Putting the word kindly before whatever you are saying, isnt being kind

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I'm getting a bit sick of MN writing "kindly" and then writing whatever you want. Eg "kindly you are being redicilous".

I find it just allows them to be rude and coming over "kindly".

Agree! It’s so fake & patronising. For some reason it makes me think of Miss Ellie in Dallas in the 1980s. Twee!

Its patronising and I always imagine it being said in that sickly sweet tone

No need to preface with ‘kindly’ or the equally patronising ‘gently’: just be kind in your reply. Kindly , you are being ridiculous is just horrible.

Prefacing with kindly = "I am not saying this because I want to upset you. You asked so my response is..."

Which seems fine to me.

Thats what it is! Neither passive nor aggressive, but still passive aggressive

Yes that

It’s never actually intended as kind, it’s deliberate snark

I think it started with the intent of overcoming the issue of an inability to hear tone and see facial expression. A bit like a stage direction. It's become PA/patronising also now.

No. They could word it better.

But we know this, that’s exactly why people use it.

See also, Kind Regards on email, that’s to let someone know they’ve been extremely hard work/and or trying.

Go on then, give it a go?

Kind regards - really depends on the email.

I sign every email of with kind regards
What else would you write???

I sign off every email with Kind regards unless they’ve really pissed me off and then it’s just regards

sometimes I use ‘thanks for your help’ or other nicetie to close off

"I'm not being funny but.." is different though because what they say is indeed not remotely funny.

The others they are actually being rude, sexist etc.

I don't think it is different. It's not being funny in the sense of making a joke. It's being funny with someone in the sense of being offhand or slightly rude or tetchy.

This. Kindly, stop being so sensitive OP.

You could just leave it blank, or sign off with your name - but then judging by this thread someone might accuse you of being rude.

You seem to be reading a lot into what are simply social niceties, which in real life we say all the time probably without thinking.

It’s like small talk, it’s just there to smooth things over, doesn’t actually mean a lot.

Ah ok. Yeah I see what you mean. I've had it where people think they're being amusing as well as offensive. So I guess it could be both. It's never good though is it, the words that follow!

I think it's fine. It indicates the tone that the writer wants to convey.

Kindly, you are a loon

I think you're expecting me to get upset but no..not hitting quite how you'd like. Soz.

I think it's a bit like when people say you label the behaviour not the child.

It feels nicer to the person giving it, but the person receiving it doesn't really notice.

Kindly fuck off...

No but now I want to start writing “Really Rude Notice” on all of mine.

It depends on the context.

Kindly, followed by a insult, isn't helpful.
Kindly, you are a nutjob.

Kindly, followed by well meaning advice.
Kindly, you need to leave for the sake of your kids.

It's an effort to convey understanding of the situation and trying not to kick someone when they are down or vulnerable. It's need advice but the user doesn't want it to seem like a pile on.