DH wants to miss SIL’s anniversary lunch for Arsenal parade?

[Thegoldenoriole]

As you may or may not know (or care), Arsenal won the Premier League yesterday. DH wants to go to the parade in a couple of weeks. However, we have his sister’s 10th anniversary lunch booked in already, and it would be impossible to attend both.

I think it’s probably reasonable to go to the parade, given it could be literally the only opportunity. Or it could happen again next year! But I’m concerned DSIL won’t feel the same way… DH is a fan, but not to a major degree - he only started following them at uni influenced by his flatmate and I think he’s been to two live arsenal games in his life! The rest of the family aren’t football people at all. I only care insofar as it affects DH.

Thoughts? I would still go to SIL’s lunch and take the kids - they are small and after what happened at Liverpool last year I wouldn’t want them going without me.

You just cant though. That is a ridiculous thing to say.

They don't even go on general sale-you have to be a member and enter a ballot to even try and buy one.

It has changed in the last few years and people who used to be able to win in the ballot are not able to get tickets.
It's a real shame.

But no burning hoops will get you a ticket to an Arsenal game.

Okay, fair enough. Let's not fall out, though.

Anniversary meal is weird but if it's standard enough in their family that it's all been planned and arranged and put in people's diaries then personally I think it's shit of him to duck out because of a football parade tbh. If I were SIL I'd be extremely unimpressed.

He should go to the parade, and I hate sport.

Celebrating a 10th wedding anniversary with a dinner or party is weird. Too soon. They’ve barely started on married life at 10 years. Save the group celebration for the 25th wedding anniversary.

But he didnt know that Arsenal were going to win nor did he know when the parade would be. Would you really think your anniversary trumps a special day for someone ( a day that doesnt come once a year for them?)

Come on over here-lots of fellow Gooners and loads of other fans-great fun.

www.mumsnet.com/talk/sports/5512151-the-rolling-football-thread-season-202526-thread-4?reply=152427083

How come they get 60,000 every week? Some must be able to buy tickets...

Let's not!

(Unless you're a Spurs fan. 😉)

Oh, miles and miles from Islington.

Your DH is not being unreasonable. My husband is a lifelong Arsenal fan and is beside himself with excitement about this. I hate football but would not expect DH to miss the parade for anything- even our own anniversary!

And yes- as PPs have said- sounds like this is a conversation for DH to have with his sister; I don’t see why you need to worry about it. Also agree with PPs that a family dinner for a 10 year anniversary is a bit much. But I do like a nice lunch so any excuse really.

I just asked DP. 45k are for season ticket holders. Then there's the away allocation. The rest are sold through a ballot/lottery system or on the ticket exchange – both of which you have to be a paid up member.

There's no such thing as public sale.

Let him go, its been 22 fkg years!

He can go to the 25th wedding anniversary, which is the first one ever that warrants an event imo.

Why on earth should other people give up their plans to attend her anniversary celebration? That’s an expectation that should fall solely on the spouse.

@Thegoldenoriole I would guess the increase in celebrations for 10th anniversaries is just part of a general trend towards parties and celebrations every time anything happens.

Folks have always celebrated weddings and birthdays but now it’s also engagements, anniversaries, gender reveals, baby showers, lavish hen and stag holidays and so on. Perhaps it’s uncharitable of me to say so but it seems like it’s part of the whole ‘main character syndrome/put everything on Instagram’ vibe that we seem to have going on these days.

Or as you say, maybe because so many marriages now don’t last that a ten year anniversary is more of a cause for celebration!

You go to the lunch he goes to see parade and he meets up with sil after for a drink.

It seems massively indulgent to expect other people to celebrate your wedding anniversary 😆

Also, it’s not your issue. Let your husband explain his decision to his sister himself!

Why on earth would anyone celebrate their wedding anniversary with anyone else? Bizarre.

He should defo go to the parade. It may not happen again in his lifetime whereas his sister should have an anniversary every year and it really isn't a big deal.

That's fairly safe, a Leeds parade! I still recall teaching in Leeds in 1970/1 when they were expected to win everything and won nothing. The joke was that Schofields were selling Leeds bras, all support and no cups!
I am now waiting for the Christmas boast by post from an old friend, he will be full of support for Ipswich, until they are relegated again! He truly is a fair weather fan.

I appreciate their anniversary is special but that is for them to celebrate. I wouldn't expect anyone other than maybe my kids to celebrate milestone anniversaries. My dh supports Arsenal and is going to the parade. He was in two minds but I've told him to go enjoy himself as who knows when they will next win it! I wouldn't hold this against him, it's been 22 years since they last won. It's up to him to raise it with his sister. I'd still go ahead and take the kids.

These replies make me feel old, I recall watching top flight matches by rolling up with 1/6, (7 1/2p) in my sweaty hand!

"his sister’s 10th anniversary lunch"
Well that sounds super dull. Go and watch footballers.

Those truly were the days! The cost of my DP's season ticket makes my eyes water!

I would skip a 10th anniversary lunch and i dont like football!

Even if my team wasn't having a celebratory parade, I'd gladly volunteer to have my eyes burned out with red hot pokers rather than go to someone else's 10th Anniverary celebration. It sounds excruciatingly twee and dull.

Does it matter?