Am I going to get the sack? AIBU?

[mumstheword1x]

I’m suffering with anxiety at the moment, last week I got given a pay rise by my manager, I was so happy. I thanked her on Friday over email for all her support and she never replied.

shes asked to speak to me tomorrow morning at 09:30, I said ‘of course, all ok?’ And she said ‘Yes all good’

she never asks me for a catch up like that, so I’m a lil confused. She normally just calls me on the day at the time randomly.

I don’t think I’ve done anything wrong, although she’s a director and some drama kicked off at an Awayday, I wasn’t involved, I just found out and had to schedule calls for another manager. I’m a PA to 3 people and this one is my boss, the other manager told my boss today that I knew about it… although I was just scheduling calls and wasn’t involved & it was agreed the director didn’t need to know.

AIBU? Am I over thinking this?

Massively overthinking. But you probably know that as I assume it’s not the first time you’ve done that! You are making up stories which fit your catastrophising.

I don't think people realise how hard work it is to manage people, when you can't even schedule a meeting/ catch up without starting a panic attack. It's exhausting.

Bear in mind if you do no give enough warning, they have anxiety attack too.

Just be professional! You should still be celebrating your pay rise, what more do you want

Surely if things are going well, it's more likely she has something posiitve to say or ask? Why would you jump to to getting sacked? Is that an everyday occurance where you work? In 40 years of work I don't think I've ever experienced someone getting sacked on the spot.

Don’t worry about it easy for me to say I know but if it was anything major or bad they would speak to u sooner and if it was a
conduct issue they would be offering u to speak to union rep etc (or should give u the oppportunity to stop meeting and rearrange. Im sure it wont be anything u toward but its horrible all the same overthinking x

No I work for a massive insurance company

Yes you’re overthinking this.

It’d be a bit weird to give someone a pay rise one week and sack them the next.

Agreed. Maybe it’s to take on more responsibility or something similar? Change in process?

Only thing I can think of is maybe you weren’t meant to get the pay rise so the meeting is to tell you that.

This. You are massively overthinking.

She called it a ‘quick catch up’

Maybe it is about another pay rise!

It’s likely they’ll just want to hear what you know about the Awayday and who decided not to inform the director.

@mumstheword1x so, what drama happened on the Awayday, this sounds interesting?

For goodness sake, is that really the only thing you can think of. You are as bad as her!!!!

It'll be org changes or some info she wants to share or something dull.

No one gives out payrises and sacks someone.
I also dont believe it was given in error as suggested upthread in large orgs payroses go through multiple approves and checks.

A colleague got drunk and squared up to another manager and told them all the things they don’t like about them 😳 I didn’t find out until said colleague asked if they could chat and when I said ‘why, all ok’ she rang me crying telling me she’s embarrassed and she’s going to loose her job.

I spoke to the manager who she did this too and asked he called her back due to how distraught she was. All was ok, until today- when the manager said ‘I’ve told the director, just because of how out of control it got with her emotions and we’ve referred her on to some therapy as she has a lot going on at home, I said you knew and helped arrange meetings etc ’

Are you in America? If you are in the uk have you any idea how hard it is to sack someone.

It’s changed on my system!

I’m in England

She could be just checking how you are if you’ve been struggling etc

I'd say it's most likely to be a thank you and an 'are you OK?' , if it's about that at all.

where can I apply, becauser a pay rise every week, I am interested 😂

The catch-up is definitely about this.

They will be trying to oust your friend though because of her drunken behaviour. It’s difficult to get rid of someone though, looks like they’re playing the long game, start with therapy and then something else etc.. and eventually she’ll walk!

As a manager who has a lot of quick catch ups, this is almost certainly because she wants to hear what the colleague said to you / how she was when she spoke to you - or it’s to check something specific with you (either about the away day or not).

Are you getting any help with your anxiety? I have horrendous anxiety, and counselling and medication have helped me enormously. I know how exhausting and all-consuming anxiety can be

You are anxious so I understand how and why you've catastrophised this.

However, my assumption here is that you've done absolutely nothing wrong and your boss genuinely just needs/wants a chat with you. It might be about this awayday thing but that'll be to get your account rather than dragging you over the coals for anything and certainly not firing you.

I would advise that you let her know that you were worried by the request as hopefully that will help her understand why it would be helpful to give a little more context in future emails.

Congrats on the pay rise. She'll not have replied to your thank you email as it would just have been a thank you for a thank you!

Probably a debrief (or fishing expedition) re drunk colleague and advice on keeping what you know about the situation confidential. May also be checking whether you should be a witness in disciplinary proceedings for that colleague. That's exactly the kind of thing you'd have a quick, short notice, vaguely described, catch up about. Shouldn't be a problem for you at all. I wouldn't be inclined to express opinions on it or defend colleague who squared up to manager.