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And just like that... MAFS is over

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mumofoneAloneandwell · 18/05/2026 17:03

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/cp8pz1k4r2lo

It was coming. You dont get good reality TV without people suffering.

This news however is awful. Bloody awful.

A groom dressed in a dark suit and a bride dressed in white walk hand in hand along a sunlit grassy path, surrounded by tall green trees. Bright sunlight filters through the leaves. A large green Channel 4 logo sits to the left.

Married at First Sight UK 'brides' say they were raped by onscreen husbands

Channel 4 was aware of one of the rape claims before broadcast, but the woman involved still featured in the show.

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/cp8pz1k4r2lo

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TidyRaven · Yesterday 14:57

BIossomtoes · Yesterday 14:14

How can someone’s life and reputation be ruined if they’re anonymous? If you’re a woman you should be ashamed of yourself.

Brad's not anonymous. He's denied any wrong doing. Won't take long before the others are identified.
I'm a woman by the way.

ThatCyanCat · Yesterday 14:57

Differentforgirls · Yesterday 14:43

I have no words...

Unfortunately it's a common attitude.

TidyRaven · Yesterday 15:00

decorationday · Yesterday 14:30

How many men have made allegations of sexual assault?

Exactly, that is the point I am trying to make.

6legs · Yesterday 15:09

I’m sure tv executives will think up other ways to demean and abuse women as “entertainment”. They’ll just get them to sign non disclosure agreements next time.

Stop watching the trash and it’ll go off air.

BIossomtoes · Yesterday 15:18

TidyRaven · Yesterday 15:00

Exactly, that is the point I am trying to make.

The only point you’ve successfully made is that your internal misogyny runs deep.

RudolphTheReindeer · Yesterday 15:24

Differentforgirls · Yesterday 14:46

No sorry. The woman in this case, while making a fool of herself, didn't take what wasn't freely given.

No one said she had. It was just part of a wider discussion about how contestants are coerced into doing things they're not comfortable with.

pouletvous · Yesterday 15:24

the pull out story is baffling. Why oh why do women (and men) consent to sex wtih this proviso?

utterly baffling: no no no , please dont have unprotected sex ladies

Lalgarh · Yesterday 15:26

6legs · Yesterday 15:09

I’m sure tv executives will think up other ways to demean and abuse women as “entertainment”. They’ll just get them to sign non disclosure agreements next time.

Stop watching the trash and it’ll go off air.

They're already doing NDAs.

And as demonstrated by the Harvey Weinstein cases, an NDA cannot be used to prevent reports of criminal behaviour

HayfeverComethAndThatRightSoon · Yesterday 15:32

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loveawineloveacrisp · Yesterday 15:39

Lots of women have one night stands. Are you saying that if those women are raped they are also to blame?

HayfeverComethAndThatRightSoon · Yesterday 15:41

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loveawineloveacrisp · Yesterday 16:00

I think it's you who's 'barking mad' @HayfeverComethAndThatRightSoon. Disgusting comments

BIossomtoes · Yesterday 16:02

Completely agree. Disgraceful and completely lacking in understanding of what constitutes consent.

ThatCyanCat · Yesterday 16:03

Please join me in reporting that ugly mass of disgusting victim blaming posts. I know we had to expect deflection and "wot about the men" but there's a fucking limit.

Thindog · Yesterday 16:05

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loveawineloveacrisp · Yesterday 16:07

ThatCyanCat · Yesterday 16:03

Please join me in reporting that ugly mass of disgusting victim blaming posts. I know we had to expect deflection and "wot about the men" but there's a fucking limit.

Done

AnAlpacaForChristmasPleaseSanta · Yesterday 16:07

Differentforgirls · Yesterday 14:43

I have no words...

Nope me neither. These people actually walk amongst us, unfortunately.
Although having said that if I am completely honest I have been waiting for it to pop up and am somewhat surprised it took till page 7 to appear.

God forbid that poster has a daughter/sister/female friend who one day finds themself in the same situation as these poor women and some tool on the internet speculating that they probably made it up "to ruin a man's reputation" .

AnAlpacaForChristmasPleaseSanta · Yesterday 16:09

ThatCyanCat · Yesterday 16:03

Please join me in reporting that ugly mass of disgusting victim blaming posts. I know we had to expect deflection and "wot about the men" but there's a fucking limit.

Gladly.

ThatCyanCat · Yesterday 16:10

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But plenty of women are sure and turn out to be wrong. So I ask again: what is the exact point, that we can apply equally across the board with no confusion, where a man, and not the woman he is with, becomes responsible for his own dick?

Lalgarh · Yesterday 16:19

Mangan review

https://www.theguardian.com/tv-and-radio/2026/may/19/the-dark-side-of-married-at-first-sight-review-panorama-documentary-allegations

"..There is enough in this half-hour programme to fuel a hundred, a thousand documentaries. And that’s before you factor in the responses proliferating on social media: that the women’s “failure” to report the attacks to police means that they are liars in pursuit of lucrative compensation claims, that going on a reality show means that you are an attention-seeker who has just found another way to seek it (or that you, somehow, deserve everything you got), that a man’s decision not to pull out is a meaningless act, and so on and on – and what they tell us about sociocultural attitudes and sexual politics today.

The programme itself is largely concerned with timelines – when did CPL and Channel 4 know which allegations, when should filming or broadcasting have been stopped – and what duty of care is owed by commissioners and programme-makers to their contributors. This is surely what will most concern the people carrying out the external review into contributor welfare that was commissioned last month and the lawyers doubtless massing around the companies and individuals concerned.

For those watching, however, the takeaways might be slightly different. Those entirely unfamiliar with the show might be boggling at the very idea of it. Those more jaded might limit themselves to sighing at the notion that any amount of pre-show vetting, welfare and psychological support (and CPL says its protocols are “gold standard” and “industry-leading”) can guard against harm in a situation where strangers of the opposite sex are put together, isolated from friends and family, required to take part in “games” (such as ranking the attractiveness of other contestants in front of partners) that increase volatility, and are subject to intense pressures to perform in all sorts of ways they might otherwise be able to resist. And all in a world where violence against women and girls from men is rampant and so widely tolerated as to be largely invisible and virtually decriminalised.

If this is the end of MAFS, I’ll be delighted. If it’s not, I won’t be at all surprised."

The Dark Side of Married at First Sight review – there is enough awful detail here to fuel 1,000 more exposés

The allegations of rape and sexual assault in this documentary about the Channel 4 series are hugely troubling and revealing. Surely this is the end for MAFS?

https://www.theguardian.com/tv-and-radio/2026/may/19/the-dark-side-of-married-at-first-sight-review-panorama-documentary-allegations

Thindog · Yesterday 16:32

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Ihateboris · Yesterday 16:34

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Holy shit. Victim blaming at its finest. I truly hope nothing ever happens to you or any of your female family/friends.

Oasisinthearea · Yesterday 16:37

Ihatetomatoes · Yesterday 09:15

Indeed, viewing pleasure before raped women and vulnerable 'contestants'.

Its horrible to believe that people put their TV enjoyment over real people's dreadful experiences.

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To be fair, the allegations are very recent. We didn’t know all this was going on did we

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