AIBU to want to move after neighbour noise and threats?

[User48236]

I’ve had about an hours sleep as I’m still feeling so wired and upset, our lovely forever home has turned into a nightmare after less than a year and I just want to move 😢

Relocated several hours away to where I’m from as all my family plus grown up children are here due to an inheritance we were able to buy a house outright and become mortgage free..my teen dd still lives at home .

it’s a semi detached bungalow on what seemed a quiet estate with wonderful views . The vendor informed us neighbours were lovely both sides and that she had a great relationship with the couple who lived to the left , they walked her dog and generally treated her like family (she was an older lady )

On moving in they seemed initially quite friendly , one husband seemed quieter and we didn’t see him much the other seemed chattier but not falling over himself to be friendly, more just being nosey and wanted to find out a few things., neighbour the other side is rarely there.

Our bungalows are staggered on a slope and each has an integral garage meaning one neighbours garage is quite close to the wall of each house we were rudely woken up one Saturday at nine am by what sounded like hard house music pumping through our walls and the sound of weightlifting weights being slapped back into their holder or dropped on the floor which literally make the house shake .

it transpired that next doors garage was the guy we saw more of’s gym and he was working out , to make matters worse he opens his garage doors so it’s full volume too , we can hear it everywhere on the house and worse if we open the front door as that faces the garage wall of next door (door is at the side of the house )

Its been a regular thing for eight months every other day we have up to an hour a day of this and always first thing Saturday and I noticed that despite having only lived there a couple of years the neighbour on the other side of them has put her house on the market, it could be co-incidental but who knows .

on top of that we’ve now discovered that they like to socialise a lot (they hadn’t owned their house long when we moved In Last autumn and had been still doing it up ) obviously I have no
pfoblem with that it just seems to be very loud 😕
They are regularly in their garden at all hours playing very basey music. Not particularly loud but very basey .. which comes through poor dds bedroom wall and also they are very noisy in general , until late at night .. they are mid forties I’d say but appear to work from home .
they also have two large dogs which are in the garden all the time and bark at their own Shadow

for context we moved from a house with awful noise nuisance and I was looking forward to leaving that behind (rented)

last night I’d had enough . I’d casually mentioned the gym workouts once in conversation previously (once) thinking he might be considerate and instead he’d doubled down straight away saying “I’m not In There long” and has.actually not spoken to us since
last night We headed to bed at 10.30 and just as we are drifting off .. suddenly thump thump thump ! My daughter knocked on my door and said it sounded awful in her bedroom. You could hear several people chatting loudly (ok fair enough everyone’s entitled to use their garden )
but the music was so basey …. We could hear it in our room too .
as it got to 11 we decided it might be an idea to politely let them know it was audible In our house so we popped round . Once near the back garden you could hear it was loud .. The usual guy came to the door and I asked if they were having a party . He said no quite defensively.. So we explained the base was a little loud and asked him to maybe turn it down a bit . He went beserk , effing and jeffing and said “sorry you saddos don’t want to live but normal people like to sit in their gardens and listen to music , you’ve already complained about my music once “
we didn’t want a confrontation and explained it was just the music was a bit too loud and could they be considerate .. nope . He had no intention of it . “Fuck off and get a life” was the response , then told me if we came round again he’d set “the dogs on us “ As we walked away I heard him say “stupid bitch, I’m not fucking having that “

when we got home I just cried my eyes out as I realised we can’t stay here , because now I can probably expect them to be worse. I love this house, we poured so much money into doing it up as it needed modernising and dd is in the middle of her GCSE’s but I suddenly feel like I want to just pack up and leave . Am I being unreasonable?

@WhatYouWearing well his friends who were there did .. but I suspect all the other neighbours were in bed as mostly elderly

Every time they do late night noise do early morning music yourself - but only on the wall/garage adjoining them

6am BEETHOVENS 5th ! You’ve nothing to lose by doing it back - if he complains say you have it at the same level he does at 11pm.

@LaurieFairyCake sadly the only issue is if I played it at the garage wall they wouldn’t hear it and to blast at their house I’d have to go in the garden so I wouldn’t want to upset other neighbours 🙈
if we were semi detached I’d definitely do it

Your whole house shakes because he drops weights on the floor? This seems unlikely. Or if it’s true I’d get that investigated

I agree. Especially as youre in detached houses, that shouldn't happen

Err yes it does ! The houses are a seventies style bungalow and the garage runs along side of the house then there’s a space of 3 ft incorporating our front path .and then side of our house . I can reach over and touch the outside wall if their house incorporating the garage from our doorstep . The houses also have suspended wooden floors over a five feet floor space so in fairness it doesn’t take much..
also you are t in my house so don’t tell me what is and isn’t happening because you don’t live here

Give over, his weights aren’t shaking your walls in a detached house. Who is he, Mitchell Hooper?! To drop weights so heavy he’d shake your walls, he’d be damaging his own floor in the process surely?

Read my comment before yours
yes he is .. these arent big detached houses they are two bed seventies bungalows in staggered style . The eaves of each bungalow actually cover the path to our house so his garage wall is just three feet from my front door and believe me .. there is a vibration.. and tbh we asked the same question about their own house because he’s doing proper weightlifting and it can’t be good to drop those weights for his own house

I think he’s THINKS he’s Mitchell Hooper 🙈

I understand the misery of noisy neighbours, Op, we moved ourselves as a result of one set. I agree with all the other posters who have told you that moving is the best way forward.

@Motnight yes we are actively going to look around and see what’s on the market now ,
no workout yesterday , probably had a hangover , but the music just went on ten times louder in the garage I swear .. the woman over the road is outside in her garden and she doesn’t look impressed , she keeps looking over at their house , no one needs music that loud while working out , there are such things as ear buds, he’s just a massive dick imo- just opened the front door and because garage wall is right in front of our door it’s just blasted the house with it .. I appreciate it’s daytime but It’s bloody awful .. I’m having to put noise cancelling headphones in as I’m feeling so stressed . I’m in my living room either way tv on and all I can hear is thump thump thump ..

I'm so sorry for what you are going through OP, especially recovering from cancer. (I suspect all the gaslighting posters defending your awful neighbour are partial to a loud back garden party themselves.)

We had noise issues with the flat below for over a year. I was wearing earplugs daily in my own house. A team from the council came round to document noise levels for us at different times of day. We kept a detailed incident diary and ccd our councillor and MP into all correspondence with the relevant council dept. The tenants were evicted but this was only just before we sold up. I'm mentioning all this because we didn't really deal with the police as such (apart from "community police"?) so maybe this is the route to go down? We certainly didn't declare anything come the sale. But by then the problem had moved on.

I totally get that you don't want a war but I do think his threat re the dogs should be logged somewhere. He's probably on steroids, the idiot.

Oh OP my heart goes out to you, one of the worst things to endure is noisy neighbours who are then rude, threatening and hostile when you ask them to tone it down. I have had almost four years of hell with mine, can't afford to move so stuck with them, I have been sworn at, threatened, have had to have had to call the police 3 times, contacted the council time without number, contacted the landlord and things got so bad I was able to request a Community Trigger meeting. What a waste of time that was! Action Plan drawn up by the council and 6 months later not one single thing has been done. There is only token help out there, so if you can move, do so. Sending you positive thoughts.

@ProfessorLadyDrKeenovay that sounds like hell.. I bet you were so relieved when they went .. 🫤
I can’t see next door selling up anytime soon ..

I honestly just want to try and ignore them .. I went to get in my car today as the one who threatened me was getting out of his car . He gave me a glance but seemed to be avoiding eye contact (thank god)
we were the same in our old house , my daughter was unable to sleep at night for the music blasting through the wall , everytime the parents went away the teens throw would throw a party .. the noise wa daily .. all day . Either music or guitar .. full volume .. I had to start wearing my noise cancelling ear buds continually , then there re would be no escape outside due to loud music from the park

@Lifeomars that sounds absolutely horrific , you must be so worn down and drained , does the other person own or rent ?

So he has music playing for an hour mid morning while works out and they have people round some weekends and play music in the evening. The rest of the time, weeknights and early mornings for example are they making noise? Ok it's own this sounds like fairly ordinary neigh our noise. It also feels a bit suspicious that you were annoyed by neigh our noise previously, what were they doing?

Hello neighbours friends!
Just for the record , read the original
post , sorry but no one should have to tolerate having to turn their tv up to try and drown out constant thumping , also the garage doors open right by my living room window .. and then there the thump thump
of the weights .,
sorry but a one off event in the evening maybe but Its happened quite a few times since the weather got better and we bit our lips
No one should have to put noise cancelling headphones on at 11 am because the neighbours are selfish twats .. it’s called being considerate
and for the record the previous noise was 12 hours a day of an electric guitar on full volume , noisy parties etc in a semi detached house for ten years that we politely asked to be turned down and were ignored, some night’s the guitar was going on at ten pm.. and they repeatedly had all night parties

They may have a right to enjoy their home but so do I .. 🙄

He threatened you. I'd either involve police or (more likely) wake him up with blaring music in the middle of the night. Then tell him to go get his dogs if he thinks he can't handle me himself. Pathetic cunt.

OP - ignore the posters on here who are defending your neighbour. They’re clearly the lucky ones who’ve never experienced the utter hell of having your life ruined by selfish twats who don’t give a fuck about anyone but their own enjoyment. My home became somewhere I dreaded being. I used to panic on the way home from work driving up the street and I utterly dreaded weekends. These people were VILE. We had years of it and so many arguments between myself and my husband because I wanted to sell and he wouldn’t. Until you’ve experienced this, you have no fucking clue and therefore no right to comment.

What rotten luck OP that you have been lumbered with a second set of horrible neighbours. I feel for you as it would be my worst nightmare. I don’t have a garden and there are times like that when I’m glad I don’t.

12 hours a day is VERY different to an hour of gym music.

Dont report to council or police. You'd have to declare the dispute when you sell and likely to put buyers off.

@User48236 I've just seen this today, have you had any sort of breakthrough at all? I sympathise so very much. My neighbour on the right is an alcoholic, she doesn't work and is at home 24/7. I know exactly when she gets up (It's 2pm every day) and I know this because it seems every TV and sound system she owns go on. That's it, as soon as she's up, until midnight, pure bass and shit Ibiza house music. Last night she played music THROUGH THE NIGHT. I got about 3 hours sleep.

We stopped using our garden months ago because of her, we just let the dogs out for their business but they don't play in it because of her.

About twice a week she has a proper blowout, where she just starts screaming and the whole street can hear her music. She'll scream "IT'S FRIDAY!!!" even though she doesn't work, and then you know you're going to suffer all weekend.

She never even goes on holiday because her dog has never been walked, isn't socialised, and tries to attack anyone who isn't her. So there's no break. Ever.

I too don't want to report it as we want to move, largely because of her. But I have read horror stories of people putting in a noise complaint, not declaring it when selling, and then coming a cropper when the new buyers find out they were lied to. I would advise against reporting them, for this very reason. Yes it's unfair to the new buyer, but I don't know what to say.

@StephensLass1977 Avoiding being in YOUR garden is awful. I really hope you can successfully sell up.

These scummy neighbours make me so angry. They know there’s pretty much no for consequences for their behaviour, so they continue not giving a shit about anyone else.