Would you go on holiday with your adult daughter?

[wanderlustdiaries]

I’m in my 20’s, mum is in her 60’s.

I’ve asked her if she wants to go on a girls trip at the end of the year. 4 nights in a city in Europe (we’ve not chosen yet).

Would you do this? I don’t know if It seems a little odd to do or if it’s totally normal.

I don’t have a daughter but I holiday once every year with my 28 year old son. My husband (son’s dad) and son’s partner don’t come. But the four of us have just spent a week in Cyprus together as well.

I’m late 50s, and my daughter in her 20’s, we do city breaks often, and are having a weeks beach holiday this year. Can’t wait. Totally normal imo. Hope you enjoy as much as we do.

Lovely idea. Go and enjoy.

I wouldn’t have done that with my mum .
But I’d do this with one of my daughters

I'm so sorry about your mum..... there are lots of exotic holidays as well as short European mini city breaks especially for single 'SOLO' travellers all in the same boat as you. Do a Google search. Some are designed ONLY for youngsters in their twenties. At the end of the break usually found most of you all have made friends and join WhatsApp groups and keep in touch and may even find a few who would love to find someone to accompany them on a future holiday. (Probably be more fun than going with your mum as well!). Please don't be sad x

My two ds both joined a walking group made up mainly of singles that go on camping holidays as well. I say mainly, because ds1 has recently introduced us to his girlfriend that he met through this interest.
Go solo for a while following your own interest and make the most of being able to only consider your own likes.

I would love this!

I think it is weird if your mum won't travel without your dad! My DH and I have different hobbies and it's great that we can both have a couple of days away without the other, occasionally. My DC are a bit older than you but I would love a city break with any of them. It was a lovely suggestion you made and I'm sorry your mum's reaction has spoilt it. I have also had solo days out, meals and cinema trips with my DC.

Sounds lovely. Hope you both have a wonderful time 😊

Don't feel bad, it's her loss! I'd go on holiday with you if I knew you 😂maybe tell her you feel a bit hurt though. I do believe in being open about stuff like that.

I wouldn't go away with my mother but she is tied at the hip with my dad. Even when my first child was born they only both came for the weekend and went back home because my dad was still working (he still works actually, in his 70s). My mother hasnt worked since I was 16 (I'm 40 now) and has never come to see us alone. Money is no object at all for them. Both fit and healthy. It is what it is. I don't think I'd enjoy going away with her that much, we're not close.

I do hope I stay close to my own girls and that they will want to go away with me.. I'd ditch the husband for a weekend away with my girls in a heartbeat!🤣🤣🤣 They are a lot more fun than he is. My oldest is my best bet, she's a home bird and has already decreed she will look after us in our old age lol my middle child is chaotic and would dump me in the middle of nowhere because something else attracted her and she'd forget me. My youngest is a liability but i guess it'd be fun... My boy is a mummy's boy but he's still young. With a bit of luck he may be interested in weekends away with me when he's older.. i can dream anyway 😍

I am in my 40s and it doesn’t seem unusual to me, friends go away with their mums all the time

my dm and I don’t get on so I wouldn’t, but have been on holiday many many times with my dad, including as an adult.

My mum and I used to go away every year together. They are my best memories of her now she is no longer with me. Go for it and spend as much time as you can with your mum.

It's not at all tragic to go alone! Please go and have a great time. Others have suggested some great companies if you don't want to go totally solo

Also, are you sure she hasn't declined because your dad wouldn't be happy with her going? My dad is very much like that and doesn't like my mum going away without him. There is also another couple in my family where the man is similar, although he has had to get used to it as his wife just does it anyway. There was some hardcore guilt tripping at the start though

In 1969 I had to help my mum get a passport in order to take her away on hols. We did quite a few hols together before she died (too young) at 61. I even got her as far as Tangier. With my own daughter, before the DGS (aka wunderkind) was born & she married the best DSILITW, we went to Cuba together. Then we set a habit of a city-break in a different foreign city every year. We had a wonderful time everywhere we went. Do do it.

No. You don't have to go alone. There are several companies which specialise in people (mainly women) travelling on their own.They are great. I've done several - with JustYou and OneTraveller, Saga also do Single Traveller holidays. Also, (but only once because SO EXPENSIVE but so lovely) I went with Martin Randall Travel.
I was a widow and my daughter was single when we travelled together. Now she's got her DH and DC. That's fine/lovely. I'm now mainly back to travelling alone. This year: I'm off next week on a foreign trip with my choir; in October I'm going on my annual "balcony, sea-view, just read books" solo holiday in Spain. Next year I'm planning a OneTraveller river cruise down the Rhone via Eurostar. It's all out there waiting for you. Get yourself started. Go on.

Dd and I are planning a trip to the Loire valley next year (late this) I think it’s a normal thing to do. We won’t take my mum because she doesn’t like wine and that’s mostly what we’ll be doing!

I’m going away on a European city break with my daughter later this year and looking forward to it. We had a few days in London last spring and it was lovely

Absolutely x Go and make some amazing memories

Trust me no one is going to look down on you !

go for it, sounds wonderful and you don’t have long to be able to keep making memories.

I have photo books made up after each of my travels because one day I won’t be able to go, having these books is a great keepsake.

My mom was a dementia patient and I had her desktop computer screen saver set up with rotating photos of her family and places she had been.

she remembered every single one of them through out her illness. it makes a difference to someone when they could be in care and not able to leave.

Just back from 2 weeks in America with my 18 year old (I’m 62). Best days…

@wanderlustdiaries lovely idea OP. My mum comes on holiday with me and my dc a lot.

Yes I definitely did trips with my mum when younger. Not so much now I have a DH and DC, as I like to have trips with DH if there’s any chance of child-free time. We do shared holidays with both my parents and in-laws though.

I’m off on an overseas trip this weekend with my daughter, just the 2 of us. I’m mid 60s (married) and she’s mid 30s (single). We did a similar trip a few years ago. We enjoy each other’s company and get on well.
And our husband/dad is happy to leave us to it 🙂

I’ve just read your updates and I’m sorry that’s happened. As others have mentioned, there are lots of other options of travel groups for women and I’ve heard great things about them - and wonderful friendships have been formed too.

Oh I'm so sorry your mum was so ungracious about it. And so inhibited that she can't take a 4 day break without your dad!

Seems like you need better mates as well. As others have said, why don't you join a travel group.

There's no way on earth I would spend 4 days one on one with my mother (jeez I'm breaking out in a sweat just thinking about it!). But if my (20 something) daughter asked me to go away I'd be delighted. Times change.