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Original poster

I am feeling a sort of hate towards a girl and her mother...

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pointydog · 21/06/2008 21:17

I really think I am getting to an unreasonable stage.

There's a girl in dd1's class who is a nasty person and has at times made dd1 (and others) very miserable. She dominates the class. I have felt a simmering anger towards her on a few occasions.

ANyway. It was her birthday. She invited loads of people but not dd1 because she is always excluded. That's fine.

AT her mega sleepover she put on Saw (18 horror) for the group of 11 and 12 yr olds. I feel like dobbing her in it. Tell me to stop, switch off and stop being childish.

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thebecster · 21/06/2008 21:18

Saw???? For 11-12 year olds? If I was one of the mothers' I'd want to know. There is no way under 18s should be watching that.

Flashman · 21/06/2008 21:19

Dob her into whom?? I would be surprised if she rented the film herself.

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pointydog · 21/06/2008 21:19

exactly. Saw. I can't watch horror films but I'm aware of how horrible it is meant to be. But I need to be rational.

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lazarou · 21/06/2008 21:19

That film is so nasty. I can't watch things like that. The Ring was bad enough when that girl comes out of the tv. I have to sleep with the light on.

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pointydog · 21/06/2008 21:20

dob her in (and her awful mother) by slipping into conversation with other mums of the invited children what film they watched

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OrmIrian · 21/06/2008 21:20

Tell on her! Dob her in!! That's horrible. I am always shocked by how many children seem to be allowed to watch awful stuff.

woodward · 21/06/2008 21:20

mmm....think id feel the same if some little s**t was making my childs life a misery. Its bloody hard to bite your tongue sometimes...

jammi · 21/06/2008 21:21

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poppy34 · 21/06/2008 21:21

sounds like your dd best off out of it - this girl sounds like a piece of work. I assume that she isn't making dd miserable on an ongoing basis and dd understands that this girls behaviour is a bit spiteful.

Hate may be bit strong but can certainly see why you wouldn't be exercising the warmest and cuddliest feelings.

not sure what you can do about showing inapproporiate film at sleepover as presumably her parents were in the house and may have known about this (or not cared).

lazarou · 21/06/2008 21:21

I thought you meant the mother put it on and I was trying to think who youe were going to dob her in to!!!!

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pointydog · 21/06/2008 21:21

Orm, don;t use exclamation marks with me. I'm trying to think calm blue water and quell my bad feelings

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Flllight · 21/06/2008 21:21

We watched a Nightmare on Elm St at my friend's 12th birthday party. Loads of us freaked very badly, our mums were all ringing her parents for weeks...she was the local GP's daughter, she is still the same hilarious weirdo she was then and I love her for it

But I agree they were too young for that film if it's an 18. Who would you dob to?

Be glad your DD wasn't there. That's something.

lilolilmanchester · 21/06/2008 21:22

Sounds just as well your DD is not in her clique then.....

OverMyDeadBody · 21/06/2008 21:22

Who would you dob her in to though? Surely the other kids told their parents so they know?

Just be glad your DD wasn't invited and make sure you and your DD have nothgin to do with them.

But don't waste your valuable energyfeeling hatred towards them. Be the better person and feel nothing towards them instead.

lazarou · 21/06/2008 21:23

Anyway, don't say anything, you'll just give this girl more ammunition.

meemar · 21/06/2008 21:23

I don't think watching 18 horror movies at a sleepover at that age is too uncommon tbh.
I can't stomach horror films now because I watch too many at an innappropriate age.
It wouldn't be wrong to tell the mother though - I'd want to know if it was my child

However, If this girl is deliberately unpleasant to other kids , including your dd, that's a separate issue and YANBU to dislike her. (although hate is quite strong!)

Flllight · 21/06/2008 21:23

Btw the parents didn't bat an eyelid, their kids were very, very resilient and just thought those films were funny!

I remember hanging around behind her sofa while it was on, wanting to go home

OrmIrian · 21/06/2008 21:23

Sorry pointy! Usually I keep my exclamation mark impulses under control but I hate horror films and wine has been taken.

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pointydog · 21/06/2008 21:24

Re dob - to the other children's parents. In a 'oh I heard about...' sort of way. And no, I'm pretty sure a lot of them will not be telling their parents. Even the girl who felt physically sick and phoned to go home didn't tell her mum why.

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KatieDD · 21/06/2008 21:24

I would be making sure the other mothers in the playground and the teachers know, feigning concern.
Be glad your child isn't one of the chosen ones, I bet they were terrified.

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pointydog · 21/06/2008 21:25

yeah. I should get over it.

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Flllight · 21/06/2008 21:25

Don't mention the Ring!!!

We were clearing our new garden the other day and guess what, there was a huge concrete circle under the weeds, f*ck knows what it is for, underneath is just mud and weeds - no hole or anything

I am not going to be able to sleep now.

Arghhhh

why are we moving there..

Heated · 21/06/2008 21:25

I don't think any dobbing in will be necessary Pointydog, the night-terrors will tell their own story!

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pointydog · 21/06/2008 21:26

dd1 is a big wuss. She would never have been able to watch it. She's no regrets at all at not being there

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lazarou · 21/06/2008 21:26

Jeepers Creepers scares me too