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And just like that... MAFS is over

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mumofoneAloneandwell · 18/05/2026 17:03

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/cp8pz1k4r2lo

It was coming. You dont get good reality TV without people suffering.

This news however is awful. Bloody awful.

A groom dressed in a dark suit and a bride dressed in white walk hand in hand along a sunlit grassy path, surrounded by tall green trees. Bright sunlight filters through the leaves. A large green Channel 4 logo sits to the left.

Married at First Sight UK 'brides' say they were raped by onscreen husbands

Channel 4 was aware of one of the rape claims before broadcast, but the woman involved still featured in the show.

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/cp8pz1k4r2lo

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Corvidsarethebest · Today 11:51

Differentforgirls · Yesterday 19:02

”unable to control his lust” really equates to being a rapist in my view. I have been with my husband for 43 years. 39 married. We used the “pull out” method. We have two sons, one a drunken error (on both our parts) but the best one we ever made, one planned. At no time was he ever “unable to control his lust”. If you’re unable to “control your lust”, you should never be around women.

This is my experience. Not one error.

As someone else has said, if you use the pull out method, you err on the side of caution. And if you got it wrong, you would apologise profusely, buy condoms and be prepared to shelve sex for a while til the person felt trusting again.

Many of the men on MAFS had barely concealed aggression problems, and seeing them put with vulnerable women was scary. I didn't watch the Australian series after the Dean/Sarah storyline, as I just realised they were pressuring women into having affectionate and sexual contact with men they didn't fancy. There were way worse men than Dean in that show, though, one couple were removed for aggression and I fully believe that there were several relationships that contained coercive control, abuse and (from that association) rape and unwanted sexual contact.

They picked unstable men some of whom looked to be on steroids, or were openly macho and dominant, and just by the DV statistics, were bound to hit on dangerous men- but instead of being on top of this and making it absolutely clear that everything had to be consensual and all even minor situations should be reported to them, having therapists on board with this, they just allowed the 'grey' area to play out til it wasn't grey any more, which is why I stopped watching before this scandal anyway.

JHound · Today 12:04

TidyRaven · Yesterday 14:57

Brad's not anonymous. He's denied any wrong doing. Won't take long before the others are identified.
I'm a woman by the way.

So somebody cannot discuss their experience of [alleged] assault lest it ruins the accused’s reputation?

What is your suggestion here?

JHound · Today 12:07

Shoopshawady · Yesterday 20:24

Rape is when you don’t consent to sex. She did consent.
Well done you, just isn’t something you I’d recommend unless you want a baby or an STI.

I don’t think you understand how consent works tbh. Consenting to A, B and C is not consenting to X, Y and Z.

Differentforgirls · Today 12:54

JHound · Today 12:07

I don’t think you understand how consent works tbh. Consenting to A, B and C is not consenting to X, Y and Z.

Nutshell!

Insertcreativenamehere · Today 13:29

One of the contestants stated rape. She consented to sex but did not consent him to ejaculate inside her. She has called that rape. For me this a dangerous blurring of lines of what rape is……

Differentforgirls · Today 13:32

Insertcreativenamehere · Today 13:29

One of the contestants stated rape. She consented to sex but did not consent him to ejaculate inside her. She has called that rape. For me this a dangerous blurring of lines of what rape is……

"did not consent" are the operatve words here. Not sure where the "blurring" is.

ruethewhirl · Today 13:56

Insertcreativenamehere · Today 13:29

One of the contestants stated rape. She consented to sex but did not consent him to ejaculate inside her. She has called that rape. For me this a dangerous blurring of lines of what rape is……

As far as I'm aware that's defined as rape now...

Toooldtocare25 · Today 14:12

These programmes always do. Big brother was brilliant when it was normal people doing a social experiment. Then it progressed to wannabes who would do anything for their 5 mins of fame. MAFS was the same. I’m not by any means condoning and sexual violence if this has happened then too right it should be off air. However this fake world we live in has got its part to play too.

fashionqueen0123 · Today 14:16

Missey85 · Today 11:23

Good the show was crap before this I'm in Australia and they've stopped airing it here as well I'm not surprised that this has happened

It just finished in Australia not long ago. It wasn't stopped airing. I've just finished watching the latest Aussie Mafs in the UK. I think we were a couple of weeks behind.

ruethewhirl · Today 14:24

Differentforgirls · Yesterday 19:02

”unable to control his lust” really equates to being a rapist in my view. I have been with my husband for 43 years. 39 married. We used the “pull out” method. We have two sons, one a drunken error (on both our parts) but the best one we ever made, one planned. At no time was he ever “unable to control his lust”. If you’re unable to “control your lust”, you should never be around women.

Absolutely. That expression makes me think of the awful victim-blamey things I've heard some people of my parents' generation say (I'm Gen X) about how men supposedly 'can't control themselves' once they get past a certain point and how that apparently means it's on the woman to not 'lead him on'. 😡

Differentforgirls · Today 14:40

ruethewhirl · Today 14:24

Absolutely. That expression makes me think of the awful victim-blamey things I've heard some people of my parents' generation say (I'm Gen X) about how men supposedly 'can't control themselves' once they get past a certain point and how that apparently means it's on the woman to not 'lead him on'. 😡

Awful.

Thindog · Today 15:26

JHound · Today 12:04

So somebody cannot discuss their experience of [alleged] assault lest it ruins the accused’s reputation?

What is your suggestion here?

My suggestion would be to take any serious criminal allegations to the police, and the case can be heard in the courts.
Rather than trial by a television show.

Differentforgirls · Today 15:29

Thindog · Today 15:26

My suggestion would be to take any serious criminal allegations to the police, and the case can be heard in the courts.
Rather than trial by a television show.

Oh you're still here Brad!

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