to think some retired people completely forget what it’s like to be working full time?

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I know retirement is not always easy and older people can have health issues, caring responsibilities etc. But I do think some people genuinely forget what it is like to juggle work, commuting, childcare, housework and just basic life admin all at once.

My DM is retired and will often say how busy she is because she has shopping on Tuesday and a doctor’s appointment on Friday. That is apparently an exhausting week. She is in good health and active. Meanwhile most working people are fitting those things around 40+ hour working weeks.

My retired neighbour constantly comments on how awful another neighbour’s garden looks and how she should tidy it up. The neighbour she is talking about is a working mum with young children who leaves the house at 7am every day. My retired neighbour has a gardener.

Obviously NOT ALL retired people are like this at all. Some are incredibly understanding and helpful. But others seem to completely lose perspective on how relentless working life can be, especially with children.

"but have 3 kids which is a full time job"

Haha - well it is a full time job for me!

No. I just think it's funny. 😂 I have never baked bread in my life!

My DM is retired and will often say how busy she is because she has shopping on Tuesday and a doctor’s appointment on Friday. That is apparently an exhausting week.

I'm retired, and I do the same! Well, not that it's exhausting, but it feels busy.

This week I had a counselling session on Monday, dentist on Tuesday (and it was a specialist thing so I had to go to a surgery 20-odd miles away), and I have an acupuncture appointment tomorrow.

Next weekend I'm dogsitting for 3 days so will have to drag my knackered old knees for 2 walks a day.

Good for you actually. I'd have loved that, but just for a bit. I liked job share, best of both plus I could retire at 60 with a good pension.

Your children are very lucky.

Your OP just talks about retired people forgetting what it’s like to be busy at work, your evidence being they say they have a busy week with just a few appointments or plans. When I say I’m busy I mean I) the context of my life. I completely remember what it was like to work full time as a single parent. I’m not comparing my busy-ness now to then at all.
You only started talking about the judgement you seem to get in later posts after people said you were unreasonable to complain abput older people saying they were busy while doing stacks less than you. As a counter anecdote, I never encountered judgement from retired people (or anyone else) when I was a working single parent and cut corners to get some relaxation time (or just survive). Your problem isn’t retired people. It’s your mum and very odd neighbours. And you’ve triggered a lot of ageist responses from others with your post - not your fault of course, but that’s what’s making people hit back a bit.

They have not forgotten. But of course they are tired. If some do not feel tired good for them. I started to feel tired at 50. Menopause and mental load was the cause. Much rather be home resting than bothering with stuff that I now find exhausting. I put a lot of effort into working and raising my family. My job is done and is up to me what do I do with my life.

No I don't. OP spent the majority of yesterday afternoon making this thread, constantly checking messages and responding to them all while supposedly working 🙄 In that time she could have called her dad because going by this thread he wants to talk his daughter. She could easily have spent 10 minutes talking to him a possibly making his day brighter, but she didn't she spent the time whining instead. OPs dad a has a point about her

It is upto everybody what they do with their life.

Ah i misunderstood, i thought you said you were too busy to relax in the evenings.

Prorities, Mentailty
Once you step out of the work force I think the world changes and that added pressure/ fun & games of a work place is forgotten.
Including the many unquine creatures we work alongside is enough let alone the job.
Gosh imagine deciding to leave a job and waking into another that same day as retired people 60+ had...yes please.

I think you are referring to the 75plus age group that did that.

Besides that was " jobs" not the careers everyone seemingly wants these days

Well, I only worked for 50+ years, so I guess it’s easily forgotten. 🙄🤷‍♀️

I’m 61. There was massive unemployment when I left full time education in the 80s.

Yes that is the point I was making 🙄

I do.

Because she is criticising a working woman for not helping when she will have plenty of time on her hands, you know, being retired?

You on the clock at work thats point I think. My mam has all day to do stuff.. My daughter has sport mid week so I have get good bit done during the day

"Your problem isn't retired people. It's your mum and very odd neighbours" as someone further up said. This nails it.

I can honestly say I have not come across what the OP describes. My mum (and Dad when he was still with us) is much more likely to struggle on and not ask for help because she doesn't like to ask us because "you're all so busy." Nor does she give unsolicited advice. My MIL was the same, despite even having a son living in the same house as her! And as I said in an earlier post, my retired neighbours frequently express amazement at how we manage with work/kids/pets/garden.

Does it nail it? Lots of people have posted with similar experiences to me. 74% say I am not unreasonable.

OP. “Some retired people” is too small a subset of all retired people to be of any relevance here. Plenty of non-retired people may make similar comments in equal measure.

It is the retired people making these comments to me but you are right I am sure others do too.

I've commented and disagreed with you. Guess what. I'm not retired.

Yeah I found it fromSAHM when my kids were yiung

I don't deny comments are made by others too.