for hurtful words.

It's the same as "I'm not being nasty, but...". You know it's likely to be followed by a bucket full of spiteful bile.

I think posters often do it because they think their nasty comment is less likely to be removed if it's prefixed with "kindly".

I've used it a couple of times on MN. It's just that tone is so hard to accurately convey - I'm also awaiting an assessment for AuDHD, so I've always been accused of being too blunt. So I guess I can't win 🤷‍♀️

Same here diagnosed last year. Always conscious of coming across in the wrong way, but can see how is might sound condescending.

Kindly, you are completely fucking wrong and doubtless very thick generally. I will now detach you with love.

I always take this to mean ‘cruel to be kind’ as in the word kindly is included to let the recipient know the following hard to hear words’ are intended with kindness and not in a nasty way - coming from a good place

Thank you OP. Now I know how to start the conversation with my colleague that I actually don't think she is as 'nice' as she wants (pathologically) everyone to believe.

"Kindly 'Molly' I do think you're actually not as nice you want everyone to think......". Hopefully I'll get a chance to point out her 'right bitch' tendencies before it goes horribly wrong/bursts into tears/big mean THING,etc.

I feel like we could have a good chat about Molly

Molly, I know people believing you to be a nice person is really important to you but unfortunately your actions make that belief quite tough to maintain. For example, when you told Sarah that you didn’t want to be mean but her arse is enormous, that wasn’t very nice. you big raving bitch

actually, if we are talking tone - Kindly is the written equivalent of the tinkly laugh

Exactly what I was going to say.

Totalky agree, OP.