AIBU to think my husband's cricket takes up too much time?

[cricketwidow12]

Is this too much cricket? My husband absolutely adores playing cricket. He goes to train once a week (and pub afterwards), and one day at the weekend (could be Saturday or Sunday). As the Sunday games are a full day, he's usually gone by 11am and not back till 8pm, or later. We have a lovely 6 year old son and whilst I want my DH to be happy, I do think it's a bit much sometimes. This Saturday e.g. he only came home shortly before midnight because they went for dinner afterwards. I know the season is short, but am I BU for finding this excessive?

A lot of people saying it’s seasonal but this is seasonal in the nicer seasons. Less of a pain if it’s winter that you’re missing out on doing your own thing. You could split out the weekend parenting but as already stated it’s nice to have a family day rather than each solo parenting on different days. So on that basis I think each parent having their own weekend day to spend as they please every fortnight works well. The tricky bit is his hobby is a team sport so it’s not really an option to participate at your own frequency. If it’s really important to him and you don’t actually have an activity in mind for yourself that you’re missing out on, try and make it work. But make sure you get that time to yourself back throughout the year. I think it’s important that parents maintain their hobbies and interests, and if you’re all having your main meal together every week day then that’s at least some family time no matter how the weekend is taken up.

She said she finds it incredibly boring, so would I. Does that change your suggestion at all?

You need to volunteer at your husband's sport to be 'kept busy'?have you no job or interests of your own?

God I remember these days. My husband was obsessed with playing. He was semi professional in his young days and when we met (later in life <cough>) he was the cricketing star of our city.
I foolishly tried to ban him from playing when the children came along but absolutely failed! It had been his passion forever and though it irritated the shit out of me (training once or twice a week, playing every weekend..) I could see how happy it made him
He 'retired' last year and hasn't t played since apart from, coincidentally, this evening and to be honest I'm pleased. It makes him happy.
The kids didn't suffer for this - in fact play as well and seem to love it - and his tales...
I have my hobbies too and it works for us.
Having said that, I do feel for you. It's dull as fuck and I don't even pretend to understand it!

My recommendation as a cricket widow for many many years is to go with him, home matches and away. Once I started going I got to know the other players their families. Kids started playing with other and we regularly had over 10 kids having fun outside all season. We took stuff for them to do, games, crafts, plenty of snacks and I wouldn't have it any other way now. We formed the women's softball team. Most of the kids play as well now, a few at county level and spend most evenings at some sort of match! It's exhausting and I barely sit on my sofa all summer but the it's a great for the kids and me.

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Does you 6 year old do any activities that your DH could get involved in?

my 2 (9&5) are out every day at various clubs. My DH helps manage the 9’s football teams and 5’s cricket matches. So while it’s not “family time” going the park or whatever it’s still active in their hobbies. We only do family days out on 1/2 terms because are weekends are taken up with kids hobbies and then we both have season tickets for premier league football teams (different ones) so one of us is always at the match with one kid (9 goes with DH, 5 comes with me)